Is it bad to follow people around?

So basically I started hanging out with differnt group of people right. So I think I may be following them a little too much i.e. always hanging out with them.
Last week, we went to a party and I was with my old mates and my new mates as well. I'm not really "following them around" but more like I was following them coz I couldn't find anyone to talk to but to be honest I am following them a little bit. One of them actually noted that i'm following them again!

So, did i do something completely stupid to follow them around to hang out with? I mean I'm friends with them but the people in the group have been friends for a long time.

Reply 1

devilgirl999

1

theres nothing wrong with hanging out with a group of different people if they dont like then f*** em! good luck :smile:

Reply 2

Mark S

17

What do you mean by 'old friend' and 'new friends'. From your thread it sounds like you ditched one group of friends you have no trouble with just to make friends with a completely different group, point being i dont know but hey.

Reply 3

Anonymous #1

OP

You are right. But i didn't ditched them completely, i just started hanging out with new people and i still hang out with them a couple of times. The problem with the new group is the fact that they have known each other longer and even though i've been hanging out with them for a year or so, i still feel like an outsider.

Reply 4

Logan

4

wellp why shud you feel like that? u hang with them and if they like it then good

Reply 5

L i b

19

If they like you, then it's fine.

If they don't, then you're probably annoying the hell out of them.

Reply 6

Gman1617

hey man it ain't cool to be a sheep but if you have no choice just grin and bare it.

Reply 7

Mark S

17

Gman1617

hey man it ain't cool to be a sheep but if you have no choice just grin and bare it.

Following people around isnt exactly a moral dilemma where you have 'no choice'. This is really trivial and the OP needs to find a way of hanging with these people without following them around as such.

Reply 8

Roll-The-Dice-And-Win

1

If they are your mates why would you be following them? Do your new mates call you up? or come to your house/room to chill with you? or you go to them? You should ideally hang around with people who dont classify you as a 'follower' but rather your friend...you shouldnt be in a situation where you should be following people...i dunno.

Reply 9

George Agdgdgwngo

17

Gman1617

hey man it ain't cool to be a sheep but if you have no choice just grin and bare it.

If he's a sheep, the others must be sheep aswell, because sheep only follow sheep. :p:

Reply 10

Anonymous #2

As someone who's close friend went off with a 'new' group of friends, I can say from the perspective of someone from the 'old group' that it's not nice if you move on in a selfish way. I completely understand that she wanted to hang out with other people, but she treated me as an inferior. Although, subsequently her 'new gorup' think she's a tag along and aren't so keen on her, but she thinks she's the bee's knees as they are more 'popular'.

So, it's fine to move on, but don't ignore your old mates, they were once part of your life!

Reply 11

Anonymous #1

OP

I don#t forget my old friends. I moved on as i feel so different from that group and theyre becoming so different from me. With the new group, to be honest they don't even know my number. I only hang out with them when i see them and yet they say that they really like seeing me and hanging out with me. But they have their own thing and they never really call me.

Reply 12

Anonymous #2

Anonymous

I don#t forget my old friends. I moved on as i feel so different from that group and theyre becoming so different from me. With the new group, to be honest they don't even know my number. I only hang out with them when i see them and yet they say that they really like seeing me and hanging out with me. But they have their own thing and they never really call me.

Hmm, they don't sound like very good friends to me, regardless of my negative experience of being on the receiving end of someone moving on! It also sounds like you realise this too...

Reply 13

Anonymous #1

OP

well, im confused. Its natural for them to be closer as they have known each other the longest and they hang out more often. however, i feel like they really like hanging out with me i.e buying me drinks etc. and they do ask me out but only when i see them not nevessarily when they want to go out they are instantly gonna text me, which never happened.

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