is it fair?

ive been living with my boyfriend unofficially for a while and now that its the summer holiday i have moved in with him. the problem is that i dont have a job (not through lack of trying) and i feel really guilty about him buying all my food and taking me out and stuff. i hate the idea of moving back to my parents (we dont get on) and he keeps telling me he doesnt mind but am i being unfair to him?

Reply 1

Knight-of-Ni

2

if he doesn't mind, its ok... but can you not get yourself a job?

Reply 2

Anonymous #1

OP

i keep trying but i havnt gotten anywhere. i think i left it too late :frown:

Reply 3

mangomaz

14

Keep trying for a job, join a temping agency or something. I'm sure he doesnt mind but theres no harm in getting a job anyway, even if its for your own peace of mind. Good luck! :smile:

Reply 4

Anonymous #1

OP

mangomaz

Keep trying for a job, join a temping agency or something. I'm sure he doesnt mind but theres no harm in getting a job anyway, even if its for your own peace of mind. Good luck! :smile:

ive joined two :/

its not like im not trying to get a job. that would sort it out and i could start paying my way a bit more. what im trying to ask is if its fair on my bf to support me when i could go home to my parents? i feel im guilt tripping him into it. he knows how much i dont want to go home, which is why hes told me to stay but i know there are other things he could use that money for.

Reply 5

Alewhey

Men like being the Great Providers :biggrin:

However, if you feel you should contribute then you perhaps ought. He probably wouldn't like it if he found out you didn't like living off him, if you get me... he'll want you to be comfortable with your living arrangements.

Course if you can't get a job, there are other ways of repaying him... >_>

Reply 6

Jums

He gives you food and board.

You give him oral sex.

Sounds fair.

Reply 7

Anonymous #1

OP

Alewhey

Men like being the Great Providers :biggrin:

However, if you feel you should contribute then you perhaps ought. He probably wouldn't like it if he found out you didn't like living off him, if you get me... he'll want you to be comfortable with your living arrangements.

Course if you can't get a job, there are other ways of repaying him... >_>

he knows how i feel about it. hes even asked about at his office for me. he just keeps saying tht its ok.

hmmm other ways of repaying him... maybe i should learn to cook :p:

Reply 8

1013

1

I'm sure he means it when he says he doesn't mind but it isn't really fair all the same. There's not a lot you can really do if you can't get a job but keep trying. In the meantime, try and find nice things you can do for him to pay him back.

How old are you?

OP

Mad Caddie

How old are you?

19 but hes older

*waits for sugar daddy type jokes*

Reply 11

Anonymous #1

OP

looks like ive gotten a job near my parents. if i get it im going to move out :'( it will be worth it if i can put a good few hundred towards a car for my bf

is it fair?

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