hi I'm a guy whose goling out on a date with a girl to a bar . . but i'm scared that I'll mess things up . .
what do I talk about ?
does anyone know of any conversation starts ?
If your a girl what do you like on dates?
Jus be yourself bud. Try and keep the conversation light, like chatting about interests and jazz like that is always good. Don't overload ure convos with personal info and keep it on light, easy to talk about topics and u'll be great...good luck!
If she starts to ask you questions about your personal life don't give her too much detail. The worst thing you can do at this stage, assuming you don't know her too well, is to start telling her your life story. You want to remain a bit of a mystery to her. Also, I agree with what others have said, always try to stick to fun/light topics as opposed to personal topics. So for example you could talk about things like film, music, interests, travel. Most importantly have fun and don't worry about what she is thinking all the time.
I like guys to be different and interesting on dates. ok that's a bit vague, but i'll tell you what i don't like, guys who have prepared the whole date in their head! ie what they are going to say first, then which subject is a good idea to move on to,.. blah blah. don't rehearse! it's good when you end up talking about the strangest of things that you never thought you would on a first date. just see whatever comes up in conversation. it's annoying when conversation becomes mechanical and its obvious the guy is going through in his head what to say, what to avoid saying, a good thing to say when..., a bad thing to say when... etc. honestly, you will not make a fool out of yourself if you just forget all the things you must do and things you musn't, relax! girls really don't mind if you don't have a super-interesting topic up your sleeve.
oh, and silences don't need to be awkward. sometimes its nice to enjoy a comfortable companiable silence too. what makes a silence awkward is when one of you quickly tries to salvage the conversation by coming up with some crap just to have something to say. if you don't have anything good to say don't say anything at all, honestly its better. that way she doesn't have to respond to whatever crap you just said. crap can be good and funny too though.
finally, you don't need to come up with good subjects, just THINK OUT LOUD.
before anyone says that its hard for guys to be natural and they want to be prepare/listen to tips to feel more confident, i believe everyone has it in them to be a great chat, just let yourself go. forget the "rules".
zain88 Better get good rep for that! Great advice