I can't forget the past :(

Me and my boyfriend have been going out for 4 years and we've had lots of ups and downs...the trouble is that recently ive been finding it hard to forget the down side and i keep bringing it up...for example, he broke up with me for around 3 months after three years and he didnt tell me the truth about why he broke up with me, he just said that its because his family didnt like me...the true reason was that he needed space but he was scared to tell me because it would break my heart, especially because im really possessive over him (which can be a bad thing but i cant help it) and i dont like it when he chooses anyone over me...he admits he was wrong for lying for so long but i cant help bringing it up now (1 year later)...and i feel so hurt even though its our past...i know he wouldnt do it again but thats just one example of a past situation that i keep bringing up. its not fair on him either... should i break up with him? because no matter how much ive tried, i cant stop mentioning the past..and we always end up arguing about it.

Reply 1

generalebriety

I hate to be unhelpful, but I went through a very similar situation with one of my best friends (in fact, that was almost the only way it was different - he was my best friend and not my boyfriend). I didn't want anything to happen because whatever could've happened would've been bad. Now we still talk to each other but rarely and not in a very friendly way... just small talk really.

There is no easy way out of this situation. Pick the least painful for both of you and talk it through with him.

Reply 2

Purple

It will end up splitting you up if you cant stop mentioning it, think before you speak. He done it for your benefit stop throwing it back in his face.