Dad might have skin cancer =(

i really i really hope and pray that it isnt skin cancer and that it's something smaller and fixable :hugs:

Reply 2

Barny

17

I know exactly how you feel, 2 months is very early though and you know the deal about the earlier the better.

Reply 3

Lush Law

15

-x-buttercup-x-

It just all sucks! I don't quite know what I expect anyone to say, I just need to know everythings going to be ok, but nobody can know that yet so yeh, sorry for rambling, it's probably because I'm sleepy

I can kind of relate to what you must be going through. When I was in year 12 my mum was diagnosed with skin cancer, but luckily they managed to remove it early on. She didn't need to have chemotherapy, thank god. Basically a mole had turned cancerous but the cancer had spread quite deep (they removed it all in one operation) but waiting for the results of whether it had spread to her lymph glands/organs was dreadful. Her liver test results came back abnormal when it in fact turned out that they weren't. She lost lots of weight in about 2/3 weeks.

All I know is that, for now, you shouldn't assume that your dad has cancer. He might well not and if, worst case scenario, it has returned then you need to be strong for him and reflect on how well you probably coped with it last time and be even stronger this time. It's tough going on anyone, even the strongest of people. My dad is one of these people who refuses to cry. My mum said she's never seen him cry in 22 years of marriage, but he broke down several times while we were waiting for all her results.

There's always lots of people out there who are going through the same thing and who will be there to listen, but right now you should just be positive and optimistic for your dad.

xx

Reply 4

OP

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I'm actually stunned you just said that. I don't even know what to say really..

I thought it was just me feeling over sensitive.

Thankyou everyone, it sounds pathetic but just getting it out makes me feel a bit better, it's crap not being able to talk about things!

Reply 5

amie

RR

same here. My jaw dropped.

Same! It's true I suppose, but maybe not appropriate to bring up :smile:

Buttercup, I have absolutely no experience with these kind of things but I have my fingers crossed for you... I'll be thinking of you, I really hope it turns out okay - you always seem like such a lovely girl in the F&B forum, I feel really genuinely terrible for you. Not in a patronising way. I'm actually not helping at all, so I'll just give hugs: :hugs:

Reply 6

aleathiel

16

Im really sorry you're going through this, my dad was diagnosed with a brain tumour last year and right now he's in a hospice but we're gonna get him home soon and have to look after him 24/7 with the help of carers etc because he's not able to do much for himself, he's had chemo and radio, more chemo but now the docs have told us there's nothing more they can do :frown:

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I ofen think about the days when it all happened but it upsets me too :frown:

my little brother hardly ever talks about it but its getting to him as well.

If you ever need to talk Im just a pm away :hugs:

P.s. I hope your dad will be alright and its not cancer!

Reply 7

Juno

20

And you're still going to use a sunbed?

He's survived it once, so he can probably survive it again. You don't even know that he has got cancer yet. All you can do is be there for him and try to stay strong. Try to stay positive.

Reply 8

OP

Thanks, I must look like a proper attention seeker but I'm honestly not. I need to pull myself together cryings not going to do any good

Reply 9

amie

aleathiel

Im really sorry you're going through this, my dad was diagnosed with a brain tumour last year and right now he's in a hospice but we're gonna get him home soon and have to look after him 24/7 with the help of carers etc because he's not able to do much for himself, he's had chemo and radio, more chemo but now the docs have told us there's nothing more they can do :frown:

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I ofen think about the days when it all happened but it upsets me too :frown:

my little brother hardly ever talks about it but its getting to him as well.

If you ever need to talk Im just a pm away :hugs:

Wow, hugs for you too :frown:

Reply 10

Talya

16

-x-buttercup-x-

I need to pull myself together cryings not going to do any good

Yes it will.

Reply 11

amie

-x-buttercup-x-

Thanks, I must look like a proper attention seeker but I'm honestly not. I need to pull myself together cryings not going to do any good

I find that sometimes a good cry can really help...

Reply 12

aleathiel

16

-x-buttercup-x-

Thanks, I must look like a proper attention seeker but I'm honestly not. I need to pull myself together cryings not going to do any good

it's good to let it out though, have a cry if you need to, it doesnt hurt and it'll make you feel better :hugs:

Reply 13

Unregistered

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Ok this is a bit of a random post, not quite sure why I'm posting it, I've just never really been able to talk about this to friends or family and it's all building up and if I don't say anything it's possible I'll explode. I don't expect anyone to read this/reply, but hopefully just writing it will make me feel better.

Basically, in the summer before I started in year 7 my dad got diagnosed with cancer, hodgkins lymphoma, that day was the worst day of my life, sometimes I just play it out over and over again in my head, I can remember every single little detail, I don't know why I do it because it just gets me really upset. it was a pretty ****ty 8 months, he had the whole chemo, being sick, losing hair and then radiotherapy, and he went into remission, which was cool. 5 years passed, which is about when remission finishes in a way, and it was a big relief.

And now, 7 years after it happened the first time it might be happening all over again, and I seriously don't know what to do, I didn't know any of this until today, but he's had a big like mark on his leg for 2 months and its grown! It's not on a mole or anything, but me and my mum typed skin cancer in on google and it looks just like some of those. The thing is though, he only went to the doctors yesterday! So it's been like that for 2 months, they had to take a sample to get it tested, we don't get the results for 2 weeks, but I'm just dreading it, I just want to cry pretty much all the time, and I know there's no point because there's nothing I can do, my dads scared but he won't talk about it, I used to come downstairs and see him cry and I don't think I can do it again.

It just all sucks! I don't quite know what I expect anyone to say, I just need to know everythings going to be ok, but nobody can know that yet so yeh, sorry for rambling, it's probably because I'm sleepy

Heyy, Two months isn't terrible at all, it's still considered early on even if it is cancer, it could be a skin infection and the doctor is being safe or just a harmless growth.

It must have been so hard to got through what you did and no kind words will ever take back all the pain you had and the worry you have now. Cancer is a scary thing but skin cancer is quite curable and of the many cases i've heard of, so many survive. Just like he did before, he did it once with a bigger and worse kind so he can certainly do it again.

If ever you feel like it's all too much you can definitely pm me xxx

Reply 14

OP

I know you meant well Talya, just seeing it in black and white was a bit upsetting. I'm getting ahead of myself but it's just sods law if it happens again, just after we thought it was over

Aleathiel I'm hugging you back but I don't know where the smiley is!

I hope 2 months is soon enough! Thanks again x

Reply 15

extremelove

i can't pretend to know what this is like cos basically i don't know, but my heart goes out to you, and i hope writing it all out helped xx

p.s plus u seem to have lots of people on here who care alot :smile:

Reply 16

FranzFan

1

My dad was also diagnosed with cancer when i started out in year 7 and he had a 50/50 chance of survival but he pulled through. Then he got Liver cancer 2 years later and he pulled through that even easier. Now he's got a mild form of leukemia which could get worse at any stage but he's just getting on with life and its not affecting him.

I know its hard to take when your dad get's cancer but truly the best thing to do is think positively and from my experience and what i know its usually caught earlier, is easier to treat and is easier to deal with mentally the second time around. I've also heard that thinking positively gives you a better chance of pulling through so really try and cheer your dad up and take any positives you can. For example if it is cancer, it doesn't sound like its a really serious type and with all the medical advancements (like that pill they're inventing to cure cervical cancer-amazing), he's got a great great chance of pulling through and getting clean again. I know its hard but stay positive :smile:

Reply 17

OP