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I am very down at the moment - my friends are meeting up as a group without me. I saw them tonight outside the pub on the terrace on the way back from the supermarket. This has happened many times now where everyone has been invited out, except me.
I only get invited if one is on their own and bored and suggests something like the cinema or a dance class as they don't want to go alone (also I have a car which is needed to get to these places than the local pub). I keep in contact with them regularly but recently told one in confidence about my relationship problems, I now fear this is gossip which they are having a laugh about.
I know people are entitled to go out as friends but I am not being invited out anymore and feel left out. I take interest in my friend's lives and am sociable. Do you think they are not interested anymore?
I only get invited if one is on their own and bored and suggests something like the cinema or a dance class as they don't want to go alone (also I have a car which is needed to get to these places than the local pub). I keep in contact with them regularly but recently told one in confidence about my relationship problems, I now fear this is gossip which they are having a laugh about.
I know people are entitled to go out as friends but I am not being invited out anymore and feel left out. I take interest in my friend's lives and am sociable. Do you think they are not interested anymore?
Been in that exact situation before. I eventually settled into thinking to heck with them, I know I'm a good person, and an interesting person, and moved onto having a great time without them. I still dont know why it happened, and I now meet up with them all every now and again, but not very often. Find some new friends, some people that appreciate you for who you are.
hard to say without really seeing you all with my own eyes to be honest.
but this is an awful feeling to experience, especially bad is when you hear about a "great night out" like days after, and then get some lame "oh we forgot to ask you" excuse.
doesnt happen so much to me now, as ive moved on and found freinds im closer to, so maybe that is a suggestion...maybe your current freinds arnt really as alike and as close to you as they once where, or you once thought.
also you mention a relationship, is this relationship meaning you dont see your freinds as often? and maybe thats causing friction? also are you male or female? as that could help us in giving advice (dunno why! but it just would!)
but this is an awful feeling to experience, especially bad is when you hear about a "great night out" like days after, and then get some lame "oh we forgot to ask you" excuse.
doesnt happen so much to me now, as ive moved on and found freinds im closer to, so maybe that is a suggestion...maybe your current freinds arnt really as alike and as close to you as they once where, or you once thought.
also you mention a relationship, is this relationship meaning you dont see your freinds as often? and maybe thats causing friction? also are you male or female? as that could help us in giving advice (dunno why! but it just would!)
I am female but I see my friends more than my partner. Don't get to see him much due to work commitments - hit and miss.
I don't understand why people do that! Why do groups of friends be so tight about who's in and who's not?
For a start, don't let them use you for your car anymore. It will make them appreciate when you WERE their friend.
Secondly, if you are at uni, get new friends!
honestly if they don't include you then don't stand up for feeling like that. everyone deserves friends who care for them, include them and remember them and who they can share things with in complete confidence without fearing the trust.
However, they may not be realising they are leaving you out? maybe they all make plans when everyone happens to be together instead of specifically inviting each other? how long have you known them and are you at uni/school/work?
For a start, don't let them use you for your car anymore. It will make them appreciate when you WERE their friend.
Secondly, if you are at uni, get new friends!
honestly if they don't include you then don't stand up for feeling like that. everyone deserves friends who care for them, include them and remember them and who they can share things with in complete confidence without fearing the trust.
However, they may not be realising they are leaving you out? maybe they all make plans when everyone happens to be together instead of specifically inviting each other? how long have you known them and are you at uni/school/work?
I have known them for 6 years since the beginning of 6th form, I doubt it's hard to 'forget' to invite a friend out.
lol... sumtimes your just in the wrong flock... sumtimes i feel that , an once idid, i never really continued because you always had the gut feeling that they would be happier if u werent there... so yeah, dont get hurt... friends can be arseholes...
its good that i got 2 bros though.. i have no problems at all in finding a companion.. lol.. i dont get bored with them either because we always are on the same wavelength, and if we werent, we'd still get things on pretty well...
hehehehe.. maybe u shud have more time wif ure bro and sis (if u hav any)
its good that i got 2 bros though.. i have no problems at all in finding a companion.. lol.. i dont get bored with them either because we always are on the same wavelength, and if we werent, we'd still get things on pretty well...
hehehehe.. maybe u shud have more time wif ure bro and sis (if u hav any)
maybe a good tester would be for you to 'organise' an event, such as a trip somewhere, or a smallish party at your house...
and see if they are firstly keen, and secondly whether they actually turn up to said event.
then if they are not keen, or just dont turn up you can guess the freindships over, and you should try and move on and find new freinds..
but on the other hand you could find that they are all really enthusiastic and pleased that youve arranged something.
a simple 'event' like inviting them to watch a DVD or something would be ideal.
also another thing id like to add, is that appreciating that freinds have other freinds is a hard skill to master (im bad for it myself) and that its easy to feel jelous when freinds are having fun with another circle of freinds, because you want 'your' freinds to yourself...im really bad for this! in some ways id even say (selfishly) that i dont want my freinds to have other freinds...but then when i think logically, obviously a person with only 1 freind would be a very dull person!
not saying you are doing what ive just written (to be honest its your freinds who seem to be in the wrong) but i think in general people find it hard to appreciate that other people have other freinds to be with.
and see if they are firstly keen, and secondly whether they actually turn up to said event.
then if they are not keen, or just dont turn up you can guess the freindships over, and you should try and move on and find new freinds..
but on the other hand you could find that they are all really enthusiastic and pleased that youve arranged something.
a simple 'event' like inviting them to watch a DVD or something would be ideal.
also another thing id like to add, is that appreciating that freinds have other freinds is a hard skill to master (im bad for it myself) and that its easy to feel jelous when freinds are having fun with another circle of freinds, because you want 'your' freinds to yourself...im really bad for this! in some ways id even say (selfishly) that i dont want my freinds to have other freinds...but then when i think logically, obviously a person with only 1 freind would be a very dull person!
not saying you are doing what ive just written (to be honest its your freinds who seem to be in the wrong) but i think in general people find it hard to appreciate that other people have other freinds to be with.
Rooftopcowboy
maybe a good tester would be for you to 'organise' an event, such as a trip somewhere, or a smallish party at your house...
and see if they are firstly keen, and secondly whether they actually turn up to said event.
then if they are not keen, or just dont turn up you can guess the freindships over, and you should try and move on and find new freinds..
but on the other hand you could find that they are all really enthusiastic and pleased that youve arranged something.
a simple 'event' like inviting them to watch a DVD or something would be ideal.
also another thing id like to add, is that appreciating that freinds have other freinds is a hard skill to master (im bad for it myself) and that its easy to feel jelous when freinds are having fun with another circle of freinds, because you want 'your' freinds to yourself...im really bad for this! in some ways id even say (selfishly) that i dont want my freinds to have other freinds...but then when i think logically, obviously a person with only 1 freind would be a very dull person!
not saying you are doing what ive just written (to be honest its your freinds who seem to be in the wrong) but i think in general people find it hard to appreciate that other people have other freinds to be with.
and see if they are firstly keen, and secondly whether they actually turn up to said event.
then if they are not keen, or just dont turn up you can guess the freindships over, and you should try and move on and find new freinds..
but on the other hand you could find that they are all really enthusiastic and pleased that youve arranged something.
a simple 'event' like inviting them to watch a DVD or something would be ideal.
also another thing id like to add, is that appreciating that freinds have other freinds is a hard skill to master (im bad for it myself) and that its easy to feel jelous when freinds are having fun with another circle of freinds, because you want 'your' freinds to yourself...im really bad for this! in some ways id even say (selfishly) that i dont want my freinds to have other freinds...but then when i think logically, obviously a person with only 1 freind would be a very dull person!
not saying you are doing what ive just written (to be honest its your freinds who seem to be in the wrong) but i think in general people find it hard to appreciate that other people have other freinds to be with.
yeah i agree. (this is slightly off-topic, so sorry OP!) You just made me realise that about myself, that I'm just a tiny bit bothered subconsciously about my friends going out with other people, especially people I don't know. Haha, I just remembered that episode of friends where pheobe bumps into an old friend who happens to be a mugger, and when monica and co exclaim at her being friends with a mugger she says "well i'm SORRY that i have friends outside the 6 of US!!!" i don't know why that line has stuck in my head since i saw that.
It happens to everyone now and again. I wouldnt necessarily take it as an insult. Send pointless text message to everyone you know and spend too long on msn and myspace- someone's sure to invite you along then 
And how about organising stuff yourself? If you phone people up and invite them to stuff they'll appreciate it. (And theres no chance you wont get invited
)
I dunno, maybe you just dont get along with them that well because your different or something. In which case, get to know some other people better instead.
And how about organising stuff yourself? If you phone people up and invite them to stuff they'll appreciate it. (And theres no chance you wont get invited
)I dunno, maybe you just dont get along with them that well because your different or something. In which case, get to know some other people better instead.
zain88
yeah i agree. (this is slightly off-topic, so sorry OP!) You just made me realise that about myself, that I'm just a tiny bit bothered subconsciously about my friends going out with other people, especially people I don't know. Haha, I just remembered that episode of friends where pheobe bumps into an old friend who happens to be a mugger, and when monica and co exclaim at her being friends with a mugger she says "well i'm SORRY that i have friends outside the 6 of US!!!" i don't know why that line has stuck in my head since i saw that.
its not a regular thing..its just i think almost everyone gets a bit jelous/weird if a freind mentions some random freind theyve made (that you havent met, or have rarely seen) and starts going on about how great they are...
i think everyone then thinks "he/she likes he/she better than being freinds with me" and gets all neurotic!
anyway back to thread..
Rooftopcowboy
also another thing id like to add, is that appreciating that freinds have other freinds is a hard skill to master (im bad for it myself) and that its easy to feel jelous when freinds are having fun with another circle of freinds, because you want 'your' freinds to yourself...im really bad for this! in some ways id even say (selfishly) that i dont want my freinds to have other freinds...but then when i think logically, obviously a person with only 1 freind would be a very dull person!
haha i know exactly what you mean.
When your best friends are really chummy with someone you dont know you suddenly get like a pang of jealousy and hatred. Almost like when you see your ex with another guy
i feel bad about that too, cant stop myself doing it though
I really feel for you aswell, they seem like nasty pieces of work that you are better off without. Make new friends and move on, they will soon realise they have lost a good friend.
they're "friends"? good gosh find a new bunch! I've been there before. Not a very nice feeling. I just went and found the bunch I'm still with till now 4 years later
They do pay now like treating me to soft drinks when we're out - I made that clear about a year ago that I'm not a free taxi! Just annoys me how I was the 'leader' of the group and have now been kicked out 
just talk to the one youre closest to and ask whats going on if it bothers you this much.
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