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Hi im just trying to get some advice really. Im in my second year at uni. Im sick to death of always being put down laughed at or mocked out by my friends. I live with my friends of campus and its just getting unbearable

I know im not particularly clever im severely dyspraxic which means half the time I get my words muddled up or say the wrong thing. Im pretty clumsy and I know that I lack any common sense. I struggle in social situations at the best of times usually I just panick and cant speak or say something silly but recently the only topic of conversation my housemates seem to have is me. They take the mick out of me constantly in front of other people its not just laughing at stupid things ive done its everything. They call me thick and stupid in front of other people.

They laugh at me behind my back sometimes when I come into the room and they are hysterically laughing I ask what there laughing at and they say me. They make out to everybody im some stupid idiot, they patronise me they talk over me and tell me I don't understand. The girl I live with just expects me to pay x amount per month for bills and when I ask to see bills she says I wouldn't get it its beyond my capacity.

Another example was last night the girls boyfriend is staying and he wore my glasses and said we had the same ones so I said great minds think alike trying to be jokey and he said he wouldn't want my mind because im thick. To which the all hysterically laughed about for the rest of the night. WHen I was cutting up some chicken for my dinner when people were round they took the knife of me incase I' hurt myself'. They even take the piss out of me and my boyfriends sex life they say im to innocent and I don't understand!.

Ive snapped a few times and said im not stupid but I am just in despair as its always those 2 against me then their friends and partners joining in. I never blow my own trumpet I never mention the fact that I got A levels far higher than them or that Im doing a law degree im not stupid I know im not thick but I don't know how to handle the situation. I feel so depressed at uni I just want to cry and go home. Any advice would be great
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Hi im just trying to get some advice really. Im in my second year at uni. Im sick to death of always being put down laughed at or mocked out by my friends. I live with my friends of campus and its just getting unbearable

I know im not particularly clever im severely dyspraxic which means half the time I get my words muddled up or say the wrong thing. Im pretty clumsy and I know that I lack any common sense. I struggle in social situations at the best of times usually I just panick and cant speak or say something silly but recently the only topic of conversation my housemates seem to have is me. They take the mick out of me constantly in front of other people its not just laughing at stupid things ive done its everything. They call me thick and stupid in front of other people.

They laugh at me behind my back sometimes when I come into the room and they are hysterically laughing I ask what there laughing at and they say me. They make out to everybody im some stupid idiot, they patronise me they talk over me and tell me I don't understand. The girl I live with just expects me to pay x amount per month for bills and when I ask to see bills she says I wouldn't get it its beyond my capacity.

Another example was last night the girls boyfriend is staying and he wore my glasses and said we had the same ones so I said great minds think alike trying to be jokey and he said he wouldn't want my mind because im thick. To which the all hysterically laughed about for the rest of the night. WHen I was cutting up some chicken for my dinner when people were round they took the knife of me incase I' hurt myself'. They even take the piss out of me and my boyfriends sex life they say im to innocent and I don't understand!.

Ive snapped a few times and said im not stupid but I am just in despair as its always those 2 against me then their friends and partners joining in. I never blow my own trumpet I never mention the fact that I got A levels far higher than them or that Im doing a law degree im not stupid I know im not thick but I don't know how to handle the situation. I feel so depressed at uni I just want to cry and go home. Any advice would be great
If they're making you feel like that, they're not your friends. Tell them how you feel about it and maybe they will understand. If not, find new friends - they are ********s.
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Speak to them and tell them your concerns, wha theyre doing isnt nice
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They are obviously not your friends? Move to a differnet flat.
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That's horrible. Some people in my old friendship group used to laugh nastily at my social awkwardness. It's horrid. Get out of there quick, there's no point in being around people who bring you down.
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The only way out is to get a first. Academic excellence beats every ignorant person out there.
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The fact that you still call them your 'friends' to this day is beyond me. please have a bit of respect for yourself, move out and cut all contact with them. They're horrible, insecure kids who don't deserve your time or patience.
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The fact that you still call them your 'friends' to this day is beyond me. please have a bit of respect for yourself, move out and cut all contact with them. They're horrible, insecure kids who don't deserve your time or patience :rolleyes:
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They're not friends and nothing more than energy drainers, you need to break away from them and they're definitely not worth your time.

Can you switch halls?
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You need to stand up for yourself and actually say a few things. I understand that you don't want to "stoop to their level" and all that, but sometimes, they will only understand if you speak in their language. Maybe you should say something to them when they are cooking, or next time they call you stupid just say "well I have x,y,z for my A levels, which is a lot more than I can say about you, so it's not really me that's the stupid one now is it?"

I don't know whether the "talking to them" advice will work, they just look like bullies.
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Find a replacement tenant (or ask the landlord if you can move out) and as soon as you've done that find another place and move out. They are quite clearly not your friends.
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The girl I live with just expects me to pay x amount per month for bills and when I ask to see bills she says I wouldn't get it its beyond my capacity.
She has no right to do that, Ask for the bills again and if she doesn't let you, tell her she isn't your mother and you have a right to know what you are paying for. If she then doesn't allow you to see them go to your student union or landlord.
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I wish I knew you in person - what you've written about the way they treat you has made me angry enough to come round right now and put them all down several pegs. They are disgusting, awful people and certainly not your friends. Are you able to move out, OP?
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you gotta hit that gym
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(Original post by stargirl63)
You need to stand up for yourself and actually say a few things. I understand that you don't want to "stoop to their level" and all that, but sometimes, they will only understand if you speak in their language. Maybe you should say something to them when they are cooking, or next time they call you stupid just say "well I have x,y,z for my A levels, which is a lot more than I can say about you, so it's not really me that's the stupid one now is it?"

I don't know whether the "talking to them" advice will work, they just look like bullies.
Completely agree with this.

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you gotta hit that gym
yep, hitting the gym will solve all her problems :rolleyes:

idk why many guys on here have that mentality
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yep, hitting the gym will solve all her problems :rolleyes:

idk why many guys on here have that mentality
i thought op was male:eek:
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i thought op was male:eek:
even if she was how would that even help in the slightest :lol:
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even if she was how would that even help in the slightest :lol:
just feel better overall
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Hi im just trying to get some advice really. Im in my second year at uni. Im sick to death of always being put down laughed at or mocked out by my friends. I live with my friends of campus and its just getting unbearable

I know im not particularly clever im severely dyspraxic which means half the time I get my words muddled up or say the wrong thing. Im pretty clumsy and I know that I lack any common sense. I struggle in social situations at the best of times usually I just panick and cant speak or say something silly but recently the only topic of conversation my housemates seem to have is me. They take the mick out of me constantly in front of other people its not just laughing at stupid things ive done its everything. They call me thick and stupid in front of other people.

They laugh at me behind my back sometimes when I come into the room and they are hysterically laughing I ask what there laughing at and they say me. They make out to everybody im some stupid idiot, they patronise me they talk over me and tell me I don't understand. The girl I live with just expects me to pay x amount per month for bills and when I ask to see bills she says I wouldn't get it its beyond my capacity.

Another example was last night the girls boyfriend is staying and he wore my glasses and said we had the same ones so I said great minds think alike trying to be jokey and he said he wouldn't want my mind because im thick. To which the all hysterically laughed about for the rest of the night. WHen I was cutting up some chicken for my dinner when people were round they took the knife of me incase I' hurt myself'. They even take the piss out of me and my boyfriends sex life they say im to innocent and I don't understand!.

Ive snapped a few times and said im not stupid but I am just in despair as its always those 2 against me then their friends and partners joining in. I never blow my own trumpet I never mention the fact that I got A levels far higher than them or that Im doing a law degree im not stupid I know im not thick but I don't know how to handle the situation. I feel so depressed at uni I just want to cry and go home. Any advice would be great
No this is not normal. It is not your fault and they are bad friends. If it keeps going on either tell them to stop or just stop hanging with them. I speak from experience and I've found that having no friends is better than having fake friends.
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