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Im so gutted
My friend slept with the guy i like. I know i shouldnt feel jealous but ive liked him ages and she just walks in and basically offers him sex on a plate. Arghh i dunno. And we were gettin on so well, lots of flirting and i thought it might be goin somewhere positive...in fact he was still payin me attention today even after gettin with her... and we have to work together (all of us) and i agreed to do a few weeks work mainly with him and i cant back out without lookin like a spoilt brat but i reeeeaallly dont want him in my face now
Stupid, stupid feelings
Needed to spill my guts...sorry
Stupid, stupid feelings
Needed to spill my guts...sorry
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did she know you liked him?? shes not your friend if she did!!
It was meaningless sex. Some friend if she knew. I would be cautious as he could be a player. If he was looking for a quick fix what ashame to spoil the flirting with you. I'm afraid men think with their d**ks! Show them your not bothered, it will annoy them more! Also it could be rumours, she could be trying to put you off him when nothing may have happened.
talk to her about it, although if you have to work with her and it kicks off that may be a bit awkward! depends how close friends you are!
Claire8424
It was meaningless sex. Some friend if she knew. I would be cautious as he could be a player. If he was looking for a quick fix what ashame to spoil the flirting with you. I'm afraid men think with their d**ks! Show them your not bothered, it will annoy them more! Also it could be rumours, she could be trying to put you off him when nothing may have happened.
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Crikey, if your friend knew you liked him that's pretty harsh and I think that would make her quite a lousy friend. Obviously if she had no idea then she can't really be blamed, even though understandably you'd be upset. Sounds horrible
As for the guy, that's a bit insensitive of him if he was flirting with you after being with her the night before, even if it was just a one-night stand. Having said that, if he doesn't actually know that you were really interested in him, he may have just thought you wouldn't be bothered by it... a little thoughtless, but for some people flirting isn't a big deal at all and it's something they do with a lot of people without realising that the other person may be getting quite fond of them.
Whether your friend knows about your feelings for him or not, it might be quite a good idea to talk to her, if you feel close enough to her to be able to. It might help you feel less upset, just having it out in the open between you and her, instead of having to pretend that you're ok.
Hope that you feel better about this soon and stuff gets sorted out
As for the guy, that's a bit insensitive of him if he was flirting with you after being with her the night before, even if it was just a one-night stand. Having said that, if he doesn't actually know that you were really interested in him, he may have just thought you wouldn't be bothered by it... a little thoughtless, but for some people flirting isn't a big deal at all and it's something they do with a lot of people without realising that the other person may be getting quite fond of them.
Whether your friend knows about your feelings for him or not, it might be quite a good idea to talk to her, if you feel close enough to her to be able to. It might help you feel less upset, just having it out in the open between you and her, instead of having to pretend that you're ok.
Hope that you feel better about this soon and stuff gets sorted out
thanks everyone...sorry if i ramble ive been drowning my sorrows with a bottle of red...
yer i acted like i didnt give a damn around them, i would nt give em the satisfaction of thinkin i was hurt
she does know i liked him, that didnt stop her, and wat makes it worse is shes over here from portugal and didnt know anyone at all and i welcomed her into my circle of friends and made her one of the family and then she does this...stupid ****in tramp im never usually a bitch and i have never fallen out with a mate over a guy before but with this its like she just didnt give a **** if she hurt me
what am i gonna do!?
yer i acted like i didnt give a damn around them, i would nt give em the satisfaction of thinkin i was hurt
she does know i liked him, that didnt stop her, and wat makes it worse is shes over here from portugal and didnt know anyone at all and i welcomed her into my circle of friends and made her one of the family and then she does this...stupid ****in tramp im never usually a bitch and i have never fallen out with a mate over a guy before but with this its like she just didnt give a **** if she hurt me
what am i gonna do!?
I'm not a guy so if this is completely wrong I apologise! It doesn't necessarily mean he doesn't like you, he may have just seen her as a one night stand & is continuing to flirt with u cos he likes u. However to sleep with ur friend is mega-insensitive so he might be up for anything & would u want a guy like that. Seems very out of order of ur friend, especially if she's just come over. When she knew you liked him that seems mean.
Argghh i know! Shes such a ****ing slut! i would never do that on a friend. As for him ive no idea what to think. but hes probly a prick
Claire8424
It was meaningless sex. Some friend if she knew. I would be cautious as he could be a player. If he was looking for a quick fix what ashame to spoil the flirting with you. I'm afraid men think with their d**ks! Show them your not bothered, it will annoy them more! Also it could be rumours, she could be trying to put you off him when nothing may have happened.
I'm sorry, could you make a more sexist statement?
Sorry but she is in no way a friend!
It would be different if she didnt know you liked him but she did!
I would tell her how angry you are and tell him too! Make him know what hes missed out on
It would be different if she didnt know you liked him but she did!
I would tell her how angry you are and tell him too! Make him know what hes missed out on
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Yes, yes that's entirely true. Yes.
Tool.
Tool.
tbh fair there is a small minority of men who do just think with their cock. the majority of men only think with the cocks a little bit of the time
Claire8424
I'm afraid men think with their d**ks!
And I'm afraid you're an idiot if you are willing to generalise like that.
To the OP: You snooze you lose. It's a shame, but it's how things go. If your mate liked him then why should she have to wait and wait for ages until you decided to make a move? If you see a pair of jeans in a shop which you like but can't actually make up your mind and pick them up/buy them then you can't expect someone else who likes them to wait forever until you decide.
Tell your friend you're annoyed, but that's about all you can do. If she's going to keep seeing him then that's just how it is. If she doesn't, then you can decide whether you want to be with someone who slept with your friend as soon as the opportunity presented itself (despite the fact that you felt you and he had chemistry).
Next time you like a guy let him know before someone else can.
Yes, exactly. So she had meaningless sex... doesn't make her a slut. If it does then he's as big of a slut for accepting it. I suggest you cut these silly people out your life.
I'd just move on and leave them to it, i doubt them 2 will work anyway but it was horrible what she did but he was equally stupid to accept i guess it shows what sort of guy it is, be thankful it wasn't you, and if it doesn't work and he comes crying back to you, tell him where to get off.
Claire8424
I seem to have offended some people here. NOT ALL MEN think with their d**cks - just a generalisation of some of the ones I have interacted with. People insult me are just lowering themselves.
Then you should have phrased it along the lines of "some of the men I have dealt with think with their dicks. The majority don't"
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