Over the weekend my dad was helping my mum up onto some rocks, and accidentally hurt her, it did not look anything major just a minor scratch, if anything it was my fault for not pulling her up as much as my dad was. Anyways, my mum then suddenly shouts out what an evil ******* he is in front of some of our family friends.
From this point onwards, they stopped talking to each other and have not done so for several days now. When i speak to my mum she says he is so selfish and thick skinned that he doesnt care about her anymore. My dad on the other hand is extremely hurt by what she said especially in front of their friends. And as a result both are hoping for an apology off each other, which as far as i can see isnt going to happen on its own.
Both now dont talk to each other, but im especially worried about my dad who is extremely stressed out by his job and really doesnt need this happening at home.
They dont seem to want to sit down and talk things through either, is there anything i can do, or has anyone found themselves in this position before?
They have been married for nearly 24 years and as far as i can rememeber they have never argued like this before.
It may be to do with them as a couple, but could also be related to jobs and or money.
You could say you find the situation unbearable but I guess the "working it out" bit will have to be done by them. You can't be parent to them, telling them what to do. Your mum should be telling the things she tells you to your father, maybe you could say something along these lines.
He doesnt want to sit down and talk in case she starts shouting more abuse, and told me he probably couldn't cope. I'm more worried because my dad has recently been saying things like he is worth more dead than alive, and using phrases such as 'i couldn't take it'. I know it may sound stupid but he is beginning to sound suicidal, so i think you are right maybe there is more going on than i thought.
I'll try and speak to someone about it tomorrow, when neither of them are around.
and say how upset and stuff and run off to your room? there bound to talk and be worried!
u got to use the guilt card! worth a try?