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    im 18, and i am about to go on my first date 2morrow.

    Me as a whole, i am shy, never kissed a girl, or nothing, and the person i am going to met i meet off the internet through a dating website.

    I got cold feet, but i am gonna go through with this, just wondering if any guys/gals can give me any advice on what to say, and what not to say kinda of thing? and topic starting convos
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    just be yourself.
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    :ditto:
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    before you edited that.. i am female.. not a guy

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    keep cool, be a gentleman and be yourself
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    When I go on first dates I don't like to speak too heavily about myself. Don't feel you have to tell her your life history or everything about yourself. Don't be interviewed! Try and ask her questions about herself and keep to topics such as films, music, travel etc. That way you will remain interesting and keep an air of mystery. In my opinion a common mistake people make is to start divulging too much information about themselves and their personal life. Just stick to fun topics and try to see what sort of personality she has.
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    Don't treat this as your only opportunity, it'll make you nervous and she'll know it. Be cool and just do as everyone suggests - be yourself, be a gentleman and don't try to be anything else.

    Remember if this doesn't work out, it's no biggy, there's LOADS more chicks out there!
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    I agree pretty much with Amnesia there. It can be very tempting to just spill out all your thoughts and feelings and it can be pretty scary for the other person if they're not ready. One other off-putting thing are people who try to present themselves in a certain way but try too hard: like a wannabe tough guy desperately going on about how tough he is but through what he says, he's not believable or people who tell you how fun they are or what a laugh they are: sorry but fun people do not go on about how fun they are.

    I still think you should let your personality shine through (unless it's really horrible). I sometimes find it nice to bond by talking about simple things like which high school you went to, or what your first girlfriend was like. It can seem cringe-worthy written like that but it's my personal preference to have a first date like that, rather than just the "what's your favourite band?" kind of date.
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    (Original post by Sticky)
    I agree pretty much with Amnesia there. It can be very tempting to just spill out all your thoughts and feelings and it can be pretty scary for the other person if they're not ready. One other off-putting thing are people who try to present themselves in a certain way but try too hard: like a wannabe tough guy desperately going on about how tough he is but through what he says, he's not believable or people who tell you how fun they are or what a laugh they are: sorry but fun people do not go on about how fun they are.

    I still think you should let your personality shine through (unless it's really horrible). I sometimes find it nice to bond by talking about simple things like which high school you went to, or what your first girlfriend was like. It can seem cringe-worthy written like that but it's my personal preference to have a first date like that, rather than just the "what's your favourite band?" kind of date.

    Out of interest mate, what sort of response do you get when you bring up your first girlfriend?
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    I would just like to say that I don't think it is a good idea to bring up past girlfriends, especially on the first date.
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    (Original post by lime3k)
    Out of interest mate, what sort of response do you get when you bring up your first girlfriend?
    as in first kiss. I'm assuming you're not 15 and your first kiss wasn't a few months before.

    It's the little stupid details like that that allow you to really know a person.
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    i ahve never had a girlfreind before, and i have never kissed a girl, that why i am so nervouse probly
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    She'll be as nervous as you probably, just try and go with the flow. Don't try hide it - she'll notice, like a poster above said, joke about it, don't try and hide it and you'll feel better in the long run.
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    This will sound like a cliche, but don't forget to smile. It helps to put the other person at ease and will make you feel a little better.
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    Off the internet? Meet in a well lit area and let people know where you are and when you'll be home!

    But other than that, just don't be too nervous. Remember that they're human too and will probably feel anxious.
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    (Original post by Sticky)
    as in first kiss. I'm assuming you're not 15 and your first kiss wasn't a few months before.

    It's the little stupid details like that that allow you to really know a person.
    Ahh, got ya'
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    i ahve never had a girlfreind before, and i have never kissed a girl, that why i am so nervouse probly
    Look, he's so nervous, he can't type properly!
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    ask her questions. nothing to deep tho. girls like to talk about themselves. if you go on about yourself all night that will not be appreciated. be freindly, polite and most importnantly be yourself. dont act up and try be someone your not. good luck
 
 
 
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