What to do..?

I need a bit of advice on what to do with my current situation with my boyfriend, any advice would be very appreciated, I'm completetly lost and all of my friends are giving completely different pieces of advice. Firstly, my boyfriend and I have been going out for over a year, and have known each other before that too. Everything was great at the start, and I eventually told him I loved him after about 4/5 months, although he said it back then, he never said it again, even if I did so. So that hasn't been mentioned since that stage. Now he's also decided that he wants us to break up for uni. Even though Aberdeen and Glasgow in my opinion aren't THAT far apart, some people stay together opposite ends of the country! Now he's making NO time for me at all, I thought over summer because of what was coming, he'd spend time with me. I've seen him once, because he's always out with his friends or at the pub with his friends watching world cup matches. Sometimes, I think to myself I want to stay together, sometimes I think it'll give me a fresh start because of the obvious mess of some of the aspects of our relationship. Some of my friends are telling me I should break up now to give myself time to "heal" before university, but I think I'd rather leave it. I really don't know what'd be best/what to do. Anyone who can give me any advice, is welcome to do so, good or bad! :smile:

Reply 1

Glory

the love thing, some guys feel presured into returning the favour. Hes probabily realised that he shouldnt just say things for the sake of it. I get the feeling from what your saying the relationship is getting more and mroe one sided.

You cant force him to keep going out with you, and if you think theres no chance of him changing his mind, you may as well get it over and done with. Im sure you will meet new people at university. Dont expect a boyfriend straight away though.

I had a break up shortly before starting university, took me 18 months to get myself mentally ready for another relationship, and then when i felt i was ready to move on, my current boyfriend asked me out, which was kinda out of the blue.

Reply 2

1013

It's sad but it seems like he doesn't want to be with you. If he did, then he would attempt to make the long distance thing work. I would break up sooner rather than later as it seems pointless to drag it out.

Reply 3

robby88

sounds like he wants to experience 'university life' in the trouser department lol

Reply 4

username47781

If he truely loved you he'd give it a go but if he doesn't want it i wouldn't wait till september to end it, i'd do it now, maybe he wants to play the field a bit at Uni.