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I just told her 'I Love You'

Its been 15mins+ since I told my g/f I loved her and then said bye on the phone. I texted her straight after asking if she heard what I said. She hasnt replied since.
Should I take this as bad news?

Reply 1

Ron Stoppable

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Anonymous

Its been 15mins+ since I told my g/f I loved her and then said bye on the phone. I texted her straight after asking if she heard what I said. She hasnt replied since.
Should I take this as bad news?

Don't worry. She's probably just busy arranging the wedding.

How long have you been seeing this girl for?

Reply 2

Anonymous #2

The texting her after was stupid. Every single girl (no matter if she loves you or not) will love if you tell her that you love her. But the texting her was stupid, because now it seems like you want her to say the same back. You could turn it into a joke: call her and say "did you hear? did you hear? i can't keep it inside me, i love you sooooo much, i love you in the morning, in the evening, all the time...I LOVE YOU! you're the most lovable thing!" or something along those lines.

Reply 3

Anonymous #1

OP

Anonymous

The texting her after was stupid. Every single girl (no matter if she loves you or not) will love if you tell her that you love her. But the texting her was stupid, because now it seems like you want her to say the same back. You could turn it into a joke: call her and say "did you hear? did you hear? i can't keep it inside me, i love you sooooo much, i love you in the morning, in the evening, all the time...I LOVE YOU! you're the most lovable thing!" or something along those lines.

reason why I asked did you hear me was because loud music was on in the background at the time and she was in the car.
Just got a text back - 'Yes I did, you sweet thing. Lova ya'.
:biggrin:

Reply 4

Anonymous #1

OP

Ron Stoppable

Don't worry. She's probably just busy arranging the wedding.

How long have you been seeing this girl for?

Sorry, forgot to answer your question. Its been about 3 months I have been seeing her and known her for over 8 months.

Reply 5

Note

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When i read the title I had images of someone telling their gf "I love you" then running to the computer to post this thread leaving her baffled in the other room.

Reply 6

Anonymous #1

OP

Note

When i read the title I had images of someone telling their gf "I love you" then running to the computer to post this thread leaving her baffled in the other room.

Believe me m8, if I had the chance to do it in person I would of. Last night we kind of had a really close chat and I wanted to tell her then. Then it played on my mind all night. I was going to do it half way through the night but I thought she needed her sleep cause of her long day today. So instead when I woke up thats the first thing I did.

Reply 7

Anonymous #1

OP

Ron Stoppable

And already saying "I love you"? Whatever floats your boat...

Well in those 3 months we spent a hell of allot of time together. I've lived with her, shes lived with me. It just feels so right. I've grown to understand her in such a short time and everything feels so right between us. I even introduced my gf to one of my friends and while we was having dinner she was looking at me. My friend said 'you can see how much you 2 are in love'. I said how can you tell, he said the eye contact gives it all away. I mean that was hes view but I just know it.

Reply 8

al-CIAda

omg you told her you loved her? what on earth were you thinking? dont you know the age old maxim "treat 'em mean and keep 'em keen" - as soon as you start telling a girl you love her she'll either lose interest because you're no longer a challenge - i.e she already won the game, you love her now.. OR .. she'll start walking all over you because you're the one thats in love. she will crush you like a paper cup.

oh i dont envy you one bit, sonny!

may god have mercy on your soul.

Reply 9

harry5069

Leave the guy alone, if he's happy and the girl's obviously happy, she says she loves him, then it's all good. Good luck to you, hope everything goes well with her.

Reply 10

FrisbeeFan

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al-CIAda

omg you told her you loved her? what on earth were you thinking? dont you know the age old maxim "treat 'em mean and keep 'em keen" - as soon as you start telling a girl you love her she'll either lose interest because you're no longer a challenge - i.e she already won the game, you love her now.. OR .. she'll start walking all over you because you're the one thats in love. she will crush you like a paper cup.

oh i dont envy you one bit, sonny!

may god have mercy on your soul.

I hope this is a joke! If it isn't then it's a load of tosh! You seem to view relationships as being completely based on manipulation and power struggles, not mutual trust and appreciation. :eek:

If the OP loves his girlfriend then good for him; there's nothing wrong at all with expressing it. My boyfrind told me he loved me about 2-3 months after we started going out and after 19 months we are stronger than ever!

Reply 11

Anonymous #3

If its a relationship you should be nice, if ur just a "player" and trying to pick girls up then thats when you always stay in control and never let her think shes ahead... confidence and power, 2 things girls cant get enough of :biggrin:

Reply 12

Bread and Circlejerks

Ron Stoppable

And already saying "I love you"? Whatever floats your boat...

This is a good point. There are rules, you know, OP!!!! For example, never talk to a girl about the sacking of Rome unless you've known her for six and a quarter hours.

Reply 13

strawberry

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Ron Stoppable

Don't worry. She's probably just busy arranging the wedding.

How long have you been seeing this girl for?

oh man you're hilarious.
there was a time when my ex and I playfully got married online. a month later, he divorced me. :p:

anyway, yes the texting after was a little dumb but I can't blame you. usually I'd reply because I know the guy would want a reaction. Just wait for her reply. I don't blame you for texting her after. I would expect it if I hadn't replied :smile:

Reply 14

shady lane

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You shouldn't have said it the first time on the phone. Luckily it worked out...but it's better in person :smile:

Reply 15

*Claire*

1

Whats wrong with saying 'I love you' after a few months? It depends on how long you have known each other etc as well as how long you've been going out. My ex bf told me he loved me after a few weeks but we'd been best mates before & he'd been chasing for a while! I said it back soon after. So altho we hadn't been going out long, we'd known each other well for ages. On the other hand if you have only just met the person before you start going out you will prob wait longer. It seems sad that you need power struggles etc in a relaionship, i've been thru the game playing but I wouldn't go out with someone if all that continued in the relationship. I think its good the OP was honest

Reply 16

Amnesia

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Usually I would recommend waiting for her to say she loves you first in a relationship before you tell her you love her. Also, if you do feel the need to say it tell her person next time. That way you can see her reaction and it will put her on the spot. Telling her you love her will not increase her attraction for you, in fact it could do the opposite.

Reply 17

apricot

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my bf told me that he loved me after 2months of going out

Reply 18

strawberry

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my ex told me he loved me even before he met me in person. LOL

Reply 19

pumpkin7

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Ron Stoppable

And already saying "I love you"? Whatever floats your boat...

mm, my boyfriend said that to me after a few hours.. though we had spent a bit of time together before hand.. i didn't see it as anything particularly life changing. :redface:

I just told her 'I Love You'

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