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Ex has given me an STI

The idiot :frown: He lied to me saying that he'd not had sex without a condom before he slept with me (I was a virgin at the time) and now he's admitted that he slept with THREE girls unprotected before he met me. Now I've got an STI that won't go away ever. I know I was stupid and naive to believe him but I was only young and didn't see why I shouldn't trust him.

Now I've got to go to a clinic to get the rest of me checked. What happens at these places? I'm scared :frown:

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You can sue him. Case of a man in Croydon who gave people AIDs and was done for murder (I think).

In other news: What a scumbag.
Reply 2
I'm afraid you can't trust people. STI's are invisble. Next time you meet a guy get him tested if you want to use no condoms. It's not worth risking you fertility for.
dont worry hun, it happens to the best of us...it just shows you that boys are complete f***ers! have u been the clinic yet? they make u feel very comfortable, dont be scared. hey, and when u go the clinic they give u free condoms...bonus, so you'll never be put in this position again! i think u shud kick your ex in the balls really hard....at least that way he wont be able to do it again for a while hehe!
Reply 4
Take him to court.
Reply 5
Jonatan
Take him to court.


Could I really do that? Even though he had no idea that he had anything?
Reply 6
katiep99
it just shows you that boys are complete f***ers!


that's a bit of a generalisation now isn't it?! :hmmm:
Reply 7
Does he know he has an STI though? I think you should inform if he doesn't know, not fair to pass it on to other girls too.
Anonymous
The idiot :frown: He lied to me saying that he'd not had sex without a condom before he slept with me (I was a virgin at the time) and now he's admitted that he slept with THREE girls unprotected before he met me. Now I've got an STI that won't go away ever. I know I was stupid and naive to believe him but I and didn't see why I shouldn't trust him.

Now I've got to go to a clinic to get the rest of me checked. What happens at these places? I'm scared :frown:


erm does this post not make sence to anyone? or it it only me? it seems like this happend in the far far far away past.

also i have to say you have no one to blame but yourself. NO PROTECTION?!!!!!!! what the hell were you thinking?!!
Reply 9
PaulRevere
that's a bit of a generalisation now isn't it?! :hmmm:


Though literally true, in this instance.
Anonymous
The idiot :frown: He lied to me saying that he'd not had sex without a condom before he slept with me (I was a virgin at the time) and now he's admitted that he slept with THREE girls unprotected before he met me. Now I've got an STI that won't go away ever. I know I was stupid and naive to believe him but I was only young and didn't see why I shouldn't trust him.

Now I've got to go to a clinic to get the rest of me checked. What happens at these places? I'm scared :frown:

Righteo - get yourself treated and don't go spreading it. As long as it's not life-changing, it's no big. Just get it cleaned up.
Reply 11
Ron Stoppable
As long as it's not life-changing, it's no big. Just get it cleaned up.

She did say it won't ever go away...

Herpes?
Reply 12
Talya
She did say it won't ever go away...

Herpes?


Yeh :frown: although it's quite likely that he's given me other stuff too.

What happens at STI clinics?
They will probably take a blood test, maybe a urine sample and also a swab. Everything is professional and friendly, so don't worry about it.

They are good treatments for herpes now too, so though it won't go away, it won't be a big problem, for you.
Reply 14
Anonymous
Could I really do that? Even though he had no idea that he had anything?


If he had no idea that he had it, then there will very likely not be a conviction, unless it somehow the case made its way to the house of lords and they reformed the law...
Reply 15
Anonymous
The idiot :frown: He lied to me saying that he'd not had sex without a condom before he slept with me (I was a virgin at the time) and now he's admitted that he slept with THREE girls unprotected before he met me. Now I've got an STI that won't go away ever. I know I was stupid and naive to believe him but I was only young and didn't see why I shouldn't trust him.

Now I've got to go to a clinic to get the rest of me checked. What happens at these places? I'm scared :frown:


WOOPSY DAISY
Reply 16
KPeh
If he had no idea that he had it, then there will very likely not be a conviction, unless it somehow the case made its way to the house of lords and they reformed the law...


Provided that the sex was consensual, there would be no such recourse even assuming that he did infect her 'with malice a forethought'.
Reply 17
Profesh
Provided that the sex was consensual, there would be no such recourse even assuming that he did infect her 'with malice a forethought'.


Not since Konzani. The consent must be "informed and willing". So if the person with the STD knows of it and does not inform the partner, then they are guilty. If they do not know of it, then there is insufficent mens rea, so they are not guilty.
The guy deserves to have his manhood chopped off,

I dont think you can claim compensation because you had the choice of using protection and it isnt fatal...still go with a friend...
katiep99
it just shows you that boys are complete f***ers!


erherm. girls give guys infections too. i happend to get infected although it was very minor it still happend.