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    I've realised that one of the reasons why us guys feel so nervous and uncomfortable around girls, esp hot girls, is because we're not used to being around them. If you have hot female friends, you'll end up being a lot more relaxed and comfortable around them when you're talking/hitting on hot girls you don't know. You also get to see the world from their point of view and become better at socialising with girls in general. I noticed this because i havn't really had any female friends in the past 3 years and i'm just **** at talking to girls. In a party, i'd be able to get along and socialise with most guys no problem, but girls? I'm so much more uncomfortable, awkward and just clueless.

    So the solution is simple right? Find female friends, esp hotter one (sorry tsr ), except that i can't make female friends, because i can't socialise with them. I just don't know how to talk to them. Having the vast majority of my friends being dudes, i realised that i actually have a rather laddish conversation style, which is ironic because i'm really not a lad.
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    Just talk to them and you'll gradually pick it up. How I talk with my male friends and female friends is quite different, eg. me and my mates hurl horrific insults at each other as standard, but you'll soon get used to it and be able to switch from one to the other without thinking. It will def help, I cringe sometimes when some of my mates talk to girls!
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    The more you talk to girls, the better you will get at talking to them. It's just simple logic!

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    Just talk to them and you'll gradually pick it up. How I talk with my male friends and female friends is quite different, eg. me and my mates hurl horrific insults at each other as standard, but you'll soon get used to it and be able to switch from one to the other without thinking. It will def help, I cringe sometimes when some of my mates talk to girls!
    :eek: Why? That's so mean
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    (Original post by sosadsosad)
    The more you talk to girls, the better you will get at talking to them. It's just simple logic!



    :eek: Why? That's so mean
    It's done in an affectionate way, it's hard to describe really but most guys will understand that the closer you are to your mates the more you can tear into them.

    Also, as a bonus means we're all fully aware of every minor flaw in our personalities, basically a self improvement class
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    (Original post by Le Nombre)
    It's done in an affectionate way, it's hard to describe really but most guys will understand that the closer you are to your mates the more you can tear into them.

    Also, as a bonus means we're all fully aware of every minor flaw in our personalities, basically a self improvement class
    Doesn't it make you upset? What if someone says something that makes you cry?
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    (Original post by sosadsosad)
    Doesn't it make you upset? What if someone says something that makes you cry?
    They don't, it's not like you really mean it and obviously we wouldn't say anything related to relatives or something which is real (eg. hope your Mum dies of cncer if she actually has cancer).

    It's more things like just referring to each other by insults (eg. my flatmate left this morning with 'see you later ****head) and pointing out any flaws savagely eg. me for being a pushover, flatmate for being hopeless with girls, another mate for being horrifically disorganised, another laziness etc.

    If you watch the Inbetweeners you'll see what I mean.

    6:51 onwards: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1rBhCQbLtL0
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    (Original post by Le Nombre)
    They don't, it's not like you really mean it and obviously we wouldn't say anything related to relatives or something which is real (eg. hope your Mum dies of cncer if she actually has cancer).

    It's more things like just referring to each other by insults (eg. my flatmate left this morning with 'see you later ****head) and pointing out any flaws savagely eg. me for being a pushover, flatmate for being hopeless with girls, another mate for being horrifically disorganised, another laziness etc.

    If you watch the Inbetweeners you'll see what I mean.

    6:51 onwards: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1rBhCQbLtL0
    Hmm I guess I am like this with my dad, I often shoot friendly insults at him I wouldn't risk doing it with anyone outside of my family though, they probably wouldn't realise I was joking

    I can't watch the Inbetweeners, it's rude!
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    (Original post by Le Nombre)
    It's done in an affectionate way, it's hard to describe really but most guys will understand that the closer you are to your mates the more you can tear into them.
    I ****ing hate that. I'm all for having a laugh or parring each other, but lots of people really don't know where to draw the line and I quite rightly tell them to do one. Acting like a complete douche and claiming it's banter is not ok. I think this is one of the reasons i've always struggled to form good friendships with other guys (have plenty of male acquaintances/friends but all my ''close'' friends are girls).
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    I ****ing hate that. I'm all for having a laugh or parring each other, but lots of people really don't know where to draw the line and I quite rightly tell them to do one. Acting like a complete douche and claiming it's banter is not ok. I think this is one of the reasons i've always struggled to form good friendships with other guys (have plenty of male acquaintances/friends but all my ''close'' friends are girls).
    Well you just know where the line is drawn amongst your mates really. I've stood in groups of rugby lads and the like where they're letting rip at each other about serious family illness and thought 'bit much really', but amongst your close mates you know what's acceptable and what's not.

    If one of us actually upset someone else we would, rightly, tell him to stop being a prick seriously, but if you know people well enough you shouldn't make that mistake.
 
 
 
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