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So my best friend since childhood has been going out with this guy for nearly a year now, but I found out recently that she's been cheating on him with other guys. I don't know what to do? Should I tell her boyfriend? Or should I let it go? I told her to come clean with her boyfriend about her disloyalty but she said that she won't do that. Her boyfriend is sweet and a great friend to me, it hurts to see her leading him on when she know it's going to hurt him bad. Any advice would be good.
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Tell him. He deserves to know.
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Tell him. He deserves to know.
I'm the only person that know about this, if he goes confronting her she'll obviously know its me who snaked on her. I don't want to lose her friendship either :s
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Do it
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Me thinks you won't be best friends for too long after this thread :holmes:
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I'm the only person that know about this, if he goes confronting her she'll obviously know its me who snaked on her. I don't want to lose her friendship either :s
Why?
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Can he not say that a friend of his saw her with somebody else? (Does she cheat on him when she's out in public pulling people in clubs etc, or is she more discrete about it?)

Also it says you found out she was cheating- are you 100% sure? I wouldn't risk their relationship or either of your friendships unless you're deadly sure.
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Well, this is a tricky one.

I'd be so disappointed if my close friends acted this way.

I guess it depends on your relationship with your best friends boyfriend. Are you two actually close? Are you genuine friends with him also?

If so, then as a friend to him, you do have some sort of duty and loyalty.

If he is just someone you know because of your best friend, then it becomes more difficult to make that judgement call.

Morally, yes, he has a right to know.

If you do tell him, you'd be ending your friendship with your friend.

I suggest that you keep on talking with your best friend and keep on trying to convince her to stop cheating on her boyfriend. Don't just stop cos she brushed you off once or twice.

If you care for her, then you'll keep on pointing out to her that this wrong. Hopefully the message gets through.
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Well, if he is your friend and you plan to stay in contact with him, then tell him.

Otherwise, mind your own business.
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(Original post by DorianGrayism)
Mind your own business.
If you were the bf, wouldn't you like to know?

OP, try and talk your friend into confessing or you will do it. It's just not fair on the bf and whilst I assume he hasn't cheated, he doesn't deserve it.
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Tell him but do it anonymously. ......:creep:
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(Original post by Cookie06)
So my best friend since childhood has been going out with this guy for nearly a year now, but I found out recently that she's been cheating on him with other guys. I don't know what to do? Should I tell her boyfriend? Or should I let it go? I told her to come clean with her boyfriend about her disloyalty but she said that she won't do that. Her boyfriend is sweet and a great friend to me, it hurts to see her leading him on when she know it's going to hurt him bad. Any advice would be good.
You're not going to be friends much longer I'm afraid...
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Tell him but do it anonymously. ......:creep:
This.

Also if you found out, doesn't it stand to reason someone else could, and eventually will? Especially if it's with multiple people?

She needs to come clean, because if she doesn't, he'll find out by another means anyway. This kind of thing has a nasty habit of coming out into the open and making trying to hide it bite you on the arse.
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If you were the bf, wouldn't you like to know?

OP, try and talk your friend into confessing or you will do it. It's just not fair on the bf and whilst I assume he hasn't cheated, he doesn't deserve it.
Sure, I would like to know a lot of things.

That is not the dilemma, though.

If she was close friends with the BF then I would understand. However, I doubt that is the case and it is not worth the fallout.
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Sure, I would like to know a lot of things.

That is not the dilemma, though.

If she was close friends with the BF then I would understand. However, I doubt that is the case and it is not worth the fallout.
Why would you want to be friends with someone who cheats with a lot of guys. I don't like cheaters and I think less of them.
That friendship ain't worth saving but in this particular case, they've known each other since childhood..so a few issues :/
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Why would you want to be friends with someone who cheats with a lot of guys. I don't like cheaters and I think less of them.
That friendship ain't worth saving but in this particular case, they've known each other since childhood..so a few issues :/
Sure, I agree. I wouldn't be friends with someone like that.

However, I was talking about the mutual friends group fallout. I cannot really be bothered with the drama.
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Don't tell him, but make her tell him herself.
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Surprised by the responses, I think you should always be loyal to your mates, even if they're in the wrong. I've known friends to cheat (though I've never really known the girlfriend), and I've encouraged them to fess up or break up, but never considered grassing.

Also, surprising how many people think she should just break up a friendship over this. Clearly doesn't mean much to some people to be a mate.
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(Original post by Mankytoes)
Surprised by the responses, I think you should always be loyal to your mates, even if they're in the wrong. I've known friends to cheat (though I've never really known the girlfriend), and I've encouraged them to fess up or break up, but never considered grassing.

Also, surprising how many people think she should just break up a friendship over this. Clearly doesn't mean much to some people to be a mate.
I couldn't agree more with your post. Every single part of it. Other replies have been surprising.

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I don't think you should get involved. But if you want some drama in your life then go ahead and do it.
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