feeling low in self confidence when with friends

i've just got back from a day out with friends and i felt very low in self esteem and this completely ruined my day. i just find that when i'm with my friends (they are quite pretty, get whistled at a lot etc), i begin to feel worthless and stupid, because they are getting all the attention, and i'm just somebody who tags along like an underdog. i don't know if its part jealousy of my friends, and i know this all sounds very superficial but its been really getting me down recently. i try so hard to make myself feel better, going shopping & all the usual girly stuff but i just feel so inadequate when i'm with all these gorgeous and perfect looking girls. it makes me want to avoid going out at all with my friends, because i know that i'll just return at the end of the day with sadness and a lower self esteem than when i left the house in the morning. and its not just that, but comments these girls make to each other like 'you get so many looks from guys', and nobody ever says it to me..which makes me feel very insecure. i'm scared its going to be worse at uni, and i know this is all shallow stuff to do with physical appearence but i can't help but feel so low.
is there anything i can do to make myself feel a bit better? :frown:

Reply 1

PhilMc

16

Nah, don't worry about it! They could probably be feeling the same way. No matter what anyone says everyone always has problems with SOMETHING about they way they look. Hell, I've loads!

Reply 2

1013

1

In life you just have to accept that some people are going to have some things better than you - some will be more attractive, some will have more money, some will be cleverer. If you sat there and worried about all these things, you would never leave the house or make friends with anyone. What you need to do is look at what you do have, not what you don't. You're friends don't soundy bitchy - their comments are probably just off hand comments that you have taken to heart because of your insecurities. You could always go out and find some less attractive friends but that's not really going to solve anyhting. You need to accept who you are and learn to love yourself.

Reply 3

bedbug

14

1013

In life you just have to accept that some people are going to have some things better than you - some will be more attractive, some will have more money, some will be cleverer. If you sat there and worried about all these things, you would never leave the house or make friends with anyone. What you need to do is look at what you do have, not what you don't. You're friends don't soundy bitchy - their comments are probably just off hand comments that you have taken to heart because of your insecurities. You could always go out and find some less attractive friends but that's not really going to solve anyhting. You need to accept who you are and learn to love yourself.

Well said.

Everyone has their insecurities and most people feel like you at some point, you just need to stop letting it get to you. Easier said than done, I know, but put it in perspective. There's people in the world with nothing at all and you're fretting over feeling a bit less attractive than a few of your friends? It may feel like a huge deal, I know it does, but it really isn't. Once you accept that some people are always going to be more attractive than you, just as you are always going to be more attractive than others, you'll find it easier to get on with things.

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