Thanks for the reply.
1) I am not sure why Laura was un-invited - initially I said I could go, but than my circumstances changed. Laura said she was always going - but the start of the week (so maybe Monday/Tuesday) the BYO on Friday Laura asked about time/location etc but was told there wasn't space. In Ashleys defence she did tell her later in the week there was space - but why invite and than uninvite and than invite someone?
Yeah, that's weird - had she booked already before inviting Laura? If not, maybe there really was no space, although she could have just been excluding her if the restaurant is usually not busy.I don't know why she would purposely exclude her - so I am guessing they didn't have space - but at the same time Laura was annoyed about it at the time and I did try and make excuses for Amy. I have not known BYO not to have spaces for groups and there was no apology or "we will try someplace else" or "I will keep you informed if someone drops out".
2) There were at our house for a total of four nights. We were not asked if it was ok and because she had only just moved in I didn't say anything - they were not noisy but it was imposing. Sorry the original post didn't make sense. I knew they were coming as she talked about it - but she didn't ask us both if it is ok if they stay over X nights. They were sleeping on the couch and a spare mattress that was being recycled.
That's definitely OTT in my opinion, did you speak to her about it afterwards? I can imagine especially after you've moved in you don't want loads of people bothering you, yeah, especially in a common area. She should really have people in her room and asked permission.3) Number yes, however she had my number saved in her new phone so I guess she forgot. I think by going through all the days and working out what day we were both available and setting a location and what to do - surely that is set in stone?
Yeah, forgetting not to give you her new number is understandable, blowing off plans you've made already is not on as you could have been doing something else.4) She apparently can't see her mirror in her room… it is just one of those problems that you have living with someone. She is not considerate. She prob gets annoyed when myself and Laura talk when she is in bed at 9.15pm.
Not such a big deal (is it just like 5 minutes extra in the bathroom) but rather silly IMO, why wouldn't you want to dry your hair in your room anyway? 5) Lauras friends are being invited over as just a dinner thing - she was talking to Laura and said "you should invite X and Y over for dinner one night". Laura is a nice girl so I don't think she would feel that way - we are rarely all home but having your two housemates ask to take you out for your birthday is ganging up?
No, I meant if you guys generally dislike her (and talk about it) she might have seen you as ganging up. Why do you feel like it's a slap in the face if it's not a birthday thing out of curiosity? I presume you guys are invited too? 6) Yeah I prob feel rejected and feel like I am back to square one with housemate. The other housemate we had no issue with, but neither did I do/Laura do much with her either. I hang out with Laura a few times a month - I have my own life but at the same time I want to make friends with my housemates.
Personally, if she doesn't want to be friends that's her problem? Be civil to her and obv draw boundaries regarding having friends over and how long people are in the bathroom and all that, but even if you're not going to be besties I wouldn't worry about it too much. 7) She is pleasant when she is at home, just invites us to stuff (but not her birthday) and doesn't follow through. It annoys me that she goes to bed at 9.15pm but she doesn't complain about our noise so I guess there is no problem.
Well, it's up to her if she wants to go to bed early. How do you know she's doing anything for her birthday btw? Some people don't celebrate them, bit weird I know but it doesn't mean she's not inviting you on purpose.