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Should i tell her?

Hey Everyone

I have just finished my A-Levels and am planning on going to university this Summer the thing is i kind of like this girl, who is going to a completerly different university. We have known each other for about 2 years and only recently started getting close. But have never told each other how we feel, or if there is anything there. I really like her and think about her a lot, but is it worth the hassle of telling her how much i like her, only for us to go seperate ways in a few months, or should i just keep it to myself and move on??

Cheers for any Advice

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Reply 1
hey i personally would go and tell her, that way you would have no regrets thinking what if what if etc...coz me and my boyfriend been in the same secondary school since year 7 but now only this march we started going out in yr13. im not sure where it is going or what will happen when uni starts but thing is you still have a few months left so tell her and if it doesn't work out at least you won't see her much anymore now that schools over, right? Thats my opinion coz i was kinda in the same boat as you thinking its March whats he point if were jus gonna go different ways.
tell her tell her tell her!!!!!!! lol
Reply 3
Tell her!
Reply 4
I really want to tell her, but i just think that it will upset her a lot and myself when its time to leave, and she is really special person, and i dont want her thinking about things like that when she is starting Uni. I have come to tell her a few times over the past week, but then decided that mayby it was wrong to do so. Its to confusing.
Move on. You'll have thousands to choose from at university. Hundreds of them will be real relationship-material. And you can meet them easily - it just takes no more than a little effort.
nop i say if you like her tell her dont hold back as she might like u 2
Reply 7
sukhi31
nop i say if you like her tell her dont hold back as she might like u 2


Thats the Problem tho, im 95% sure she does, and so i know something will probably happen, which will make it all the harder to leave her:frown:
yes but you can meet up on the weekends and stuff or in the holidays, and you can phone, text, chat, email lots lol :-)
dnt worry tell her
Reply 9
how far are your unis aways from each other? different ends of the country or different regions or something? Wherever your relationship goes if you do tell her then its her choice whether she would want something out of it or think of uni time.
Reply 10
Thanks for the Advice, i think i will tell her, but you never know, i might not think its best when i go to.

The one thing im worried about is our Uni's are on the other side of the country to each other, so i dont want her thinking what im up to and me thinking what she is up to.

Complicated huh lol
lol well i dont think you should worry about that because if you like truly and she does to then you will be cool cause you guys will trust each other right and if anyone does do anything dogy the news will come sooner or later therefore both of you wont lol
good luck telling her :-)
Tell her! Two people in the year above got together literally just before they went to university and I think that's still going. You've got nothing to lose!
Anonymous
Hey Everyone

I have just finished my A-Levels and am planning on going to university this Summer the thing is i kind of like this girl, who is going to a completerly different university. We have known each other for about 2 years and only recently started getting close. But have never told each other how we feel, or if there is anything there. I really like her and think about her a lot, but is it worth the hassle of telling her how much i like her, only for us to go seperate ways in a few months, or should i just keep it to myself and move on??

Cheers for any Advice


Go on! Tell her. You only get one life, I mean think about it, what's the worst that could happen?:smile:
Complicated but not unsolveable =)

I recently started dating a guy i've been friends with for a while. We're both off to uni in September and want to stay together.

My advice would be to go for it, take each day as it comes, and see what happens. If things get difficult, as other people have said there's bound to be plenty of people at uni!

If you don't go for it, you'll possibly always wonder "what if..." Anyway Uni starts in October, so if nothing else happens, you'll probably end up having a fantastic summer together

:turtle:
Can you cope with a LDR? If yes, go for it. But if no, then is there any point going through the heart ache?
Schmokie Dragon
Can you cope with a LDR? If yes, go for it. But if no, then is there any point going through the heart ache?
:congrats:

Plus - the fact that the original poster needs to ask a bunch of people he doesn't know simply for motivation to talk to this girl suggests that he won't actually do anything when he gets the chance to reach an absolution with her.
Yaeh I'm in the same situation cept' I'm going to uni and she's doing another year at college. I'd tell her. You never know what might happen. With me she'll be in Sheffield and me in Leeds so it's not far. How far apart will you be?
trust me do it - this is happening to me i was debating telling her tonight but she couldn't make it so now i have to go the whole summer before i see her and then it would only be like a month and then different uni's - U WILL REGRET IT!
Reply 19
My friend got together with her bf the day before starting uni! They aren't as far apart as you, a couple of hours I think (I can't remember where he went) but they are still together. If you are going to miss her say something, you might get together then break up at uni causing yourself heartache but if you leave it you might spend ages wondering 'what if?'