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All my life I've been rejected by girls purely for being socially awkward (I have autism) and I'm finding it really hard not to hate them. Of course hate is wrong because it's obviously my fault not theirs why I'm unloved and I am not entitled to women but as time goes on I'm finding it so hard to fight my feelings of hatred for them because hate is so easy and in some ways comforting (your shifting the blame)

I find the hate seeping out via me getting angry at women, being rude to women, finding any reason to put them down and of course making misogynistic rage threads. I know it's wrong but I just can't help it. What should I do?
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Anger management?
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Maybe stop trying to look for a relationship at the moment.

Talk to women and just concentrate on being their friend and don't let yourself think about relationships.
You'll soon see that women are actually quite nice and not as bad as you think.
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If that's your only reason to hate them, you are pretty lucky. But work on your own issues, there are plenty of ways to gain confidence and also I think there are special dating sites for autistic people. Maybe try meeting another girl with autism? I'm sure they exist.
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See a mental health specialist
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(Original post by WGR)
All my life I've been rejected by girls purely for being socially awkward (I have autism) and I'm finding it really hard not to hate them. Of course hate is wrong because it's obviously my fault not theirs why I'm unloved and I am not entitled to women but as time goes on I'm finding it so hard to fight my feelings of hatred for them because hate is so easy and in some ways comforting (your shifting the blame)

I find the hate seeping out via me getting angry at women, being rude to women, finding any reason to put them down and of course making misogynistic rage threads. I know it's wrong but I just can't help it. What should I do?
You should note that those women are certainly not representative of the wider female gender.
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to be honest most girls feel like this too....if anything goes wrong in a relationship sense a girl's first reaction is "sick of men....hate men....I don't need a man...."
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Step 1: Disregard females, acquire aesthetics

Step 2: Disregard females, acquire currency

Step 3: Use previously acquired aesthetics and currency to acquire a female

Step 4: Profit??
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(Original post by MagicNMedicine)
to be honest most girls feel like this too....if anything goes wrong in a relationship sense a girl's first reaction is "sick of men....hate men....I don't need a man...."
Well observed.
Is this from the Sex and the City form of clinical psychology or more Friends based
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Just wait. It gets better as you get older. I listened to a documentary on this on radio 4, and many autistic people had a lot of difficulty initially, but they all eventually found suitable partners when they were adults.
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See a mental health specialist
These. That is all you need.
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Hating the opposite sex is wasted energy which would be better put to use in improving yourself.
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Just wait. It gets better as you get older. I listened to a documentary on this on radio 4, and many autistic people had a lot of difficulty initially, but they all eventually found suitable partners when they were adults.
hahaha that's bull****, I used to go to these autism groups and everyone was a virgin even the 40 year olds.
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Step 1: Disregard females, acquire aesthetics

Step 2: Disregard females, acquire currency

Step 3: Use previously acquired aesthetics and currency to acquire a female

Step 4: Profit??
I already look good, I don't want a golddigger, may as well just hire a hooker.
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Anger management?
Im not an angry person, I just dislike women. That's like saying you need anger management just because you hate football supporters.
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Maybe stop trying to look for a relationship at the moment.

Talk to women and just concentrate on being their friend and don't let yourself think about relationships.
You'll soon see that women are actually quite nice and not as bad as you think.
Whether I want a relationship or not women are always plain unfriendly.
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All my life I've been rejected by girls purely for being socially awkward (I have autism) and I'm finding it really hard not to hate them. Of course hate is wrong because it's obviously my fault not theirs why I'm unloved and I am not entitled to women
Don't look at it that way. My boyfriend has Aspergers (he is high-functioning), and I think sometimes he does struggle with things that come more naturally to non-ASD people. But it doesn't mean he doesn't deserve to have relationships, it just means he has to try a little harder and be a little more conscious (as do I! I've learned not to take personally some of the things he says)

I have no doubt you have qualities that some women would find attractive, you just need to find the right woman who will love you for who you are.
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Don't look at it that way. My boyfriend has Aspergers (he is high-functioning), and I think sometimes he does struggle with things that come more naturally to non-ASD people. But it doesn't mean he doesn't deserve to have relationships, it just means he has to try a little harder and be a little more conscious (as do I! I've learned not to take personally some of the things he says)

I have no doubt you have qualities that some women would find attractive, you just need to find the right woman who will love you for who you are.
Did you think he was weird when you first met him? Is this his first relationship?

I feel like I've been left without a paddle by healthcare professionals. They gave me a piece of paper saying I had this and that and not one iota of practical help. They didn't even tell me stuff like this was going to be so hard. I've pretty much given up these days. Have largely isolated myself for the last three years. it's the only way I can cope.
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Did you think he was weird when you first met him? Is this his first relationship?
It's not his first relationship. I did think he was a little odd in some ways when we first met, but I also found those traits a bit endearing. He's a kind of funny mix of awkwardness and confidence, and the fact that he perceives the world quite differently to me makes us a good pair in some ways.

I feel like I've been left without a paddle by healthcare professionals. They gave me a piece of paper saying I had this and that and not one iota of practical help.
That sucks My boyfriend is really his own person, but his family and friends accept him for who he is, with all his quirks and eccentricities. He's quite personable, though at times he says things that can seem harsh. He does work on that and I think people, for the most part, do try to give others the benefit of the doubt.

They didn't even tell me stuff like this was going to be so hard. I've pretty much given up these days. Have largely isolated myself for the last three years. it's the only way I can cope.
What about friends? I think the best way to meet potential partners is through friends and work. Do you work/study? Do you hobbies or interests that would connect you with like-minded people?
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