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going out with someone if you aren't really attracted to them

well today i agreed to go out with this guy, but i'm not sure if i'm actually attracted to him, or if i just like the way he is with me, because he says really sweet things to me.

the thing is there's this other guy who i just can't stop thinking about, but he's got a girlfriend and so i can't have him. but now i've agreed to go out with the first guy, i'm worried that i won't feel anything and i'll end up hurting him.

what should i do!?

thank you

Reply 1

Clarence

14

Try it for a while, you may grow to find out that he is attractive to you.

Reply 2

Ting-Ting

Ditto. You took the words right out of my mouth clarence :p:

Reply 3

El Scotto

15

Anonymous

well today i agreed to go out with this guy, but i'm not sure if i'm actually attracted to him, or if i just like the way he is with me, because he says really sweet things to me.

the thing is there's this other guy who i just can't stop thinking about, but he's got a girlfriend and so i can't have him. but now i've agreed to go out with the first guy, i'm worried that i won't feel anything and i'll end up hurting him.

what should i do!?

thank you

Peter stringfellow may be rich and things, but you've got to remember hes got his pick of all those other women too.

why dont you just be single until you find a guy you fancy?

Reply 4

kizer

15

Nothing worse that feeling like you are secong choice. It's fairer not to go out with someone if you are secretly pining for someone else - just imagine if you were someone's second choice, and your bf wishes they were elsewhere...

Reply 5

Clarence

14

Just don't do what I did. Fall for the guy you didn't think was attractive. Go out with him then break up with him because he was too ugly.

1 year later, you fancy him like mad, find him unbelievably attractive but have ruined every chance due to his new 6 month relationship with a girl in the year below. Sucks.

Reply 6

PhilMc

16

Don't string him along. End of.

Reply 7

Ting-Ting

kizer

Nothing worse that feeling like you are secong choice. It's fairer not to go out with someone if you are secretly pining for someone else - just imagine if you were someone's second choice, and your bf wishes they were elsewhere...

Me and my bf were each others' second choice. He fancied this girl in natural science and i facnied his housemate like mad and so we tried to help each other get with the ones we wanted but ended up together instead....2.5yrs later, we're still together :smile:

Reply 8

crazy4dancin

I've been out with lads who I didn't fancy particularly much, in fact I've only been out with one guy I found instantly attractive. It has to be said that it's best not to go out with someone who you don't really fancy. On the otherhand you could give it a go because looks aren't everything and maybe the guy who's gorgeous is in actually fact a right arse. I used to go on and off my boyfriends and not know what to do, I know how you feel, it's very confusing especially when one day you think they're alright and the next day they look dog rough!xx

Reply 9

username47781

20

Suppose you could give it a try how hard is it to find a guy who generally means it when they say nice things surely thats what every girl wants, i mean you say you think about other guys lets say you got with a guy who was good looking but a player and arrogant would you want that.

See out it goes you don't know till you try but if you feel its not working least end it with him and dont string him along or cheat on him.

Reply 10

star87

The-Lennon

just do it anyway... u get sex and you can make them do stuff for you.

LOL LOL That made me laugh!!!

Reply 11

Johnny 5

12

star87

LOL LOL That made me laugh!!!

...why?

Reply 12

star87

i found it funny. why, is that a problem? lol

Reply 13

Sheen

11

The-Lennon

its true tho.... most guys wouldnt be upset for long when they found out they were being used for sex

and then again some guys would love it :confused:

Reply 14

789654123

9

well you girls can't always ask for the best... take what you have and be happy about it because many don't even have a chance to get a BF. Besides you wouldn't like it if it was the other way around.

Reply 15

Paddington

1

you have to be so careful when it comes to things like this, you could really end up hurting him especially if he likes you.
you have to decide whether you really like him or not, cos its best not to string someone along, i did it once, i even ended up liking him in the end, but it was so heart wrenching when we borke up because i strung him along when i knew the relationship wasn't right

Reply 16

stoney

12

789654123

well you girls can't always ask for the best... take what you have and be happy about it because many don't even have a chance to get a BF. Besides you wouldn't like it if it was the other way around.

a little strong but there is a point here. perhaps it's sometimes best to take what you have if you unsure. If you dont like them then fair enough say no. but if your a little unsure why not give it ago and not be so picky, it may work out. if it doesnt it isnt the end of the world for either party.

going out with someone if you aren't really attracted to them

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