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when you know all the good and bad sides of them and still be in absolutely no doubt that you want to be with them.
thats a difficult question...
Reply 3
:dito:

..and when after many years you still get butterflies when you hear or see them.

Or when they're not around and you feel totally lost. Even if you're surrounded by people youre still lonely.

When you realise that they are much much more than just someone you're in a relationship with.
BlackHawk
:dito:

..and when after many years you still get butterflies when you hear or see them.

Or when they're not around and you feel totally lost. Even if you're surrounded by people youre still lonely.

When you realise that they are much much more than just someone you're in a relationship with.


Does that mean you don't think you can be in love with someone if you've only known them a short while?
I mean, I'm not or anything, was just wondering. I know someone who thought she was 'in love' with her boyfriend after knowing him about 2-3 weeks, surely that CANNOT be love?!:confused:
Reply 5
sleepy_person!
Does that mean you don't think you can be in love with someone if you've only known them a short while?
I mean, I'm not or anything, was just wondering. I know someone who thought she was 'in love' with her boyfriend after knowing him about 2-3 weeks, surely that CANNOT be love?!:confused:

Different people feel it in different ways.

I can't describe it, but the old cliche of 'You just know' is very true. I would say that my last two points are true for when I first met my fiance.
Reply 6
The way I always classify these things: knowing you wouldn't change anything about them or wish them any different :smile:

- I feel that's the ultimate classification because it's both subjective and objective. I personally think you only have that feeling when you're with the right person. You can think you're with the right person, but for me ^that is the ultimate test.
sleepy_person!
Does that mean you don't think you can be in love with someone if you've only known them a short while?
I mean, I'm not or anything, was just wondering. I know someone who thought she was 'in love' with her boyfriend after knowing him about 2-3 weeks, surely that CANNOT be love?!:confused:


I dno... atm all anyone can do is come up with cliche one liners (myslef included. bt i spose u may b in love bt u can only truly realise it imo once u truly know them.
Reply 8
BlackHawk
:dito:

..and when after many years you still get butterflies when you hear or see them.

Or when they're not around and you feel totally lost. Even if you're surrounded by people youre still lonely.

When you realise that they are much much more than just someone you're in a relationship with.


Sounds like a poem
Hmmm BlackHawk you may be able to offer a valid oppinion as you are engaged, although I do realise it is different for everyone.

If somebody is in an ultra-commited relationship, like being engaged for example, yet they seem to have no trouble flirting with other guys, then would you say this is because they're not really truly in love/not really happy in their relationship, or because they are so confident in their own relationship they can flirt, knowing that it means nothing?
I don't know if that's true. I fell in love with my other half pretty quickly. I was just mature enough to wait on the feelings and not let them get the better of me. It was pretty obvious that we were in love with each other though.
sleepy_person!
Hmmm BlackHawk you may be able to offer a valid oppinion as you are engaged, although I do realise it is different for everyone.

If somebody is in an ultra-commited relationship, like being engaged for example, yet they seem to have no trouble flirting with other guys, then would you say this is because they're not really truly in love/not really happy in their relationship, or because they are so confident in their own relationship they can flirt, knowing that it means nothing?


I've had this conversation a lot recently, as a friend of mine is due to get married in a few weeks. (He's in his 30s, so by no means immature about the whole thing) He realised, that by being attracted to other women, his heart wasn't in the relationship anymore, so he's left it. He never flirted, but by looking at other woman more than he wanted to look at his other half he realised that he stopped fancying her.

So I would say that it is the former. However, every person is different. Some people see flirting as harmless fun, and they will always view it that way. It's up to both of the people in the relationship to define the boundries. In my relationship, it would be unthinkable as we are so close to one another. I don't even notice people of the opposite sex since I met him, let alone flirt with them.
When they turn you on :wink:
darkfairy
:confused:

People of the opposite sex shouldn't matter if you're gay?

Who said I was gay?
BlackHawk
Who said I was gay?


lol :biggrin:
Reply 15
As everyone said its such a subjective thing. I agree mainly with the fact that you just know and its when you know all their faults and yet still want to be with them, and wouldnt want to change it.
darkfairy
I'm assuming since you said "him", and even if you were bisexual, shouldn't it be

"I don't even notice people of the opposite sex since I met him, let alone flirt with them"?

I'm a woman. I'm engaged to a man.

That better? :p:
BlackHawk
I'm a woman. I'm engaged to a man.

That better? :p:


lol, I don't think people can get past the airplane!
Don't worry about it, you are far from the first person to think that! :biggrin:

I suppose being involved with military type things on TSR isn't very girly. :wink:
Reply 19
sleepy_person!
Hmmm BlackHawk you may be able to offer a valid oppinion as you are engaged, although I do realise it is different for everyone.

If somebody is in an ultra-commited relationship, like being engaged for example, yet they seem to have no trouble flirting with other guys, then would you say this is because they're not really truly in love/not really happy in their relationship, or because they are so confident in their own relationship they can flirt, knowing that it means nothing?


yes I know what you're saying , you'll know when you've strong feeling for someone.Its quite clear to the people that are around you.