I am depressed, zero motivation to find work and no direction in life. Advice?

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I am 63 years old and I have no idea what to do with my life. Because of this, I am depressed, lacking motivation and have no direction in life .

I live with my wife, but I don't want to be living with her. I would much rather be out in the real world on my own living an independent life

I feel like a ****ing loser to be 63, living at home with my wife and employed full time, it's a **** situation to be in but people don't understand when you have a mental illness how hard it is on a person.

Sometimes I just feel like crying. I am a grown 63 year old guy and I want to cry. I have zero social life, very few friends because I have grown apart and distanced myself from people, so I pretty much live in solitude when I am not at work.

Do I want this life? Of course I don't, but I don't know how to change. Each day, week, month seems to pass so fast and next thing I am a year older with still no direction.

I am frustrated and annoyed at myself too for not changing, but it's hard when you have nothing worthwhile or good in your life. No family, No friends, No girlfriend or even female friend, no freedom, no career or life goals etc.

What do I do? All I can do is ask questions on here to a bunch of strangers who don't really know, nor care too much, but I have no one else to turn to, so...
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I was like that at one point I felt like I couldn't do anything and wondered why everyone else had friends and skills. I am still highly anxious but since I randomly decided to have a riding lessons I found something to live for. I now have something I'm good at because I've practiced it so much and I have something I can make into a career. I still struggle on making friends but now I have horse friends so I don't feel like I'm missing out. I would suggest looking around for something you can become passionate about even if it seems like something you would never be good at (I was terrified when I first rode) or something that you believe you can't make a career out of you can. Start out by getting involved and trying out new things and when you find something you enjoy see if you can volunteer or get involved more. Even if you can't get a career out of your interests at first, having them will motivate you to learn more which will eventually give you the experience to allow you to make a career out of it.
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Most people will go through this at least at one point in their life if not more I know I did. What I will say is that motivation doesn't just materialize from the air. Motivation involves several steps the first step is intention such as the intention to change. The next step is defined action and through consistent application of that action comes the motivation to maintain. But to reach that stage you have to break through ur own behavioral patterns and perception of what u can and can't do.

I used to view things from an existential perspective but that only gets u so far before u begin going round in circles getting nowhere. Now even if I'm faced with a task that I don't feel is fulfilling at all. I focus on the fact that it's still valuable in that it's helping to develop my commitment and overall work ethic. Which I used to have a lot of issues with and drives me further and further away from who I used to be.

I also try to view things from a longer-term perspective rather than just focusing on what I'm doing now and thinking too much about how I feel about it within that moment. Instead, I focus on what it will do for me in the long run which helps when I'm having to work through stuff I'd rather not. To me, life is about building satisfaction in what I've done rather than trying to attain happiness itself as it's so unreliable and short-lived. Even when I'm depressed I can still look back on what I've done and the progress I've made and gain solace even just a little.

Lastly, self-pity is something that's incredibly easy to indulge in and whilst it's painful it's also very comfortable. I'd recommend u stop thinking so much and just start doing more; I know that's a lot harder then it sounds but this is a hard process best of luck.

Edit: didn't look at how old this thread was before posting -_- my bad
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I know how this can feel, and it can be a very lonely place. I've gone through difficult times and i am going through something similar right now, and i highly recommend Jordan Peterson. Give his videos a chance, because they have allowed me to deal with my suffering and working my way out.

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I am 63 years old and I have no idea what to do with my life. Because of this, I am depressed, lacking motivation and have no direction in life .

I live with my wife, but I don't want to be living with her. I would much rather be out in the real world on my own living an independent life

I feel like a ****ing loser to be 63, living at home with my wife and employed full time, it's a **** situation to be in but people don't understand when you have a mental illness how hard it is on a person.

Sometimes I just feel like crying. I am a grown 63 year old guy and I want to cry. I have zero social life, very few friends because I have grown apart and distanced myself from people, so I pretty much live in solitude when I am not at work.

Do I want this life? Of course I don't, but I don't know how to change. Each day, week, month seems to pass so fast and next thing I am a year older with still no direction.

I am frustrated and annoyed at myself too for not changing, but it's hard when you have nothing worthwhile or good in your life. No family, No friends, No girlfriend or even female friend, no freedom, no career or life goals etc.

What do I do? All I can do is ask questions on here to a bunch of strangers who don't really know, nor care too much, but I have no one else to turn to, so...

Sorry to hear about your suffering, i too have gone through difficulties. I want to remain anonymous as i want to repost the video again from the personal post above.

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The reality is no one is going to save you OP, you have to save yourself. You have to seriously sit down with pen and paper and create a plan on how you are going to get out of this situation, once you've made a plan, get another piece of paper and make a second plan incase the first does not work.
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You have no idea just how well I understand you, my situation is so similar except for few (perhaps important, perhaps not even that important) details.

I'm basically living with a family member (broken family) and I'm a graduate with 1 prior experience in financial services (it was bad, my manager was a bully). I have only just now managed to secure another role after months of unemployment but I am not even sure if I am going to take it as it is abroad and I am getting really lonely and homesick (it's ridiculous to be like this in mid-20s but here I am - I wasn't like this when I left for university at 19). If I don't move I'm going to regret missing this opportunity, if I do take this opportunity I'm going to miss my family member and not be able to save a lot of money and will have to build new relationships in an unknown place (not that I have many friends at the moment). I could not find anything locally.

So in total - I can empathise with a lot of what you have just outlined. I am about to give up on my previous career goals as it is not what makes me happy at all, meanwhile time flies by and we're getting older. What I would want is a stable prosperous life and a family - no idea how to actually achieve it (I even applied for trainee manual and admin positions locally just to make my life easier for once but wasn't accepted).
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Hi, reading about you I have found out that this is the same situations right now with me.
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I am 25 years old and I have no idea what to do with my life. Because of this, I am depressed, lacking motivation and have no direction in life.

I just feel so down at the moment, it's hard to focus properly right now. I have no one to turn to for advice, no one understands and just thinks I am lazy etc.

I live with my parents, but I don't want to be living with my parents, I would much rather be out in the real world on my own living an independent life. I feel like a ****ing loser to be 25, living at home with parents and unemployed, it's a **** situation to be in but people don't understand when you have a mental illness how hard it is on a person.

Sometimes I just feel like crying. I am a grown 25 year old guy and I want to cry. I have almost zero social life, very few friends because I have grown apart and distanced myself from people, so I pretty much live in solitude 24 hours a day, 7 days a week.

Do I want this life? Of course I don't, but I don't know how to change. Each day, week, month seems to pass so fast and next thing I am a year older with still no direction.

I am frustrated and annoyed at myself too for not changing, but it's hard when you have nothing worthwhile or good in your life. Very little family, hardly any friends, no girlfriend or even female acquaintances, no job, no career or life goals etc.

What do I do? All I can do is ask questions on here to a bunch of strangers who don't really know, nor care too much, but I have no one else to turn to, so...
Hi , it seems that you what to change your life for the better which is really good,some people find it inspirational listening to Jordan Peterson on YouTube so it may actually help you too.
Start with the small things, organise yourself , keep active such kickboxing or a sport which is intense, reduces stress and makes you feel great even if you don`t feel like and also exercise improves concentration and mood in general.
Find jobs that you would like doing and call them if they have a phone number with the add.
When you go over this depression you become much stronger and as you said you want to change your situation means you have hope and only you can help yourself.

Force yourself out in doing this even if you don`t feel like doing that thing, this helps as you get things done and it doesn`t matter how small is that thing, cleaning , shower and so on.
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Hey OP
I'm exactly the same, can I just ask, do you stay in bed all day watching vids on your laptop or wan*ing off lots to porn? Are you a virgin still?
Which area of the country are you in? PM me
Are you gay ?
What's your ethnicity?
PM if you don't wanna talk on here.
Im a lot older than you but am stuck in a rut and have started seeing a therapist privately.
Luckily my family is well off and can afford to keep me, and they don't care I don't work as they think i am mentally ill and shouldn't !!
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This Christmas I pray that all your debts are slowly paid and you will have a job that gives you and others happiness , and also let’s all take small steps from here and keep on going although is hard , anxiety is very difficult emotion that will totally put anyone in panic mode but there will be hope always , just keep on going and keep being kind ( u helped someone here to feel better by reading your post ) , you can do it too 💪 I’m also suffering from anxiety and is hard to go work with anxiety and fear of having toxic workmate for my new job ( I hope they will be kind) Wish me luck but all I can do is to keep going forward and try to do good deeds whenever I can , I’m not sure if I’m helping but iHope it does , Sincerely hope the best blessing for u and others 🌷🌷
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I'm in this situation right now. Except: I'm 29, and had a series of major life events happen to me. My partner left me after 6 years, I'm in mountains of debt, and I was then sacked from my recent job, after not meeting targets. This led to me been on benefits which didn't even cover my essential living costs. I was left struggling, and was by virtue of this, forced to move back in with my Mum, as it was that, or sleep rough on streets.

Its a difficult time to grow up in the UK as a young person, particularly in your 20s.

I've a degree, which I feel has been practically useless in getting me any employment, if anything, my work experience has helped the most. However, I don't have very varied experience, which has also limited me, in terms of been able to talk at interviews.

By the time I'd finished University, I had lost all passion for my subject also, and didn't want to go into my field.
So my degree became just an exercise in ticking the 'Do you have a degree?' box on applications. Even then, it isn't one of those degrees that seems appealing to most graduate schemes.

I'm currently on Jobseekers at the moment, but yet to get my first payment, so close to Christmas.

I've no answer, but seeing this thread has cheered me up a bit. I'm not alone at least.

I hope you found everything you wanted OP and more. Whether thats help from your GP, or a new hobby or interest. Keep going.
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This is my current predicament.....I'm 27.
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I am basically the same way. I'm 26, almost 27. I've been pretty unmotivated for a long time, if I'd say way I started to become my lazy unmotivated fatass self starting back in high school. I always half assed my schoolwork, and never really did homework, or just did it so fast while still in class. I've never read a full book in my entire life. I was homeschooled as a kid up until high school. I taught myself to read by sending email to some of my crushes when I was about 12-13 years old. I played basketball for a homeschooling team, and most of my crushes played for the girls homeschool team. One of them eventually became my girlfriend, but we never really did anything serious. She lived in a town over, so I couldn't really travel to see her that often. I'd see her usually 1-2 times a week, but didn't get to hang out as much as I would've liked. She ended up breaking up with me a few months later, but I didn't take it too badly. I didn't even really cry or felt too heartbroken. To this day I am sadly still a Virgin, and have yet to even have my first kiss. That is so embarrassing to admit.



Back then I was actually pretty skinny, but I still hated running a lot. I think that was due to having flat feet. But I still loved to play sports, but basketball was the only sport I ended up playing on a team for. I played basketball from when I was probably 13 until after my freshman year of high school. Due to the freshman year being my first year in public school, and having really half assed doing any schoolwork even back when I was homeschooled, I struggled with some of my grades, and sadly that ended up being the reason I didn't make the basketball team during my freshman year. It most definitely wasn't because of my lack of basketball skills, because I know for a fact I was better than quite a few kids that made the teams. I was actually heartbroken about not making the team. I was in the basketball class all year with the coach of the team, I was better than quite a few of the kids there, but year I didn't make the team. Because of that, and still having the basketball class still on my school schedule, along with a couple other kids who didnt make the team (they werent that good honestly), i had to still attend practices, but we were not allowed or given the opportunity to participate in the practices all basketball season. So we ended up getting out of shape, because they wouldn't let us participate, even though we wanted to. So due to it being the first time since I was a kid, i wasn't allowed to play basketball, or even participate in exercising with the team for the entire basketball season. I ended up gaining like 20lbs or so during that time. I'm not exactly sure how, asides from not exercising. Well when the season ended, we were allowed to exercise with the team again. This time it was much harder for me, and I still kept gaining weight. I think I started my freshman year at around 165-175lbs, and ended the year at around 190-195lbs. Some muscle, but mostly fat. Well after my freshman year, and all the remaining years of high school, I only did PE. I no longer played or tried to play for the basketball team. So I kept gaining weight. During my sophomore year, I was in a PE class that mainly played basketball, and the PE coach was the varsity basketball coach. He liked me, and a couple others in the class. During the summer between my sophomore and junior year, I turned 17, and on my birthday I got my first ever job at taco bell, thanks to my parents help. They had a connection from a higher up guy from their church, he was with this local company that was running these taco bells in my area. Anyway, during my open house for my junior year just after getting my first job, the varsity basketball coach sees me, and asked me to be the manager for the varsity basketball team. Sadly I chose to decline since I just got this job. Well I stayed at taco bell until I was 20, and then I quit and was jobless for months until I turned 21, and got a job with my only remaining friend after high school. He was a manager at my local burger King. Once again, I just got this job handed to me, didn't even have to interview. Sadly, 5, almost 6 years later, I'm still working there. My friend left years ago, and I became a shift manager. My friend and I have been pretty distant, and barely talk or see each other anymore, despite nothing much has changed for either of us. BTW, I should probably mention that my lazy unmotivated fatass had never worked a full time (40 or more hours) week in my life. I don't even think I've worked more than 30 hours in 1 week before. How is that even possible for someone my age?



I still live at my moms house, aka my childhood home from when I moved here on my 7th birthday until now. I've sadly never moved out. As I said plenty of times, I'm an unmotivated fat lazy ass. I've never known what I've wanted to do with my life. And until the past year, I had never really done any drugs. But over that past year, I've been using weed, and even did a beginner dose of shrooms (I did 2.5g) once, and have done microdoses (maybe 50-75ug) of LSD twice recently. The second one was kinda bad. I was having some sad, dark (not super dark though), and lonely thoughts during it. I thought maybe taking those might show me something I needed to see, but they didn't really do that for me. One possible reason being that they weren't big enough doses. Oh well.



Anyway, as I said, I've never really known what I wanted to do in life, so I never really ended up having any goals in life, and thus I have done absolutely nothing since I graduated high school to improve my life. Even through HS, I was too embarrased to ask out my crushes, both of which I knew liked me. I was a coward, and too afraid to ask them, because I didn't have a car, and my parents (mainly my dad) was pretty strict about dating, and I guess that sadly was stuck in my mind. So even if I did ask them out, I had it in my mind that I wouldn't know how I would even be able to go out on dates with them, and told myself that neither of my parents would take me to go on dates with these girls, I also didn't know how I would get money either. I now see those were stupid excuses that my lazy unmotivated ass was coming up with. I couldve mowed lawns, and should've probably told somebody about these girls i was interested in. But i didn't really have friends, and I didn't ever talk to my parents or siblings about that stuff. Even my first and only girlfriend, I didn't even ask her to be my girlfriend neccesarily, but we both still considered ourselves bf and gf, even made it Facebook official. 😂



Here i am in my mid-20's now only realizing how stupid these past choices were. And yet, I still find myself unmotivated to doing much. I've always played video games, and even now I've become somewhat unmotivated to even play them. If I do play them, it's not even for that long anymore.



My parents divorced during my sophomore year. They were together for over 20 years. My dad is super religious, and was pretty strict about a lot of stuff. My mom less so, which is probably why I was able to halfass my schoolwork as a kid. I was kinda happy that a lot of the strictness went away when my dad moved out after the divorce, but i feel my life would've been more disciplined throughout my high school years if they wouldn't have gotten a divorce, and my life would've probably been different than what it is now. Because I guess you could say that video games and watching YouTube took over most of my life when I would come home after school, and definitely has always effected me not wanting to work more hours at my jobs. Sadly this is still pretty prevalent to this day. Yet I'm always finding myself unmotivated to change it.



I also have always had a terrible sleep schedule since graduating HS. I stay up all night, and don't go to bed until the morning. If I work, it's usually in the mid to late afternoon or nights, so on days that I work, depending on what time I come in, I usually wake up in the afternoon. If I don't work, I'll sleep until the evening. I've had so much trouble, and lack of motivation to fix my sleep schedule all these years. I kinda like it, because it gives me alone time so I can enjoy some things to myself, such as watching porn. I usually have to ejaculate 2 times daily. Sometimes more, but rarely less than that. I guess you could say I'm somewhat addicted to porn. I don't ever really feel much guilt afterwords anymore either. I honestly didn't discover masturbation until I was i believe around 15. I guess I like the privacy I have at night, because I never really had privacy growing up. I've always shared a room with a siblings. I had 5 other siblings, and have always shared a bedroom. Back when in high school I was sharing a bedroom with 3 brothers. To this day, I still share my bedroom with my older brother. He's a couple years older than me. He has always worked full-time, he's never had a problem working, and even moved out for a bit. But he came back, and still hasn't moved out either. Somehow he gets away with not paying rent. Same with my other 2 siblings that live with me here. They're both younger than us. My sister is bipolar, and has some other mental problems no thanks to hanging out with the wrong crowd when she got into high school. She used to be ok before then. My youngest brother who just graduated HS last year also still lives here, and I believe he works full-time, if not close to it. He seems to be in the best situation out of all of us living here. He's still young, and full of potential. He worked out and maintained good grades throughout HS. We all told him he should go to college, and not do what me and my other siblings did. He still has a big pack of friends, he was the only one of my siblings to attend public school from 1st-12th grade. Sadly he still hasn't done anything about college from what I know. But he's definitely ahead of me in life in quite a few ways.



My mother moved to another state for her job over a year ago, almost a year and a half now. She still owns the house, and visits here like 5 weeks in total throughout the year though. She's probably gonna end up selling the house sometime in the next couple of years I suspect. I really need to fix my life before then.



As I said, I've never really had goals in my life, but I do know that I should lose weight. I should also look for a better job. But I always find myself unmotivated to do anything about it. I should also fix my sleep schedule, but I find myself having trouble, or just unmotivated, because that would mean I won't have my privacy and alone time to masturbate, and do some other things. It's a constant cycle like this. I know it's just excuse after excuse. I know it's all pathetic. I know I'm a loser. I know i need to lose weight. I know I need to get a better job. I know I need to work an amount of hours that someone my age would normally work. But I just find myself so unmotivated to take the first step in doing anything to fix any of it. I just don't know how to get myself to stop being unmotivated and lazy.



I have never been to therapy, and I wish I would've gone to therapy when I was on my dads insurance plan, that ended when I turned 26. It wasn't until I was about to lose my dads health, dental and vision insurance plan that I started to really think about this deep stuff. I guess I just let my childish brain run too long, and now I feel super behind in life which just makes me feel super lonely. I'm seeing classmates, and former friends having families, and are what I would call a responsible adult. I am constantly finding myself envious of those people. Because I wish my life was like theirs. Because to me it seems like they knew what they were going to do with their life, and were able to go through with it, or at least make it in some way. And they were also able to find someone they love. When I feel envious about that, that's when I feel most lonely. Because I really want that. But during and after HS, I never did anything socially constructive, such as hanging out with people after school, going to parties, Going to clubs with friends. I never experienced what I feel like a lot of people have, that includes doing those things. Which really bums me out. I wish I had friends to hang out with, to party with, to get me out of my bubble, to get me out of my comfort zone so I would've grown up soon, and maybe found myself having goals, and maybe having a good life, and maybe I would've found the love of my life. But none of that happened, and I feel like ive missed out so much on life already, and I'm only 26 almost 27.



About 9-12 months ago, I discovered I have something called aphantasia, which basically means i can't visualize stuff, and i don't really have access to my minds eye, so I don't really have an imagination. I'm not sure if I'm fully aphantasic, but I do know that I lack an imagination. I have trouble imagining things, and visualizing things. I'm thinking of hiring a personal coach for a few sessions. He seems to be legit, and has had some breakthroughs with over 90% of the people he's coached.



Before I would do it, I feel like I need to quit using weed. Quitting weed would also probably help me get a clearer mind to start bettering my life, but yet I keep doing it. I need to quit if I want to ever get a new job, that way I can pass drug tests for any future jobs I go for. But I once again keep finding myself unmotivated to stop. I keep saying I'll stop after I'm done with this final cart that I have, but my brother leaves his almost empty ones out, and I sometimes take those. I gotta get better self control.



A few months ago I was trying to get myself to lucid dream, but nothing was working. I told myself I wanted to do this, and I know it takes time and effort. But eventually I found myself unmotivated once again, because nothing was happening after a few weeks. A few mostly successful methods to lucid dream involves visualizing things. And since I have aphantasia, I can't really do that. So thats just another thing that sets me back. When I was trying to get myself to lucid dream, I had a dream journal. I was remembering some of my dreams, and the longer I went without lucid dreaming the more I got unmotivated, and the less dreams I could remember until I eventually just stopped writing in my dream journal. The people that suggested dream Journaling also said after a while you would notice patterns, or things that just should be there in your dreams. None of that ended up happening. There was no patterns or noticeably unusual things that shouldn't be there in my dreams. So after a maybe a month or so, I started to use weed again at bed time, which basically makes it impossible for me to remember any dreams when I wake up anymore. And I've been smoking weed before bed for a while now. As I said, I should probably stop using weed, as I'm sure it's probably not helping my situation.



Sorry for the rant that went on and on about my life. I just needed to write it out and get it out there. I don't like feeling this way, a lonely, lazy and unmotivated life is a ****ty life. And it's not something I like at all. Hopefully I am able to get my head on straight soon.


Thanks to unemployment benefits because of the virus, I am getting an online therapist. Hopefully it helps. And I think I'll post this in the journal for them to see, hopefully it doesn't freak them out.
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I would love to know the OPs situation in life now. Reading all these replies and knowing there are others out there, with the EXACT same or even slightly worse struggles in life has weirdly given some hope to mine. Only difference maybe? I was a top achiever in school (an A* student) and have a science degree. I had high hopes and so did everyone around me for me. My main downfall was not knowing what to do in life, no aim or ambition, leading to studying something I had just picked at the last minute randomly. Obviously hated the course and dropped out, now left stranded doing nothing in life, living this way for nearly 3 years now, witnessing all my 'former friends' succeed and progress in life. Because of this, my biggest issue now - I feel left too far behind, it's too late in life to start something else, especially not knowing what in the world to do still. No confidence or self-esteem, scared to apply to anything new, put down when reading job specifications since I have no experience in anything. How to explain to potential employers about the wasted last few years? They wouldn't want a no lifer who has no ambition or will to try or evidence of any interest in anything. I have a few friends I still talk to on occasion, but never really share my feelings, because I will seem an even bigger loser- they'd never understand the mental issues and just think I'm being lazy or not trying, so no point. Still live at home with parents who try their best to motivate and support me but I see the hurt in their eyes knowing what a failure I have been in life. I am 25 and have just passed my third year of living my life in this way. Had so much potential, so popular in school, good all round in everything from studying, competitive sports and gaming, arts and crafts, good physicality and looks etc. Such high hopes breezing through my school years, now feel like a fully grown potato, lost all my interests and skills in my forever lasting purple patch. Feel so lost. Never had the balls for suicide after considering it a few times. But like I said, still fell 0.1% better knowing there's others out there. If only someone had the secret recipe to escape and wouldn't mind sharing..
Hey man. I am in the same situation as you and I am quite terrified of the future. Would you like to chat one day so that we can share our experiences with each other and hopefully help each other out.
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This thread is basically the first few searches that come up on google when I was looking for people in a similar situation as me. Very relatable. I graduated a year ago in Psychology with good grades (straight distinctions), ended up with some casual retail job because a bachelor's degree doesn't make me qualified to do anything related (and whoops, I'm not a permanent resident or citizen, just on a graduate visa). I had a decent amount of work experience back home like supporting autistic kids, retail and marketing, but the system there is different so I need smaller certificates to get it... (might as well not have a degree). I wanted to help people as part of my job (e.g. support worker, autism advisor), but no one would take me in.

After applying to a few jobs that didn't pan out, it just took a toll on my motivation to even apply for anything. Like what some of the people said here, looking at all that stupid job specifications that I'm not qualified for (e.g. 3 years of experience in administration), puts me off from applying because I feel like I'll have no chance at all. I feel like my resume would be immediately put into the trash pile. Job searching is indeed very draining and I can't seem to get anywhere close to editing my resume so that I can write cover letters to different places.

Honestly, we all need to push ourselves because that is the best way to get us out of the rut. But something I've realised while reading a book (The End of Procrastination by Peter Ludwig) tells me that one of the ways to get the motivation to stop procrastinating is having a community of people who has a similar mindset or goal as you.

You know the saying; Birds of the same feathers flock together? If your friends are all sitting on their ass doing weed, chances are, you'll be doing the same too. So having the right crowd to motivate you to do the right things is really important. However, realistically if you're like me, don't have friends around you to motivate you to do stuff, look into finding an online community of job searchers that would push each other to do just that. That's how I found this old forum post.

Can we just all band together and make a group where we would build a sense of camaraderie and push each other to be better and actually apply for jobs? I really need that in my life right now. Everyone else seems to be doing just fine, complaining about their jobs, while I sit here unemployed and not doing anything to better my circumstances. I need help, and I know you do too. Having a group of people in the same situation, working together towards a common goal, will help us to achieve something. We are all too good at giving advice and pushing others, but not doing the same to ourselves - let's change that. First, we have a plan, now we need a call to action.

And I'm just thinking - we need a subreddit. There's currently a subreddit called /jobs but I think we need to have one called /jobsearchers or something more specific about our situation. I see facebook groups for people trying to look for jobs, asking to be hired and their sad circumstances. But how about a group where we could actually uplift each other and be better? I can't create a subreddit at this moment since I don't have enough karma for that, but someone can. If you could do a simple thing such as creating a group, you are already taking the first step towards your goal. Come on, let's help each other and be better.
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Hey man. I am in the same situation as you and I am quite terrified of the future. Would you like to chat one day so that we can share our experiences with each other and hopefully help each other out.
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Can we just all band together and make a group where we would build a sense of camaraderie and push each other to be better and actually apply for jobs? I really need that in my life right now. Everyone else seems to be doing just fine, complaining about their jobs, while I sit here unemployed and not doing anything to better my circumstances. I need help, and I know you do too. Having a group of people in the same situation, working together towards a common goal, will help us to achieve something. We are all too good at giving advice and pushing others, but not doing the same to ourselves - let's change that. First, we have a plan, now we need a call to action.

And I'm just thinking - we need a subreddit. There's currently a subreddit called /jobs but I think we need to have one called /jobsearchers or something more specific about our situation. I see facebook groups for people trying to look for jobs, asking to be hired and their sad circumstances. But how about a group where we could actually uplift each other and be better? I can't create a subreddit at this moment since I don't have enough karma for that, but someone can. If you could do a simple thing such as creating a group, you are already taking the first step towards your goal. Come on, let's help each other and be better.
I'm not in the same situation, but I'd just like to second this as a really good idea for those in similar positions in life. I think it would be very effective and motivating to make such a group.
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Where are you now I am curious we are about the same age now. I wonder if you've found a path.....I've found patches but they don't seem to stick
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Hi I just came across your post. I’m in the same boat as you. Only I have a wife and kids and I can’t get motivated myself to work to provide for them. I feel totally screwed up. I was wondering how you have progressed since writing that post 6 years ago? Have things improved? What did you do?Be great to hear back from you if you’re still around.
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