Grrrrrr....i'm not jealous...honest

Ok to cut a long story short...I like this guy and I think he is oblivious to this fact. Anyway, we are chatting on MSN not more than a few mintues ago and out of the blue he mentions the name of this girl whom I have known since high school and who incidentally also went to my college and university :frown:

. Telling me how she looked really good and he needs to hook up with her. Just curious...why is he telling me this. i suspect that he knows that i like him and think that he did that to wind me up. The thing is, a friend of mine ages ago knew I liked him and to wind me up (I think and ruddy well hope)she said that she had heard a rumour that they were an item.

Help a girl people...I am crushed. This girl seems to get ALL the guys after her and I wonder why. I am not a jealous person and love her to bits but often wonder what the attraction is. Maybe as a fellow female i just can't see it. But seriously, has this little charade confirmed the rumour?....I really don't know what to do. I pretended to be really happy saying ...oh thats nice, do say hello to her for me...but I'm crushed and would appreciate some feedback.

Reply 1

chewitt_hemel

It's clearly eating you up inside and i think it's time you told him how you feel, it could go either way.
He may say yes and it will be the best decision youv'e ever made.
He may say no becuase he is with this girl or not with anybody but no anyway.

However the latter will be a weight off your mind (clearly) and will also allow you to get on with your life.

Reply 2

dogtanian

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To be honest, he's probably just excited about it. I liked someone once who told me, at length, about how he got with the birthday girl at a party a few days previous and how great she was over MSN for a very long time. Wasn't fun, but he didn't know I liked him. He did it because he was excited about his new relationship, not to get at me.

Reply 3

Anonymous #1

OP

dogtanian

To be honest, he's probably just excited about it. I liked someone once who told me, at length, about how he got with the birthday girl at a party a few days previous and how great she was over MSN for a very long time. Wasn't fun, but he didn't know I liked him. He did it because he was excited about his new relationship, not to get at me.

Yeouch!

Reply 4

Anonymous #1

OP

chewitt_hemel

It's clearly eating you up inside and i think it's time you told him how you feel, it could go either way.
He may say yes and it will be the best decision youv'e ever made.
He may say no becuase he is with this girl or not with anybody but no anyway.

However the latter will be a weight off your mind (clearly) and will also allow you to get on with your life.

So you really think telling him is a good idea? Great. Only thing is...since we mostly talk over MSN like twice a day some times (morning and night) its not really the place to do it is it? And would it be weird to just be calling him out of the blue to tell him...?? So Confused.....why are men so complicated :confused:

(even though he really isn't ....right Snap out of it ! ) :rolleyes:

in this situation...what do u think is the best way to go about it....

Reply 5

Anonymous #2

Likewise here. I'm guilty of telling a girl who liked me about my crushes on other girls, and evaluating them based on their looks (all in good jest). I never knew that she liked me until she told me one day though, and I've felt really bad about it since then since it would have been rather insensitive of me to either (1) not realise that the girl liked me OR (2) realise that the girl liked me and yet told her about my crushes, of which she was not one of them. Anyway, it was really hard to tell but we got over it, thankfully. Maybe he really doesn't know that you like him, as was my case. Tell him, perhaps? :smile:

Reply 6

Fluent in Lies

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chewitt_hemel

It's clearly eating you up inside and i think it's time you told him how you feel, it could go either way.
He may say yes and it will be the best decision youv'e ever made.
He may say no becuase he is with this girl or not with anybody but no anyway.

However the latter will be a weight off your mind (clearly) and will also allow you to get on with your life.

Pretty much agree with this. Go for it now.

I think he's probably not trying to make you jealous, but not thinking either.

Reply 7

Anonymous #1

OP

Thanks for all your advice guys...I think I will do just that...it's been bugging me for nearly 4 years now :smile:

(Deep Breath) Here goes......

Grrrrrr....i'm not jealous...honest

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