Want to "have it out" with a mate

Well, you were sort of a dick by cheating on her. I don't think assaulting your friend for pointing that out is going to help anything so I'd just let it go. But perhaps I'm just being ridiculous.

It's not that. It's the fact it's none of his business, also I am sure he had an agenda by hurting me. The whole "telling me I am wrong" is no biggie because I know that myself.

Basically a while ago I cheated on my long term gf. It was the first and only mistake I made of this nature in seven plus years. It still haunts me. It was a one off, alcohol fuelled and a tad of naivety/curiosity on my part due to inexperience with any girl except my gf-it all came to ahead that night. Plus my gf wanted me "to be free" like other men though the thought hurt her. I confessed immediately and she could see my pain. NEVER AGAIN.

Problem is one of my mates is being a **** about it all. In a moment of drunkenness he learnt of this and has mentioned it once to me again, whilst drunk. Saying you let her down, oh im sorry it just came out e.t.c. He did this because he knows it causes me immense pain and was angry at the time with me. He knew he overstepped the mark but couldn't bring himself to apologise, started being extremely nice and has since.

Yet that comment really annoys me, makes me want to knock his lights out. Should I confront him? It may also stem from the fact he has never had a long term gf, secretly likes my gf a little too.

He was angry and said something true but hurtful, probably regretted it the moment he said it. If he's being pleasant now then I'd just let it go, but if he does anything else to offend you then I'd suggest you just distance yourself from him as much as possible.

Dicks get treated like dicks. Don't wanna get treated like a dick? Don't be a dick.

He has tried to make amends since by being nice, immediately after he said

Your friend regrets bringing it up by being friendly and nice since. And he's not brought it up again. Do you really need an apology?

If you go back to 'have it out' now it'll just show that your mistakes are praying on your mind. If it comes up again maybe have an argument there and then.

Then what the ****'s your problem?

Be thankful of his friendship and move the **** on :/

Seriously, what's wrong with TSR users these days?

It was a one off, ever. And I learnt my lesson.

He has never had a long term gf and he always mentions how the bad guys get the girls. (rubbish theory) He gave an example once of his distant friend who kept cheating and cheating and she would still take him back. For some reason, he takes this all very personally, kind of weird in itself, maybe reflects on his own issues. But in my case he was clearly using a "weakness of mine" against me to hurt me.

So was his comment and it seems he's learnt his lesson.

Have you ever considered that this is how your girlfriend feels? She might not be talking about it but deepdown she probably wants to "have it out" or express how much it hurt her to you. She obviously likes you enough to let you sleep with another girl in order to stay with you.

Stop being a inconsiderate *******, the only reason you're upset at your friend still is because you KNOW what he said is true. Instead of being more of an ******* BE A MAN, accept you made mistake (NOT ALCOHOL, YOU), shower your girlfriend with ****, forgive your mate (you DID let her down) and move the hell on.

Your girlfriend deserves a lot better then some inconsiderate ******* that is "upset" that his mate called him out on the **** he's done. Trust me mate, I'd have called you A LOT worse.

Basically a while ago I cheated on my long term gf. It was the first and only mistake I made of this nature in seven plus years. It still haunts me. It was a one off, alcohol fuelled and a tad of naivety/curiosity on my part due to inexperience with any girl except my gf-it all came to ahead that night. Plus my gf wanted me "to be free" like other men though the thought hurt her. I confessed immediately and she could see my pain. NEVER AGAIN.

Problem is one of my mates is being a **** about it all. In a moment of drunkenness he learnt of this and has mentioned it once to me again, whilst drunk. Saying you let her down, oh im sorry it just came out e.t.c. He did this because he knows it causes me immense pain and was angry at the time with me. He knew he overstepped the mark but couldn't bring himself to apologise, started being extremely nice and has since.

Yet that comment really annoys me, makes me want to knock his lights out. Should I confront him? It may also stem from the fact he has never had a long term gf, secretly likes my gf a little too.