Why Can't I Be Motivated?!

Okay, bit of a long whiny problem but I'm hoping I can find people who have had or have a similar problem.... :smile:

Basically I have no motivation to do anything constructive anymore. I wouldn't say I'm lazy, but if I don't feel like doing it, I won't do it. I just feel that I am really ruining my life & have given up on some good opportunities because of the way I feel.

Firstly there was Uni. I swapped Uni's because I didn't like the first one. No one was bullying or intimidating me or anything like that, I just plain didn't like it. So I moved to the Uni I'm at now. Had problems in my accommodation with bullying (we were the victims) so consequently me & my friend moved out. Since then I have had even less motivation. I have had to defer three out of four of my modules because family/university/emotional issues got the better of me & I had no motivation to work. My lecturers were really understanding & have given me till the end of August to submit the work. I sat down today to try it & I just cannot do it. Maybe because I didn't go to many lectures.... What am I talking about?! Of course it was that! So now I'm all worked up that I can't do the work & that I'm going to have to resit the modules next year. :frown:

I returned home from Uni at the beginning of June & started looking for work. I signed up for an agency but then got offered a job at a womens clothes shop. I quit the day after for reasons that I can't even justify myself. All I know is that I just didn't have the motivation to work everyday.

I'm moody quite a lot of the time & I feel like I treat people around me like **** because of it. I know its not fair.

So yeah. Has anyone ever felt the same or can offer me some advice? xx

Reply 1

Yuki Kashima

Yeah i feel like that quite often it's called depression lol... i say make sure you eat healthily and exercise that's what has helped me out a lot! Oh and maybe treat yourself to something that will make you feel special :smile:

Reply 2

spongepantssquarebob

Kinda have this problem... ment to b lookin for more work but just cant be bother most of the time

exercise does help

If you've got to submit your work in August then getting a job is a really bad idea! It sounds like a mixture of things- depression etc but also procrastination. Just try doing work every day. Set targets, do plans-but not so much so that you then don't get round to doing the work! Honestly, the best thing I can say is do it. Have a few breaks and stuff but try to do a bit each day. I find that getting words out is the hardest part, and that I often have to write a whole first draft of an essay as a 'backup', even though I then start from scratch and don't use what I've written, I need the security of what I call the 'notes all written out draft.'

Reply 5

Pink Lady

And I've felt like I'm ruining my life as well. Start as early as possible, and try to keep things ongoing, so don't start-stop, you need a routine to be effective.

Reply 6

Pink Lady

And I've felt like I'm ruining my life as well. Start as early as possible, and try to keep things ongoing, so don't start-stop, you need a routine to be effective.

Reply 7

Goddess

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exercise does help

As for me, I can't be motivated to do excercise in the first place. I always say to myself that I will do excercises regularly, but most days I end up feeling very lazy. It's the same with my studies, courseworks, homework, etc.

Reply 8

halfoflessthan50p

First thing you do is forgive yourself for being lazy, then decide what you can realistically do, then do it, then feel glad you did it.

et voila!

(sounds so easy doesnt it? :biggrin: