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i'm off to uni this autumn and it's only now that i've realised that i'm going to be leaving home for good and that i'll be on my own quite far away...
i've never had a good relationship with my family; in fact i have been bullied by my siblings and i don't get on with my mum but even so i am beginning to get cold feet about the whole experience and would rather stay in my little bubble as i know the order of things and how everything is.
does anyone have any advice/went through the same thing? I'm feeling really anxious about it...and a bit worried that i won't cope since my parents have been quite overprotective of me and i've never had a real chance to be independent. i'm also worried about the social aspect, since i went to an all girls' school and uni might be total shock to the system.
i've never had a good relationship with my family; in fact i have been bullied by my siblings and i don't get on with my mum but even so i am beginning to get cold feet about the whole experience and would rather stay in my little bubble as i know the order of things and how everything is.
does anyone have any advice/went through the same thing? I'm feeling really anxious about it...and a bit worried that i won't cope since my parents have been quite overprotective of me and i've never had a real chance to be independent. i'm also worried about the social aspect, since i went to an all girls' school and uni might be total shock to the system.
Hey I wasn't in exactly the same situation as you but I felt like I wasn't ready to leave home. I was terribly homesick for the first term but you do get settled in. I had so many other things to think about and do that I soon settled in. Although I only moved 1 hr and a half away, I moved from the countryside to London which seem to be two different worlds so there was a lot to adjust to. You will be fine! It may be tough to begin with but you'll get there x x x
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i'm off to uni this autumn and it's only now that i've realised that i'm going to be leaving home for good and that i'll be on my own quite far away...
i've never had a good relationship with my family; in fact i have been bullied by my siblings and i don't get on with my mum but even so i am beginning to get cold feet about the whole experience and would rather stay in my little bubble as i know the order of things and how everything is.
does anyone have any advice/went through the same thing? I'm feeling really anxious about it...and a bit worried that i won't cope since my parents have been quite overprotective of me and i've never had a real chance to be independent. i'm also worried about the social aspect, since i went to an all girls' school and uni might be total shock to the system.
i've never had a good relationship with my family; in fact i have been bullied by my siblings and i don't get on with my mum but even so i am beginning to get cold feet about the whole experience and would rather stay in my little bubble as i know the order of things and how everything is.
does anyone have any advice/went through the same thing? I'm feeling really anxious about it...and a bit worried that i won't cope since my parents have been quite overprotective of me and i've never had a real chance to be independent. i'm also worried about the social aspect, since i went to an all girls' school and uni might be total shock to the system.
this is your chance to be independent now! you can be who you really are and learn so much, meet so many new people. i'll just be repeating what people always say: everyone is in the same boat. no one is going to immediately have a great social life because everyone is going to take a bit of time to get to make good friends. and there are many all-girls and all-boys schools all over the country so you won't be alone in that way.
i think at some point most people have hesitations about leaving home because no one likes to leave their comfort zone but once they are out its great. maybe try to contact some people who are going to your uni through a forum or something if your uni has one? that way you know AT LEAST one person. i think uni might be a shock for you but definitely in a positive way
this is your chance to create your life the way you want it.
I can sympathise with the all-girls situation... IMO if you don't get out of your "bubble" (as you have so nicely called it) at this opportunity you may never get the courage to escape from it another day.
The independence that comes with moving away with home is very important. We all have to learn not to be dependent on our parents, because, to put this very bluntly, they aren't going to be around forever.
Remember that home will always be there to go to while you're at uni, you may be 'leaving home' but it doesn't mean that you aren't part of the family anymore, and it definitely does not mean that you are not welcome back.
It's better just to go for it. Face the real world now, because it'll happen sooner or later. (although I'm not surewhether going to uni = entering the real world, but it's the first step). Make it your decision, not someone else's.
Good luck ^^
The independence that comes with moving away with home is very important. We all have to learn not to be dependent on our parents, because, to put this very bluntly, they aren't going to be around forever.
Remember that home will always be there to go to while you're at uni, you may be 'leaving home' but it doesn't mean that you aren't part of the family anymore, and it definitely does not mean that you are not welcome back.
It's better just to go for it. Face the real world now, because it'll happen sooner or later. (although I'm not surewhether going to uni = entering the real world, but it's the first step). Make it your decision, not someone else's.
Good luck ^^
moving away is the best thing you can do and you'll have a fantasic time. don;t worry about your family!
Aww, you'll have a great time! Girls schools are lame, you'll be glad to get back into mixed education. There are so many student advisors and counsellers etc at uni that you'll always have someone to chat to.
Just think of the freedom you will have. I can't wait to get out of here.
Going to uni as well in the Autumn. Yea its gonna be hard because everything gonna be so new and different, but instead of worrying about that I find it really exciting.
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