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teacher relationships
if you found out your teacher had an affair with an ex pupil from your school and was fired and this was a teacher you really loved and respected, what would you do/ think/ feel?
yeah but if its a teacher you're really close with and admire?
Hm, no proper responses to the thread? And why go anonymous?
I would be very disturbed because I trust my teachers completely and they definitely are a massive part of my life. Knowing that they have abused this trust wth someone else would be shocking.
I would be very disturbed because I trust my teachers completely and they definitely are a massive part of my life. Knowing that they have abused this trust wth someone else would be shocking.
Its his life
It was a choice between him and the ex pupil
they knew the conciquences (sp.?)
If he never made a move on you then I would feel indifferent
Your admiration for him didn't arouse from sexual desire (or did it?)
So his sex life is his personal business
I wouldn't lose any admiration or respect for him
If I were his friend I would tell him he made a wrong choice (and thow in a few "you idiot"s)
but if your admiration is on an academic level then it shouldn't effect that
Besides, remember its not the first nor the last time something like this happened
It was a choice between him and the ex pupil
they knew the conciquences (sp.?)
If he never made a move on you then I would feel indifferent
Your admiration for him didn't arouse from sexual desire (or did it?)
So his sex life is his personal business
I wouldn't lose any admiration or respect for him
If I were his friend I would tell him he made a wrong choice (and thow in a few "you idiot"s)
but if your admiration is on an academic level then it shouldn't effect that
Besides, remember its not the first nor the last time something like this happened
Yeah sorry! 
There is a reason why such relationships are frowned upon (and illegal if the kid is under 18) - a teacher is someone you are supposed to trust and I sometimes go to my teachers when I'm upset and don't know what to do. Teachers, doctors, phsycologists work with vulnerable people who are easily influenced so even if it was a choice between "the teacher and the pupil" it doesn't mean the pupil knew what he/she was doing, or trusted the teacher to stop it / to not allow it if it was wrong. My opinion anyway.
There is a reason why such relationships are frowned upon (and illegal if the kid is under 18) - a teacher is someone you are supposed to trust and I sometimes go to my teachers when I'm upset and don't know what to do. Teachers, doctors, phsycologists work with vulnerable people who are easily influenced so even if it was a choice between "the teacher and the pupil" it doesn't mean the pupil knew what he/she was doing, or trusted the teacher to stop it / to not allow it if it was wrong. My opinion anyway.
sorry i was absent from the thread.. no i did not have an affair with him and do not feel jealousy or anything else towards him having this affair with the pupil (he's married and has kids btw).. but i suppose i should add that the pupil got pregnant as a result.. i feel completely shocked and horrified.. 
tanusha-tomsk
Yeah sorry!
There is a reason why such relationships are frowned upon (and illegal if the kid is under 18) - a teacher is someone you are supposed to trust and I sometimes go to my teachers when I'm upset and don't know what to do. Teachers, doctors, phsycologists work with vulnerable people who are easily influenced so even if it was a choice between "the teacher and the pupil" it doesn't mean the pupil knew what he/she was doing, or trusted the teacher to stop it / to not allow it if it was wrong. My opinion anyway.
There is a reason why such relationships are frowned upon (and illegal if the kid is under 18) - a teacher is someone you are supposed to trust and I sometimes go to my teachers when I'm upset and don't know what to do. Teachers, doctors, phsycologists work with vulnerable people who are easily influenced so even if it was a choice between "the teacher and the pupil" it doesn't mean the pupil knew what he/she was doing, or trusted the teacher to stop it / to not allow it if it was wrong. My opinion anyway.
yeah but vice versa they may have known what they were getting themselves into.
I am sorry but at 16 and 17 you know what sex is and the consequences.
It was a bad choice on his part and he had to pay for it.
And they both had to make the decision to not use protection. Its not just the guys responsibiltiy. Though most of the fault does go to him for abusing his power of trust.
To the op: if all he is is a teacher that you admired and not a friend then there is probably a chance that you guys won't stay in touch so just forget about him. Value what you learned from him and just remember that everyone makes mistakes (this was a hell of one). I don't know but from what it sounds like its not like you guys are like friends friends so most likely you may not even stay in contact.
darkstar09
yeah but vice versa they may have known what they were getting themselves into.
I am sorry but at 16 and 17 you know what sex is and the consequences.
It was a bad choice on his part and he had to pay for it.
And they both had to make the decision to not use protection. Its not just the guys responsibiltiy. Though most of the fault does go to him for abusing his power of trust.
I am sorry but at 16 and 17 you know what sex is and the consequences.
It was a bad choice on his part and he had to pay for it.
And they both had to make the decision to not use protection. Its not just the guys responsibiltiy. Though most of the fault does go to him for abusing his power of trust.
thats a good point indeed..
To the op: if all he is is a teacher that you admired and not a friend then there is probably a chance that you guys won't stay in touch so just forget about him. Value what you learned from him and just remember that everyone makes mistakes (this was a hell of one). I don't know but from what it sounds like its not like you guys are like friends friends so most likely you may not even stay in contact.
now that i have found out about this, i cant help but feeling disgust rather than admiration towards him and so if he did try to stay in touch, i would just play dumb and not reply. Morally what he did was mega wrong and i cant really find it in me to excuse his actions.. AT ALL.. taught me a lesson though of who to trust and who not..
thanks for your posts guys
wouldnt respect him at all. tbh i would just think he deserved to loose his job.
Do you mean that he had an affair with the ex-pupil AFTER she had left the school, or the pupil is an ex-pupil as a result of that affair?
Because if she's already left and isn't under his responsibility at the time then it is neither morally or legally wrong (well it is imoral that he has a wife and kids), however if he had an affair with a student whilst he was still teaching her then that maybe would change my oppinion of him.
I guess I'd feel that somebody who I had the upmost trust of and respect for, had gone and proven that he didn't deserve any of that as he was willing to get with a student he is responsible for.
However, teachers are human beings and they will find their pupils attractive some of the time, sometimes the age gaps can be as small as 3 or 4 years, all they have to do though, is ignore their feelings, or wait until after their pupil has left to hit on them!
Because if she's already left and isn't under his responsibility at the time then it is neither morally or legally wrong (well it is imoral that he has a wife and kids), however if he had an affair with a student whilst he was still teaching her then that maybe would change my oppinion of him.
I guess I'd feel that somebody who I had the upmost trust of and respect for, had gone and proven that he didn't deserve any of that as he was willing to get with a student he is responsible for.
However, teachers are human beings and they will find their pupils attractive some of the time, sometimes the age gaps can be as small as 3 or 4 years, all they have to do though, is ignore their feelings, or wait until after their pupil has left to hit on them!
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