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    all comments are welcome and I would really appreciate some help!

    Last summer ( I was 16 ) I had my first 'boyfriend', i say boyfriend with quotation marks as it felt as if I was a summer fling. I've never met him face to face (awful I know, but we have mutual friends) as he lived in another city. At around the same time, I met this other guy who lived locally, he wasn't someone I was attracted to but we developed a good friendship. After a couple of weeks (not sure exactly) he disappeared (literally did not hear from him)

    He's two years my senior, could drive but had no time to see me. It annoyed me a lot and I made it clear, he would apologize and arrange another time. Then cancel again.
    The worst was at Christmas, instead of saying 'I'm sorry, I can't make it' I didn't hear from him for a week. My friends say I should have left him then, that he does not care for me the way he says but I couldn't. I loved him so much, I never felt that way about anyone. I thought I would just try harder and let him know just how much I care in hope that he would take me seriously. Stupid idea that did not work, I became a wreck. I ended the so-called 'relationship'. He seemed genuinely upset and made me seem like I put in no effort (what a idiot? I started our conversations almost everyday).
    I tried to move on forget about him, deleted his number, bbm pin and twitter. I couldn't do it. I become emotional, and isolated myself.
    The other guy messaged me on facebook it was so unexpected but I remember how happy I was. We talked day and night for a couple of weeks).
    By July we thought we would give it a go (as a relationship). At first I wasn't sure if I could go love another guy like I loved my 'ex'. I was so wrong, now me and him are happily together. He spoils me and makes me smile, our friendship blossoms through so we can make silly jokes and muck about. He's the perfect boyfriends.
    The problem it, I can't stop thinking about my 'ex'. I want to know if he ever had any real feelings for me and the real reason as to why I never got to see him. I still think about what he would be like (in person). Every time I think of such things, I feel guilty, I love my boyfriend. I just don't understand why I can't let the past go.
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    It is a bit strange to think about them in that way, what I found the easiest when getting over someone is by pointing out their flaws in my head and remembering anything they did to me that annoyed/upset me. What matters the most is that your boyfriend is the one that sticks around, does not cancel at the last minute and ignores you. You need to remember this.
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    (Original post by hattiemcbinky)
    It is a bit strange to think about them in that way, what I found the easiest when getting over someone is by pointing out their flaws in my head and remembering anything they did to me that annoyed/upset me. What matters the most is that your boyfriend is the one that sticks around, does not cancel at the last minute and ignores you. You need to remember this.
    I know it's so hard, I will try harder to think of his flaws. Thank you so much
 
 
 
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