I've been infatuated with someone for 5 years now. I met him when in halls in my first year at uni. We got along really well when we first met. We kissed a couple of times on nights out, but when I asked him out, he rejected me.
For some reason, it hit me a lot harder than it should have. I just couldn't move past being reject by him, because I was 100% certain he liked me back. To make things worse, we started acting really weird around each other, since we were both young and immature. I thought it would get better with time, but it didn't. We stopped being friends.
After moving out of halls, I deleted him from facebook, deleted his number, and never spoke to him again. But, 5 years on, I am still obsessed with him. I constantly think about him and wonder what i could have done differently to make it work between us.
Sometimes I get really down when I think about how I'll never see him again and I could never have him. I've tried literally everything I cold think of to move on. I've picked up new hobbies, I spend a lot of time with my family and friends, I've tried improving things I don't like about myself, and I've even been out with other guys, but nothing works!!
The only thing I can think of now is counselling, but I'm not sure if this is the kind of issue they deal with? I'm currently a masters student, so I can use the counselling service at university, but before I make an appointment, I would really like to hear about any experiences you guys have had with counselling for similar issues.
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Has anybody used counselling to deal with unrequited love/ other relationship issues? watch
- Thread Starter
- 19-11-2013 17:42
- Thread Starter
- 21-11-2013 10:09
- 21-11-2013 23:10
Yes counselling can help - start with your uni then you could move on to your GP. It won't be a quick fix but hopefully they can help you move on!
- 21-11-2013 23:14
I'm sorry OP. I think counselling should help because there is an underlying issue somewhere.