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so...how do I go about sorting out this little situation...
I'm not really sure about this one...basically, there's this guy who I met at a party last year...the same party where I met my now ex boyfirend. He liked me...but I wasn't really interested...anyway somehow he got my number through a mutual friend, and began texting me (even though I had a boyfriend at the time). Obviously as I had a boyfriend, I wasn't interested, but we were still going to meet up. It never happed, mainly because I knew his intentions, and because of that I didn't want him to get the wrong idea. But now I'm no longer with my boyfirend, and after about 6 months of not talking to this guy who I met at the party I saw him yesterday. 
and now he's texting me again, and because he's heard that I'm not with my ex anymore, he wants to start something. The only thing is I'm totally not interested in him, in that way. I wouldn't mind being friends, and I've told him this...but I think that ultimately if we meet up, he would want it to progress to something more. Should i meet up with him...or continue to find reasons why I'm busy....?
and now he's texting me again, and because he's heard that I'm not with my ex anymore, he wants to start something. The only thing is I'm totally not interested in him, in that way. I wouldn't mind being friends, and I've told him this...but I think that ultimately if we meet up, he would want it to progress to something more. Should i meet up with him...or continue to find reasons why I'm busy....?Scroll to see replies
tell him your not interested. dont mess him about 
Yeah I've told him, the aim is not to mess him around, and I know you lot don't know him, but I'm worried that if I meet up with him, he'll still be interested in that sort of way. Also will me saying yes to meeting up with him give him the impression that it can maybe lead to more?
have nothing to do with him. he sounds too persistant for my liking. tell him very firmly that you dont want to go out/sleep with him and that meeting up is a bad idea.
high priestess fnord
tell him your not interested. dont mess him about
I'd rep you if I hadn't already done so today.
You can't go and meet him if you know his intensions will be for something to happen. Doing that makes it worse for both people involved. I know it would confuse me if I was the guy. And after been messed about by a girl like that, very similarly, just recently - last week -
just.. don't do it. Tell him you're not interested, please.Anonymous
Yeah I've told him, the aim is not to mess him around, and I know you lot don't know him, but I'm worried that if I meet up with him, he'll still be interested in that sort of way. Also will me saying yes to meeting up with him give him the impression that it can maybe lead to more?
Sorry for my previous post, then.
But yes, if it was me it would definately imply that.
Okay...I shall tell him I'm busy. But the only issue is that if he texts me asking if I want to meet up, I'd feel bad saying no...I'm just like that. I don't want to hurt his feelings. I've had him blocked on msn for the past 6 months lol. Just wish he didn't see me yesterday. I'm pretty sure whe would have forgotten about me.
you would hurt him more if you gave him any hope
I wouldn't imply anything
I would explicitly tell him that you don't want anything
Tell him that if he makes a move on you then you guys won't even be friends
Don't meet up w/ him, just you and him, b/c thats too much of a "date"
If you don't want to hurt his feelings and want to meet w/ him make it a group outing so its not just the two of you.
You have to tell him many many times that you want nothing more than a friendship. Tell him if he doesn't understand that then you guys can't even be friends.
But tell him multiple times!!!
I would explicitly tell him that you don't want anything
Tell him that if he makes a move on you then you guys won't even be friends
Don't meet up w/ him, just you and him, b/c thats too much of a "date"
If you don't want to hurt his feelings and want to meet w/ him make it a group outing so its not just the two of you.
You have to tell him many many times that you want nothing more than a friendship. Tell him if he doesn't understand that then you guys can't even be friends.
But tell him multiple times!!!
or change your number or block him
Simplex-Designs
Wow, exactly what I was trying to say yet again! 
haha great minds...
Simplex-Designs
You bet, we should take this up for a living!
ooh good plan as im broke atm
Simplex-Designs
Me too! Oh well - not as if I can even find any job atm!
Anyways sorry for changin' the subject OP
Oh well - not as if I can even find any job atm!Anyways sorry for changin' the subject OP
erm where were we again? oh yeh trying to say no in a nice way
high priestess fnord
erm where were we again? oh yeh trying to say no in a nice way
erm where were we again? oh yeh trying to say no in a nice way
Ah yes!
And to be honest, It would be better to say no in a "not nice way" - if it comes to that - than not at all and leave him thinking or with even a tiny percentage of hope which he could/will cling on to!
dont think she has it in her to be overly bitchy judging from her posts. but it has to be a firm *NO* maybe a poke with a cattle prod too?
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