Decisions

Any advice would be so much appreciated.

I have a girlfriend of 1 year and 7 months. Last night, however, I kinda cheated with her at a party. I was 'fondling' with a girl and although we didnt kiss properly she kissed me a few times. Here's the bad bit: I enjoyed it. I found it so much more exciting.

I told my girlfriend this and that I wsh I could have had more experience with girls before her ( only kissed 1 girl before my girlfriend ) and I really do regret it. She really wants to make a go of it, but Im not sure what to do. I enjoy every minute with her but theres always this feeling that Ive missed out on my youth and I cant stop thinking about last night. I have to stop messing her about, but Im so confused.

Reply 1

Glory

1

if you can see yourself growing old with your girlfriend make a go at it. If you cant move on, although i doubt you you missed out on much. Temptation always seems more appealing when your in that situtation.

Reply 2

generalebriety

16

Anonymous

Any advice would be so much appreciated.

I have a girlfriend of 1 year and 7 months. Last night, however, I kinda cheated with her at a party. I was 'fondling' with a girl and although we didnt kiss properly she kissed me a few times. Here's the bad bit: I enjoyed it. I found it so much more exciting.

I told my girlfriend this and that I wsh I could have had more experience with girls before her ( only kissed 1 girl before my girlfriend ) and I really do regret it. She really wants to make a go of it, but Im not sure what to do. I enjoy every minute with her but theres always this feeling that Ive missed out on my youth and I cant stop thinking about last night. I have to stop messing her about, but Im so confused.

Here's my take on the situation, feel free to take it or leave it: your girlfriend is very little more to you than a very good friend, and you're really not ready for a relationship. On the other hand if you think you are ready for a relationship (...then why are you posting here?), you need to overcome those feelings towards other girls, or dump your girlfriend. Otherwise more people will get hurt than necessary. How old are you out of interest?

Reply 3

lucasharrison

2

Im 17. I dont think I was ready for a serious relationship but it kinda happened.

Reply 4

pumpkin7

13

if you don't think you will go far with your girlfriend, then i suggest you just come clean with her. to be honest, even if you do want to stay with her, honesty is always the best policy. she may understand, she may not, but if you found it more exciting with another girl then maybe your girlfriend isn't who you are meant to be with.
you know when you find the right person. you don't even look at anyone else because you are so in love. obviously something isn't right with you and your girlfriend, so either way, tell her the truth and get it over with. it will be much better than beating yourself up about it.

Reply 5

zain88

1

if you don't want a long-term relationship there's nothing wrong with that. if you want to get to know and be with lots of girls then you can do that. there is no rules saying 17 year olds must experiment with lots of girls or 17 year olds must have long term relationships only.

obviously you have to make up your mind about what you want but i would say there is no such thing as wasting your youth just because you were with one girl. because you might have had the best 1 yr 7 mnths ever! even if you didn't, you aren't wasting your youth because you will still be young for many years.

Reply 6

Chi3f

1

when it comes to decisions, there nothing better than the magic 8 ball...

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