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What to do? [ex Girlfriend Situation]
This is kind of a long story so i'll summarise as much as possible.
I went out with a girl for 6 months, she split with her ex [now her bf] for me and we both fell in love with each other. The problem is, this girl is so weak and very easily influenced. This is where things got messed up because her best friend at uni got jealous that i was spending time with her. Her best mate at uni always gets jealous for no reason, she is like a pyscho sometimes and can be so out of order. So i got the blame for my ex and her best uni mate not being as close anymore. The thing is, my ex treated me so badly, i had cancer a while ago and she was the only person i told due to personal reasons. She didn't even come hospital, she just went out to the zoo that day with someone she hardly knows just because she thought it would make her and her best uni mate closer. [ok this sounds confusing lol].
She also got pregnant once and miscarried and she was happy over it, she said she prayed that would happen. The thing is, this girl is the first person i kissed and slept with, and it doesn't mean anything to her. We broke up a week ago because she missed her ex. So now she is dating her ex and i am certain that when uni starts again in September that she will come back to me. If she was at uni now with me i know she wouldn't of left me. It's like i'm being used. I can't really get over it though, i avoided the whole kissing and sex thing til i met someone i thought i would be with forever but it didn't work out.
What do i do? I travelled 200 miles to see her after work but she just phoned her bf up 5 mins after i left. She says she loves me too but it's gonna be hard if she does come back to me at uni because she would probably end up leaving me again.
1 other problem, she was kinda pressured in splitting up with me because her mum and all her friends think that her bf and her are better together but they don't even know me or seen me so it isn't really fair to say that.
Mmmh shall i just let this go? Or is it worth fighting for, i've been fighting for it way too long now, 3 months of this is way too much, i need to enjoy my hols!
Thanks
I went out with a girl for 6 months, she split with her ex [now her bf] for me and we both fell in love with each other. The problem is, this girl is so weak and very easily influenced. This is where things got messed up because her best friend at uni got jealous that i was spending time with her. Her best mate at uni always gets jealous for no reason, she is like a pyscho sometimes and can be so out of order. So i got the blame for my ex and her best uni mate not being as close anymore. The thing is, my ex treated me so badly, i had cancer a while ago and she was the only person i told due to personal reasons. She didn't even come hospital, she just went out to the zoo that day with someone she hardly knows just because she thought it would make her and her best uni mate closer. [ok this sounds confusing lol].
She also got pregnant once and miscarried and she was happy over it, she said she prayed that would happen. The thing is, this girl is the first person i kissed and slept with, and it doesn't mean anything to her. We broke up a week ago because she missed her ex. So now she is dating her ex and i am certain that when uni starts again in September that she will come back to me. If she was at uni now with me i know she wouldn't of left me. It's like i'm being used. I can't really get over it though, i avoided the whole kissing and sex thing til i met someone i thought i would be with forever but it didn't work out.
What do i do? I travelled 200 miles to see her after work but she just phoned her bf up 5 mins after i left. She says she loves me too but it's gonna be hard if she does come back to me at uni because she would probably end up leaving me again.
1 other problem, she was kinda pressured in splitting up with me because her mum and all her friends think that her bf and her are better together but they don't even know me or seen me so it isn't really fair to say that.
Mmmh shall i just let this go? Or is it worth fighting for, i've been fighting for it way too long now, 3 months of this is way too much, i need to enjoy my hols!
Thanks
I think it is better to let it go. I know how you feel, and how hard it is, but if she does come back she will probobably leave again.
Chin up, and keep your mind busy and off of your ex. Meet other people, get out there, just dont let yourself think about it or youll get upset and depressed
Chin up, and keep your mind busy and off of your ex. Meet other people, get out there, just dont let yourself think about it or youll get upset and depressed
You sound like you've been through a hell of a lot- I think this girl has hurt you too much to get back together with her at Uni. From what you've said- apart from the fact that this is your first close, physical relationship there doesn't seem to be much worth saving. It isn't just her messing you around but her friends as well- I know she must feel torn but it seems like she's made no attempt to stick up for you or to consider your feelings.
I don't think anybody would suggest you get back with her- looking at this from the outside. Particularly if you think being free from her will allow you to enjoy your life in the summer without being confused and hurt- that's definately the right decision to make.
Up to you but that's my opinion- you can find better!
I don't think anybody would suggest you get back with her- looking at this from the outside. Particularly if you think being free from her will allow you to enjoy your life in the summer without being confused and hurt- that's definately the right decision to make.
Up to you but that's my opinion- you can find better!
The thing is though, she is so pretty and when she is nice she is perfect. I never really think people like me like that but she did some how. I just feel that i wont get that opportunity again. I was thinking maybe i should find someone else but then i think that wouldn't be fair on the other person. Damn, this is kind of a mess.
Thanks for the comments though.
Thanks for the comments though.
Just because she is nice on the outside does NOT mean she is nice on the inside. She really sounds horrible. You had CANCER and she didn't care. You lost your virginity to her and she didn't care, and then she dumped you anyway. She completely used you, please don't want to take her back, she won't treat you any better next time, she still won't be there when you need her. You can find someone SO much nicer who actually cares about you. And is also pretty 
im sure ur emotions r likely to be all over the place bt the voice of sense seems to be crying out "leave it!"
Dont cause urself nemore pain
Dont cause urself nemore pain
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Mmmh shall i just let this go? Or is it worth fighting for, i've been fighting for it way too long now, 3 months of this is way too much, i need to enjoy my hols!
Thanks
Mmmh shall i just let this go? Or is it worth fighting for, i've been fighting for it way too long now, 3 months of this is way too much, i need to enjoy my hols!
Thanks
Fighting for her is just gonna push her further away. You cant change how she feels for you, so let her go, and if she misses you, great. If she doesnt, then it wasnt meant to be.
^ I think you're right.
Today we said we wont speak to each other again. She says she hates me now because i found out she cheated on me when we went out and i kinda got
n said that was hoeish n why did she do it.... so it's defo screwed now. I never say things like that... i dunno what came over me 
The reason why she treated me like crap was [this is what she said]:
That she loved me so much that she didn't care about anything or anyone else when she was with me so she used to get pissed off the next day if she spoke to me all night and went work tired. She said i ruined her life for her messing things up with friends. Then she said she would of eventually got back with me if i didn't say what she did was "hoeish"
I've been getting over her for a week or two now and i think i can get through it. Just a shame i didn't know the reason before, then i would of never let her mess things up, i just wanted to spend time with her before uni finished. Damn, i guess it wasn't that good all along and i should move on
Today we said we wont speak to each other again. She says she hates me now because i found out she cheated on me when we went out and i kinda got
n said that was hoeish n why did she do it.... so it's defo screwed now. I never say things like that... i dunno what came over me The reason why she treated me like crap was [this is what she said]:
That she loved me so much that she didn't care about anything or anyone else when she was with me so she used to get pissed off the next day if she spoke to me all night and went work tired. She said i ruined her life for her messing things up with friends. Then she said she would of eventually got back with me if i didn't say what she did was "hoeish"
I've been getting over her for a week or two now and i think i can get through it. Just a shame i didn't know the reason before, then i would of never let her mess things up, i just wanted to spend time with her before uni finished. Damn, i guess it wasn't that good all along and i should move on
Anonymous
The thing is though, she is so pretty and when she is nice she is perfect. I never really think people like me like that but she did some how. I just feel that i wont get that opportunity again. I was thinking maybe i should find someone else but then i think that wouldn't be fair on the other person. Damn, this is kind of a mess.
Thanks for the comments though.
Thanks for the comments though.
How convenient for her.
Hey dude, she sounds like a headcase! She is manipulative and selfish. You will meet someone a hell of a lot nicer sooner or later. Take my advice, she was "hoeish" and you were right to tell her, if you let her get away with that she would only have done it again. You are better rid dude, you sound like a real nice and sensitive guy, you wont have a problem finding a new girl when the time is right.
I would not waste anymore time on her.
She does sound a bit messed up - I take it being at uni she's old enough to sort out some contraceptive options, but she preferred a miscarriage to preventing pregnancy, when she was cheating on the person she was pregnant with! I'd leave her to her craziness, there's so many people who you'll meet at your uni who will treat you so much better.
Forget her, she's not worth it, Bloody oxygen thief. No one deserves to be treated the way she's treated you, its really out of order. If she wants you back when she gets back to uni, tell her where to stick it. She sounds like the kind of girl who likes to have guys just for show and thinks she needs one in every county.
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