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why would he do that?

I dont want to make this one too graphic, as i'm afraid it might get deleted, but i genuinely am confused about it and would like to know other people's opinions.
My boyfriend and I have been going out almost a year and a half, and are totally in love. and the other day when we were having sex, it seemed even better and more sort of passionate than usual. He was being all loving and affectionate, and then he said "please can i cum in your face". i was taken aback and slightly confused and didnt realy reply, but then he asked again, and because of the heat of the moment and because i love him so much, i said yes.

But i just find that so weird, i know that a lot of guys have a sort of fantasy about doing that because its so common in porn, and they would do it to feel good about themselves, but i dont see this as being a likely reason in this situation. I think its quite degrading. Although i dont mind in retrospect, i love him so its fine, i obviously wouldnt dream of letting someone do that who i hadnt been out with for that long before.
Does anyone know or can think of a reason why he would want to do that so much?
Reply 1
Maybe he wanted to experiment or wanted to know what the porn stars feel like when they do it.

Cant say id like it much.
Maybe he likes the whole feeling dirty type thing.
Reply 3
Some guys like it. But if you aren't into it, or feel degraded, then you don't have to do it.
Simple conditioning - monkey see, monkey do. Common symptom of keyboard jockeys who learn from dodgy online sources instead of experiences.

Talking to him about it won't necessary change these programmed desires and urges; you'll have to re-condition him if you want a change.
Reply 5
1013
Some guys like it.

But what is IT ? is it a feeling of power, domination, love?? because he's not particularly the dominating type, and this is the first time in a year of having sex he's ever brought it up, And he probably watches less porn now than he used to so its not like he's suddenly been given ideas...
Reply 6
I would say dominating, making you feel dirty that kind of stuff. I wouldnt say it was love, hickies are more love although rather childish.
Reply 7
I personally find it disgusting. I haven't had it done to me but if a guy asked me (no matter how much I loved him). I'd tell him where to go. Next time ask him... "Can i crap on your face"....see how he likes that.
Reply 8
lucky bast*rd lol
Reply 9
robby88
lucky bast*rd lol

so you know why he'd want to?
Quote: "please can i cum on your face?"

Seems really polite considering the heat of the moment, if he was a jackass he would have a) just tried to do it or b) said "I am gonna cum on your face now!!!". Anyway, he was asking your opinion and wouldnt do it unless you agreed. I thought this was gonna be a thread about him just shoving it up ur ass or something during sex and you were gonna be really angry!! Anyway, all it means is that you have to clean your face afterwards ... get him to do it on your tits, thats another good one.
Reply 11
Erg