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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    no he goes to my school hes in my year. he's meant to be about 17 but doesnt act it.
    Would you mind telling me why you consider it pertinent what such a blatant cretin thinks of your heritage?
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    (Original post by Markus Angelsdaughter)
    You're embarrased about that? You're a joke.
    UR an idiot, b/c how would YOU feel if people said horrible things about you b/c they didn't like you for what you were??

    You would tell them to get stuffed wouldn't you, but what if you were the only one like that in an area where you felt left out????
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    (Original post by Ron Stoppable)
    :congrats: Perchance, might we then be justified in expecting you - if indeed this is not a fabricated issue - to correctly spell "Filipino"?
    She's only half herself, other half Spanish.
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    im "half and half" and i love it although noone can tell and everyone is really suprised when they see my mum is white. I've never ever once come across anyone who objects to mixes, it just seems such a seriously outdated idea:confused:
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    (Original post by Bluelight)
    im "half and half" and i love it although noone can tell and everyone is really suprised when they see my mum is white. I've never ever once come across anyone who objects to mixes, it just seems such a seriously outdated idea:confused:
    Ok cool

    Good to see others like me.

    That's like how my dad felt! B/c his mum was white and his friends got a real surprise when they went to his house as kids, but he used to love it :confused:

    Both my parents are proud of their heritage, it's why they married each other.

    It's just me who is slightly embarrased about it. My parents are too proud tho, whereas I just want to fit in.
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    I don't think that heritage does define fitting in, i've lived in a 98.7% white town all my life and have only ever had about 2 friends who were non white, I've never felt out of place, sometimes your ethnicity is only as big a deal as you make of it. Being mixed is never something I viewed as negative either infact, i always used to brag about it, because everyone else looked samey in comparison :p:
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    (Original post by Bluelight)
    I don't think that heritage does define fitting in, i've lived in a 98.7% white town all my life and have only ever had about 2 friends who were non white, I've never felt out of place, sometimes your ethnicity is only as big a deal as you make of it. Being mixed is never something I viewed as negative either infact, i always used to brag about it, because everyone else looked samey in comparison :p:
    Seconded!
    and to the OP, I don't know how old you are/ at what stage of your life you are in, but if you are going off to uni or out to the real world soon then things will only get better for you, there's such a mix of people, nice people out there- but things will only be better in your mind if you lose these hang-ups you seem to have about your ethnicity! Please you really have to be happy with who you are, if people pick up on it that you are embaressed etc, then it will always be an awkward subject for them
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    If you are ashamed of your background, you're just giving people who look down on Indians or Filipinos a reason for their beliefs. That's why I hate when people say "I'm X but I'm not like other X people, I don't like them because they are so Y." Then someone else will say "well X people are really Y, my friend is X, he told me so."
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    (Original post by Ting-Ting)
    Wtf!? how is that a gross mix!? So, are you trying to say that all mixed races are 'gross'? A gross mix in my opinion would be the result of beastiality!
    hey, now you offend me! be careful what you say!
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    (Original post by sleepy_person!)
    Seconded!
    and to the OP, I don't know how old you are/ at what stage of your life you are in, but if you are going off to uni or out to the real world soon then things will only get better for you, there's such a mix of people, nice people out there- but things will only be better in your mind if you lose these hang-ups you seem to have about your ethnicity! Please you really have to be happy with who you are, if people pick up on it that you are embaressed etc, then it will always be an awkward subject for them
    I'm only 16!

    I just realised everyone on here is much older than me lol. Or in this forum, a lot of people in their 20s :eek:

    Anyway I'm at school still, but thanks anyway.
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    i think you should start walking around with a brown paper bag over your head. You're right, it is an embarrassing heritage, i really feel for you. Or if that fails and you still get stick, opt for just staying indoors; that way nobody sees what an embarrassment you are and you dont have to take any stick from anyone! Problemo solved!

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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Ok cool

    Good to see others like me.

    That's like how my dad felt! B/c his mum was white and his friends got a real surprise when they went to his house as kids, but he used to love it :confused:

    Both my parents are proud of their heritage, it's why they married each other.

    It's just me who is slightly embarrased about it. My parents are too proud tho, whereas I just want to fit in.
    Well then, that's your own issue. It sounds like you are using your heritage to unwittingly manifest your own insecurities. You sound like a generally insecure person for wanting to "fit in". It seems like race doesn't really come into it, to be honest. It sounds as though it could have been anything, your hair colour/weight/financial situation etc but it was race you focussed on because of what that one randomer said. Maybe you should focus on your own self confidence generally rather than making it an issue about mixed race.
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    I find the OP's mentality really strange, because I'm mixed myself and I've never been embarassed of it, if anything I'm proud! First off there's all the stupid superficial comments people make like 'omgz I love your tan!' but there's also the fact that you're lucky enough to experience and be immersed in two different cultures (3 if you include british as well).
    I know it's cliché to say but don't bother listening to what other people have to say, just ignore them. Who cares? Listen to what Profesh said
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    UR an idiot, b/c how would YOU feel if people said horrible things about you b/c they didn't like you for what you were??

    You would tell them to get stuffed wouldn't you, but what if you were the only one like that in an area where you felt left out????
    Yeah left out out, not embarrassed. There's a subtle difference.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I don't telling people about my background (im mixed race) b/c I'm embarrased about it

    Im scared they might go 'ew thats gross'.

    dad is half indian, mum is half phillipino.
    That's a very interesting, and I'm sure beautiful racial mix. You should not be embarrassed of your ethnicity, this isn't 1950's Mississippi. In actual fact, I think your interesting racial background will make you more appealing to others.

    I would like to know as to where you reside, because it must be an awfully racist area.
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    I'm half Argentinian, half English - so that gets me quite a lot of jeers and general animosity. If anything it makes me more willing to tell people I'm Argentinian!! **** them all! :p: .... I wear my Argentine football top at every opportunity!
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I don't telling people about my background (im mixed race) b/c I'm embarrased about it

    Im scared they might go 'ew thats gross'.

    dad is half indian, mum is half phillipino.

    why be embaressed? being different is part of what will make other people find you interesting.
 
 
 
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