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One for the girls (and guys if you've been in this situation)

I have recently started getting quite friendly with a girl from work (I know everyone says that work relationships are bad news but lets put that aside for a minute). We have been out in town quite a few times and have obviously ended up getting drunk, each time this happens she tells me how much she likes me etc etc. We haven't slept with eachother or anything like that, just kissed a few times. At first I thought it was just the alcohol talking and didn't really think much of it but recently we talked and she admitted she liked me (she was sober this time). The problem is she recently split up with her boyfriend of 3 years and she said that she isn't ready to get involved with anyone else. I totally understand what she is saying but at the same time she's really confusing me by telling me that she likes me but then isn't really interested. What should I do? Should I spend some more time with her and make abit of an effort to get to know her more or just forget about it all?

Reply 1

randdom

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play it by ear it could just be that she wants to wait a bit between relationships to be sure that this isn't just a rebound thing. Keep things nice and casual for a bit and see how it goes.

Reply 2

NViasko

Nah - let her come to you.

Reply 3

Loulee

Anonymous

(I know everyone says that work relationships are bad news but lets put that aside for a minute).

lol i don't believe that, i think work is the best place to meet someone, i met my bf there :biggrin:

go for it! just play it cool and see what happens. if you are seeing her at work etc often enough then if she wants something to happen (and you obv do) then it will
good luck! x

Reply 4

Anonymous #1

OP

That's the thing, most times it's been her thats invited me out to places such as bbq's, nights out or just an afternoon in the pub for a couple of drinks. I've tried to keep our relationship mainly work based but we get on really well, infact I would prefer to talk to her about certain things more than some of my closest male friends. I think we both know thata long term relationship isn't really an option as I leave for uni in September and she also has her own ambitions that could mean that she would also be moving away

Reply 5

Anthonyjm71

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randdom

play it by ear it could just be that she wants to wait a bit between relationships to be sure that this isn't just a rebound thing. Keep things nice and casual for a bit and see how it goes.

I totally agree!!

Reply 6

curryADD

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Anonymous

I have recently started getting quite friendly with a girl from work (I know everyone says that work relationships are bad news but lets put that aside for a minute). We have been out in town quite a few times and have obviously ended up getting drunk, each time this happens she tells me how much she likes me etc etc. We haven't slept with eachother or anything like that, just kissed a few times. At first I thought it was just the alcohol talking and didn't really think much of it but recently we talked and she admitted she liked me (she was sober this time). The problem is she recently split up with her boyfriend of 3 years and she said that she isn't ready to get involved with anyone else. I totally understand what she is saying but at the same time she's really confusing me by telling me that she likes me but then isn't really interested. What should I do? Should I spend some more time with her and make abit of an effort to get to know her more or just forget about it all?

be cool and not pushy. make her WANT a relationship.

Reply 7

PremiershipFootballer

1

NViasko

Nah - let her come to you.

Yea man, let her come to you. Dont rush things, especially cause she's just come out of a relationship. Keep your distance and she'll come to you, just watch. :wink:

Reply 8

ciderpeter

1

Just count yourself lucky that the girl at work who fancies you isn't 56. :frown:

Reply 9

NViasko

PremiershipFootballer

Yea man, let her come to you. Dont rush things, especially cause she's just come out of a relationship. Keep your distance and she'll come to you, just watch. :wink:

Exactly - the chase gives the rush. Part of the male ego/pride too.

Reply 10

El Scotto

15

Anonymous

I have recently started getting quite friendly with a girl from work (I know everyone says that work relationships are bad news but lets put that aside for a minute). We have been out in town quite a few times and have obviously ended up getting drunk, each time this happens she tells me how much she likes me etc etc. We haven't slept with eachother or anything like that, just kissed a few times. At first I thought it was just the alcohol talking and didn't really think much of it but recently we talked and she admitted she liked me (she was sober this time). The problem is she recently split up with her boyfriend of 3 years and she said that she isn't ready to get involved with anyone else. I totally understand what she is saying but at the same time she's really confusing me by telling me that she likes me but then isn't really interested. What should I do? Should I spend some more time with her and make abit of an effort to get to know her more or just forget about it all?

Its not a problem, Dont go asking for commitment of her. go out get drunk again start to flatter her a bit and you should end up in bed.

wheres the problem?

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