Does porn and lit erotica give unrealistic relationship/body/sexual expectations?

haha, I'm gonna assume you're a virgin OP.

Trust me, porn is the ONLY place where sex looks "sexy"

When you start getting laid you will realize how ****ing ugly sex looks. Its a weird combination of things that all look weird. The noises bodies make are also strange. Sex is strange overall.

but o so awesome.

The whole point of porn/literotica is escapism. So you can imagine something that technically isn't possible or illegal or something like that. Not to compare it to real life. if real life girls got ****ed how porn girls got ****ed we'd have a bunch of strange walking females pottering around all the time and mens cocks would be exploding out of their trousers every so often.

One thing that porn definitely does lie about is the girls and the legality and abuse that they are almost always put through and dragged into within the industry.
This is a really good educational video for some of you... I think if you watch porn (which I myself do) you should not avoid watching this.


Edit; if for some reason it won't show, vid is here.

Also to whoever said real sex is not sexy aesthetically - you must be having it wrong.

Cant watch the video but can you explain that point please.

One thing that porn definitely does lie about is the girls and the legality and abuse that they are almost always put through and dragged into within the industry.
This is a really good educational video for some of you... I think if you watch porn (which I myself do) you should not avoid watching this.


Edit; if for some reason it won't show, vid is here.

Also to whoever said real sex is not sexy aesthetically - you must be having it wrong.

Cant watch the video but can you explain that point please.

Of course. To try and put it simply, the porn industry often lies drastically about how the girls* are treated - they can get away with almost anything, or think they can, because these girls are young and impressionable and in that moment they need the money. You will never see these lies on camera. Often the workers may have been abused themselves and can't escape or get into a better life, or they come from dysfunctional backgrounds and again cannot escape this slum-side of life. Studios will say they are using condoms and doing all they can to protect their 'employees' against STDs, they will say that they aren't having any sexual liquids and bodily fluids coming into contact with girls - which is illegal in several states - and they will say other things that will make people buy their stuff. In reality, condoms are very, very rarely used, the girls will have no say over what goes over them, and if you watch the video you will learn how filthy and dangerous a common setting for a shoot really is. It is simply never on camera; you will only hear of it from those who have been fortunate enough to escape from the industry. A girl has little to no power. If she says she won't do anal and she stays within the industry, she will likely eventually be forced to do it or suffer. Rape, trafficking, manipulation and abuse - these are all rife, directors are often pimps. To me it's on the larger side a hideous, hideous industry all for the gain of some '17 year old kid 2000 miles away' who wants to get off. There are safer sides to it all. There are exemptions. But I think anyone who considers the industry 'good' at all and writes off the suffering and abuse of so, so many, needs to wake up and look past their own privilege. <br />
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Have a look at <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.thepinkcross.org/porn-statistics" target="_blank">this page</a>, featured on Shelley's foundation website for a few of their own facts and opinions, but mostly, please watch the video if you do have time. ^^ The outcoming message is invaluable, in my opinion.

And do guys have a say in what they do?
If someone chooses to not do anal, of course it will affect their career, it rightfully should. I couldn't expect a job over anyone else because I refuse to do something which the company wants when many others will.
People do things they wouldn't normally do for money, that's why we have money, I dont think they are any more exploited than someone who needs money so work in mcdonalds.
Sexual health is important but I think some of the responsibility lies on the "actors" if they get infected with an std due to the business not doing what they are lwgally required, sue them. Its not different to factories who don't create a safe work environment.

1) Girls don't really watch porn
2) Girls have strange expectations after read cliched romance novels, such as Twilight.

To be honest, i think all this crap that everyone watches just gives completely wrong messages to society. Everybody wants their partner to look better than everyone else, but in reality, someone will always look better than you, someone will always be prettier than you, someone will always have a better body than you so why get so hooked up on how someone looks? Love isn't about how attractive you find someone, it's about finding someone who will care and love you no matter what. Someone you can trust and knows their priorities, not run after the next hot person they see.
People are shallow, it doesn't go much deeper than looks. We are better than that and worth more than good looks. It shouldn't matter, as long as your hearts in the right place and you do whats right, what could be more beautiful than that? Don't forget that beautiful people are not always good, but good people are always beautiful

I showed inclusivity within my post a few times, the *primary* focus for this post is however on the female workers being the majority of the abused, with many of the men having the power and control within the industry of heterosexual pornography. Don't get all MRA and deny that, that would be a shame.
The case I am mainly referring to is the example from the video, where one of the women who explicitly did not do anal, whose agent promised she would not be doing anal, was then forced to do anal at a job.
I can't believe you are comparing working within McDonalds to being an abused worker exploited in the sex industry?! Can't even justify that ridiculous comparison with a response really.
As to sueing, it simply isn't that complicated. When you're the underdog people will deny everything you say, and the worker will definitely be lower than an underdog. The studios will be so used to smacking people down legally and covering their own selfish, lying faces against court cases. Court cases also require money - which these workers will just not have. It's all very well to say 'just complain' when you're being ****ed with, but in reality most people don't have the agency or ability to complain. It's a shame you are trying so hard to defend something so obviously corrupt. =/



1) Incorrect. 'You/your girl friends'*, perhaps.
2) See above.

But the fact remains that there will be many young men and women who actually judge their potential partners for not matching up to the ideals that they could get from behind the screen, right?
And besides, it's not unrealistic. Take Ryan Gosling or Channing Tatum. Any of the big Hollywood stars

We all know it's Margaret Thatcher, naked, having a cold shower.

...right?