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girlfriend had breast-reduction op behind my back

Chewwy

17

this has put a dreadful strain on the relationship.

Reply 1

frost105

14

Have you asked her why she didnt tell you?

Reply 2

Agony Aunt

11

She should have asked you first.. but it's not that big a deal because what matters is how she feels happy with herself.. isn't it? If she's happy then you're happy..

Reply 3

Wonderboy Blue

1

It was her decision. Obviously they were bothering her.

Also, if she did it behind your back you can't have that good of a relationship.

Reply 4

bedbug

14

Why should she have consulted you about it? It's her body and she can do what she wants with it.

Reply 5

Joce

Why would this put a strain on your relationship?? is it the fact that she didnt tell you or the fact her breasts has been reduced?? sorry if that seemed harsh. Either way it was not a decision that was anything to do with you really. if they were big enough to cause discomfort then maybe a reduction was a good thing.

Reply 6

matchu

2

Joce

Why would this put a strain on your relationship?? is it the fact that she didnt tell you or the fact her breasts has been reduced?? sorry if that seemed harsh. Either way it was not a decision that was anything to do with you really. if they were big enough to cause discomfort then maybe a reduction was a good thing.

I'd assume someone should at least let their partner know if they were going to have something so big and essentially lifechanging done.

Reply 7

Elusive Moose

1

Why has it put a strain on your relationship? It's her body and it's completely up to her as to what she does with it. Maybe she felt embarassed about the operation, or was worried that you'd disapprove if she told you? It may feel upsetting and like she couldn't confide in you, but she was probably just a bit nervous and I'm sure she didn't not tell you to hurt you. I honestly don't see how this could strain someone's relationship, unless you're being unsupportive of her decision...

Reply 8

frost105

14

Elusive Moose

Why has it put a strain on your relationship? It's her body and it's completely up to her as to what she does with it. Maybe she felt embarassed about the operation, or was worried that you'd disapprove if she told you? It may feel upsetting and like she couldn't confide in you, but she was probably just a bit nervous and I'm sure she didn't not tell you to hurt you. I honestly don't see how this could strain someone's relationship, unless you're being unsupportive of her decision...

If your parner was having such a huge operation wouldnt you be upset that you'd been shut out of such a huge decision in their life and not been even given the opportunity to be supportive?

Reply 9

Laura Lou

13

How long have you been together? Were you aware that she was unhappy with the size of her breasts?
Ultimately, it was her decision but I can see why you are unhappy that she didn't discuss it with you. Have you talked about it properly since the op?

Reply 10

Joce

Straas

I'd assume someone should at least let their partner know if they were going to have something so big and essentially lifechanging done.

A breast reduction is a big thing in terms of surgery but not in terms of how it would affect their relationship afterwards. So what if she has made her breasts smaller. Its not like she had an abortion behind his back The only thing that is different is her apperance not anything else. Dont get me wrong if i was considering something like that i would have spoken to my partner about it but ultimately I would leave the decision up to myself.
At the end of the day there was obviously a reason for not telling her partner otherwise she would have.

Reply 11

Anonymous #1

squirly

Why should she have consulted you about it? It's her body and she can do what she wants with it.

If a girl posted "my bf got his ear pierced without telling me" or "my bf got a nose job without telling me" then you'd be moaning and saying stuff like "dump him. he sounds like a wang if he can't even let you be part of the important decisions in his life". :mad:

Reply 12

ThePants999

14

In a long term relationship myself, I'd be horrified if my girlfriend had any kind of operation - cosmetic or otherwise - without telling me. Sure, it's her body, and it would be completely wrong to try to talk her out of it purely on the basis of "well I like big breasts", but relationships are founded on trust.

Reply 13

gyrase

3

Calm down people, the OP is joking.

Reply 14

Dragon24

17

Maybe he loved she the way he thought she didn't need an operation. It's not all about male satisfaction. Lack of communication though, would be nice to have your partner's support.

Reply 15

AT82

I have not read this thread, but in response to the title alone yuo do not own her, and she can do what she fipping well likes.

Reply 16

sundissential

I can't believe most of these replies, i would be devestated if my gf didn't tell me about such a big operation. Of course its up to her if she does it or not, but surely she should have let him know before she did it.

Reply 17

Sheen

11

Agony Aunt

She should have asked you first.. but it's not that big a deal because what matters is how she feels happy with herself.. isn't it? If she's happy then you're happy..

ask!?!? erm more like she should have told him first.
its her body so she can do what she likes.
its not him who has to deal with the back problems and stuff you get if you have huge ones.

Reply 18

clyn

1

Agreeing with AT82 here, it's bugger all to do with you pally-boy, it's not as if you're her husband and she's paying for it with the joint savings account or anything. Stop being such a bloody drama queen.

Reply 19

Sheen

11

clyn

Agreeing with AT82 here, it's bugger all to do with you pally-boy, it's not as if you're her husband and she's paying for it with the joint savings account or anything. Stop being such a bloody drama queen.

true.
shes still got some boobs so dont complain.
its not that big of a deal....could of been worse

girlfriend had breast-reduction op behind my back

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