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Teacher "likes" me... huh?

I've just left school and the other day, my teacher basically came on to me. I was mildly surprised but not completely (we've always had a slightly more relaxed and flirtatious relationship), but never the less I was still suprised as I never thought things like this actually happened in the real world! I most certainly never thought it would happen to me.

Anyway, I was wondering what people made of this, do you think he was really trying to initiate something or was just doing it because he could, as I'm not his pupil anymore and the age difference is not significant?

I'm slightly bewildered :confused:

By the way he didn't actually do anything wrong or pervy, this isn't a thread about the leagal aspects of things.. :smile:

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Reply 1

darkstar09

Most people here are gonna say its wrong
But how do u feel about it?
Do you feel that there is a reason he likes you (other than physically)
If not then its probably only a sexual attraction

What did he do?

I think when the students leave, their relationships with teachers become different and less paternal. Teachers will probably see their former students as young women and young men, and might behave accordingly, as if they met you in the pub or something. Don't think too much of it, just because you want it to be true doesn't make it true :smile:

Reply 4

darkstar09

I don't think anyone here can tell you if he wants a serious relationship or just a one time thing. There just isn't enough detail and even if you gave us more detail it wouldn't be enough.
But just curious How exactly did he come on to you?

Reply 5

Anonymous #1

Well it was quite a gradula thing through the evening with lots of hugging and a few kisses (on the cheek and head) and then a few more obvious things like him saying he fancied me, ahem! :rolleyes:

and thought I was gorgeous, and then a few really sweet non-sleazy things whcih made me go a bit gooey! lol
It sounds sleazy but it really wasn't, it was also all a bit tongue in cheek really so I wouldn't have thought he would want anything to come of it, was just a bit unexpected really! I'm so confused he's stirred up all these feeling inside me, and something is making me think why would he say all that stuff just for a bit of a flirt?? men!

Reply 6

PhilMc

Can I ask the age difference, if you don't mind? :redface:

Reply 7

Anonymous #1

Yeah I'm 18, almost 19 and he's 23.
I'm paranoid about giving too much information away, I know I've been purposefully vague sorry!
I'm also paranoid I'm going to accidently not post as anonymous and give myself away!

thats a tiny age gap

Oh God this is the weirdest feeling in the world!
I'm just at a complete loss as to what to make of it. First things first is that I made sure I only told one person, who I trust with my life, as reagrdless of the fact that I've now left I'm sure it wouldn't go down well with some people if they knew.
I don't know if it's because he's older, or vastly more inteligent than myself, or if it's just because I've always had a slight crush on him, but I have never felt so 'gooey in my tummy' when flirting with a guy before!
There's something screaming in my head this can't be good for you! hehe

Reply 10

Anonymous #2

I find that so disgusting, but that's also because my physics teacher kinda fancies me and I really don't so it kinda influences me... But I guess if ur attracted by him, I don't see what's the problem...

Reply 11

PhilMc

Anonymous

Ah, you see then thats not too bad. Wipes out the image of a 40 year old taking advantage. :redface:

what would be funny now, (or not so perhaps) is if i failed my summer modules this year and had to go back to his classes until January to do my retakes! Now that could make for some awkward teaching!

Reply 14

Hana_87

Cant u just get his number and talk outside of school? :smile:

Or email him?

It must be incredibly tough being in a position of authority over girls just a few years younger than you. The fact he waited until the end of term when you were leaving shows he is sensible, and perhaps shows that he'd like something to happen.

Reply 17

Lush Law

If he's 23 and hot then go for it. Now you've left the school you are both completely within your rights, he's not in a position of trust and care anymore.