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Next year Im going to University with my ex, she moved away to scotland and when we were together we planned to do different courses but at the same University.

She still fancies me I know this.... and I still like her, we were together for 3 years and had a proper bond, I mean we used to spend every day together and every1 always said it was amazing how well we clicked.

Anyway she got a new bf up there in scotland but shes always mentioning him to me on msn as though shes trying to impress me cos she found out like 6 months after we broke up I went out with her n my mates and I pulled and had sex.

Anyway the other day we are on the phone n shes like "Omg we still going to university together, its gonna be weird" we talked more and the last thing she said was "Its gonna be so hard not making a move on you" and then said bye.... I havent talked to her since and dunno what to do...

Her boyfriend is so cool I mean i met him a few times n hes a great guy but I feel we are meant to be, what shud I do?

Reply 1

bedbug

See how things go but respect the fact that she's got a boyfriend. It sounds like she's still into you/wants you for sex so to me it doesn't sound like she cares about him that much. However, that's no excuse for you to make a move or anything as she's still in a relationship. Leave it to her to make a move, but I'd not do anything until she's out of her relationship, if this does happen. That way you've done nothing wrong.

Reply 2

BlackHawk

It sounds like you have a very bizarre relationship. You both still like each other, yet you try and impress each other by pulling other people then telling the other person. Then you still have phone and msn conversations.

Trust me, everything changes when you get to University. You're going to meet a lot of people.

Reply 3

TSR Community Staff

Do nothing. Go to uni.

If something is meant to happen it will do. If it isn't a, university is a big enough place to end up not seeing each other much, if at all, if that is what you want (unless you go to the worlds smallest uni).

You obviously can't really do much now, even if you wanted to. Just keep acting as you have been for the last few months and then wait and see. Leave a bit of excitement or unpredictability there for when you do move off to uni :smile:

Reply 4

Dragon24

If it was so perfect why did you split? Talk about a female player. If she loved her bf she wouldn't be so disrespectful. If she will cheat on him, she could cheat on you. Plenty more girls at uni.

Reply 5

getupkid

I feel really sorry for her boyfriend, that's such an inappropriate thing for her to say to you when she's in a relationship with someone else. In fact if I were you, I'd be slightly put off with someone that would say things like that to another person when they were in a relationship, I just feel that it's rather disrespectful. Having said that, it's not anyone's place to judge her from a few lines posted about her on an internet forum.

But all that aside, if I were you, I'd leave things up to her, don't intefere with her relationship, you already had your chance so to speak. It does sound like she's interested, but at the end of the day, she's the one that is committed to someone else and if she wants to start anything with you I think she needs to rethink or that committment. I don't really think it's your place to pursue her at all, and would be especially bad if you've met her boyfriend and got on with him, it'd be like backstabbing him.

Also remember that you probably broke up for a good reason. And like the person above said, don't underestimate how many more people you will meet at uni, how much you will change, and how much what you want will change. For the mean time, I'd ask her not to make comments like that, because it's only going to mess with your head.