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Hello everyone,

I have failed uni for the second year in a row, i just split up with my girlfriend, my acne is coming back and i have no friends. As i'm typing this tears are coming from my eyes- i don't know if i want to keep living or not.

My dad said it best - "you don't seem to get any kick out of life", and he's right, i don't. I don't enjoy anything at all. I feel very alone and i don't really want to live anymore.:confused:


I just want to throw myself off a big building.
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your dad told you to kill yourself?
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Hello

No, he said that i never seem to enjoy life and that i'm a big disappointment to him.
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Dear oh dear...take yourself off for a trip around the world, experience different ways of life and different cultures.
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My best friend killed herself - the fall out is not nice.

Go and see your GP, or speak to someone you trust. Suicide is kinda final, and as horrid as they seem, your problems may only be transient...
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(Original post by vard06)
Hello everyone,

I have failed uni for the second year in a row, i just split up with my girlfriend, my acne is coming back and i have no friends. As i'm typing this tears are coming from my eyes- i don't know if i want to keep living or not.

My dad said it best - "you don't seem to get any kick out of life", and he's right, i don't. I don't enjoy anything at all. I feel very alone and i don't really want to live anymore.:confused:


I just want to throw myself off a big building.
Hey, really sorry to hear all these bad things have been happening to you, that must be hard - not worth dying for though. In hard times we learn alot about ourselves, and we grow and gain strength that we will need again some day. Perhaps uni just isn't for you, get a full time job/apprenticeship and work your way up that way - it's as respected as a degree and much more exciting. You will find another girlfriend - there's plenty of lovely girls about and you will move on in time, but you have to be patient. Acne can be solved by medication from your doctor, my friend has used and and she looks excellent now, but it will have been triggered by stress. You can make friends again, that's an exciting prospect - maybe in a job or join a club - anything - join the gym maybe, that'll take your mind off things.

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Hello

No, he said that i never seem to enjoy life and that i'm a big disappointment to him.
Harsh, but you're old enough now to say 'shut the **** up' :p:
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You don't get a kick, as in you feel 'numb'??
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DON'T kill yourself. That would just be cocking everything else up (though I'm not saying you have). What do you mean by failed Uni, failed to get in twice or dropped out twice?
Mabye you could see about getting your own place as this would allow you to escape from your dads negative comments.
You should see your GP and call the Samaritans.
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Hello

Thankyou all for your replies!


I'll explain about uni.... im at newcastle uni - love the place, have some friends (but not any really close ones) , i failed last year, and am repeating second year this year (so i've done second year for two years in a row, if you unerstand!) The problem is i seem to depress myself terribly for no reason - not going to seminars or lectures, and then i fail. I don't know why this is, i should be really happy in life but i'm not at all. I would love to take a year out but the question then would be what do i do after, without a degree?

That's kinda why i feel so helpess.

I have no friends around at home, my mum and dad barely talk to me, i feel like i'm just in limbo at themo.
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You have obviously done well and worked hard previously to get onto your uni course so that is an achievement to be proud of . It depends on the course cos if your doing a really difficult subject that could be the problem. Have you passed the course? Or failed some modules? Couldn't you transfer to another uni cos I don't rate the teaching if they aren't willing to teach students to help them pass. Suicide is not the answer at all, there are many organisations who will help you. Can you speak to someone at your uni and see where you are going wrong? My uni are willing to help when there is a problem. You have your family who will support you so you are not alone.
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Do something you really enjoy. Anything! (not suicide)

Loads of people drop out of college and live happy lives, cause they dont let failure get them down and instead look at it as a learning experience.

Try not to live up to other peoples expectations so much ( like your dad and your gf ), and just focus on what you want to do, cause those that matter dont mind, and those that mind dont matter.

The acne is probably caused by stress, but ultimately its whats on the inside that counts. ( no bs )
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Make an appointment to see someone here: http://www.ncl.ac.uk/student.counselling/
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Hello

Yes, i did work v hard for my a levels but i have no motivation for my degree - ijust can't see myself doing well so i don't try as hard as i should (i know that is counter-productive). I've failed 5 modules (out of six)

And as for the counselling address, thankyou, i actually went for an appointment yesterday, which was very useful

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And Timeslikethese, thankyou for your posts. I was (still am ) really in love with my ex, but you're right that there are plenty more people out there.
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you wont accomplish anything from commiting suicide, i know things seem bad
to a ridiculous extent at the moment but thats no reason to quit. why dont you take a while off uni and relax for a while then get back into it when you are ready. you need a good time, im sure there is someone that you can meet up with to talk to and have a day out. the worst thing you can do is quit everyone has a value just by being alove, you just need to find yours again.
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But i would acheive something through suicide , i wouldn't be so upset anymore
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But i would acheive something through suicide , i wouldn't be so upset anymore
But it is fairly terminal. Is it worth it?
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I would say it's very terminal!


I don't know. I feel like i fail in everything, life, love, work, fun..... negative i know, but i don't know what i'm to do with myself to be happy.

So to answer the question.... I don't know. I just feel quite depressed so i'm not too sure.
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(Original post by vard06)
But i would acheive something through suicide , i wouldn't be so upset anymore

that may seem like an acheivent to you but is it really worth your life. if you commit suicide you are giving up your life just to get rid of the pain you are feeling inside, that pain will go away eventually. you wil pass university, you will find new friends and you will find someone new to be with who loves you for you. but you have to work for it. if you dont you will be missing out on what you could have just because you are upset now.

you have been given a life so live it.
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