Jealousy/ Girlfreind and best mate thing- please help!

1

Hi,

I have been going out with my girlfreind officially for about 2 weeks now, on Friday she want's me to go out with her and her mates.
Her best mate is a guy and they used to fancy each other. And I don't think i deserve her, so I kinda have a jealousy problem that comes and goes, and i'm worried i'm going to be trying to compete with him to make her laugh and things, and the fact i could just get really jelous, which could ruin the whole evening for me, especially as everyone is staying over her house over night, it would just make me paranoid.

I don't really know what i'm looking for....words of wisdom, reassurance, something?
It's making me feel a bit sick now.

Thanks :tsr2:

Reply 1

**Pinx**

Hmm. Don't worry bout it...if she liked this guy then she would be going out with him. She's going out with YOU...don't let jealousy get in the way of your relationship...especially if you want it to last.

Go with the flow...you don't have to compete with anyone...just be yourself.

:biggrin:

Reply 2

mattyboi2k8

OP

1

Thanks

Anymore views etc would be amazing!

Every little helps.

Reply 3

podder

1

i agree withthe above. shes seeing you not him so she obviously sees something inyou that he doenst have. he may make her laugh but thats what friends do. try not to get jeolous or if you do try not show it during the evening. dont compete, be yourself and try have fun. your gf will really like it if the night goes so try do it for her

Reply 4

PremiershipFootballer

1

Whatever you do, dont let her think your jealous. Dont be jealous. THat means dont even think about it being a competition. Just be cool knowing that she chose you over him. Just focus on having a good time.

Reply 5

Girlie

1

You'll be fine. She chose you, so she obviously wants to be with you and she wants you to meet her friends. You have nothing to worry about. :smile:

Reply 6

mattyboi2k8

OP

1

Yeah I am trying to, but she is one of those girls, that is beautiful, has lots of guys liking her and isn't aware of it, I feel so lucky to have her!
It is just annoying me now.

Reply 7

susie*

I agree with Pinx, if they were going to be together then it would have happened before when they both fancied eachother. The fact that they're not means that you have something that he was lacking which should make you feel great. Also, she's inviting you out with them which means that she feels there is nothing to hide between them and she doesn't feel the need to keep the two of you separate. Don't worry, it's bound to be a bit awkward for you but only if you compare yourself constantly with the friend and let your confidence issues ruin what could be a good night. Relax and remember you are the chosen one. Don't feel pressurised to perform infront of them or try extra hard to make her laugh etc because she will notice and it will probably make you seem insecure and a little desperate. play it cool. :smile:

Reply 8

PremiershipFootballer

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kacas

Yeah I am trying to, but she is one of those girls, that is beautiful, has lots of guys liking her and isn't aware of it, I feel so lucky to have her!
It is just annoying me now.

Youll never get anywhere with that kind of attitude. Go out and have your own fun. THeres no point in worrying about losing her all the time, because then you eventually will. If you lose her, so what? Theres always another girl...

Reply 9

mattyboi2k8

OP

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If you lose her, so what? Theres always another girl...

I don't feel like that right now though.

Reply 10

PremiershipFootballer

1

I know its hard, but you need to think that way or else youll just suffer.

Reply 11

strawberry

13

don't think about the negatives. she's a beautiful girl and she's with YOU and NOBODY ELSE. I know the feeling though, I've had to deal with my best guy buddy being jealous of my boyfriend (at the time), cos my best guy buddy fancied me. I had to reassure my boyfriend again and again that my buddy wouldn't do anything.

just press it down. she chose you, and in that you should be swelling with pride. :smile:

play it cool and don't make it a competition. Chew gum. LOL

Reply 12

Anonymous #1

Ok, try this (it worked with me in place of your gf). We went to this party with my boyfriend and I really did expect him to get jealous with all the guys trying to get me etc. The thing is that he didn't. He just acted normal, maybe even ignored me (SLIGHTLY, not too much) at some moments. It kinda annoyed me, but then I realized that if he doesn't get jealous I love him even more. SO: act like you really don't care and she'll feel slightly bad after a while with all the guys around her and she'll come running to you in the end. Looking a little sad might help, but don't look annoyed, jealous or angry.

Reply 13

Lover_21

The relationship is new so there would be still insecurity issues. Don't get jealous but if you cannot help it then just think she is your girlfriend not anyone elses

Reply 14

zav

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kacas

Hi,

I have been going out with my girlfreind officially for about 2 weeks now, on Friday she want's me to go out with her and her mates.
Her best mate is a guy and they used to fancy each other. And I don't think i deserve her, so I kinda have a jealousy problem that comes and goes, and i'm worried i'm going to be trying to compete with him to make her laugh and things, and the fact i could just get really jelous, which could ruin the whole evening for me, especially as everyone is staying over her house over night, it would just make me paranoid.

I don't really know what i'm looking for....words of wisdom, reassurance, something?
It's making me feel a bit sick now.

Thanks :tsr2:

aww bless mate.
everyone has insecurities but just go out there and have a great time. chat to her best friend you might even get on which would be nice. have a great time and forget whats happened in the past as it does not matter. she choose you over everyone else that likes her and you should be happy but also that just shows how much she likes you. she's not better than you and if she wants to go out with you then you deserve her.

Good luck not that you will need it and remember enjoy yourself :smile:

Jealousy/ Girlfreind and best mate thing- please help!

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