Is it wrong to flirt with a married guy?

I really fancy a guy at my work and I think he fancies me too. We're always looking at eachother and smiling and stuff but we don't chat much because I think we both know it'd be taking it too far.

Is this wrong? I feel bad for having dirty thoughts about a married man but I can't help it!

Reply 1

tbm

13

I think you need to be careful- the last thing you want is to come between this man and his wife and become the 'other' woman, even if that only involves flirting and messing about.

I guess you need to reverse the situation and think about how you'd feel- if you were this guys wife, would you be happy if someone else was flirting with your husband and there was a chance him and her fancied each other? Or would you be angry?

Reply 2

KuinKra

1

Anonymous

I really fancy a guy at my work and I think he fancies me too. We're always looking at eachother and smiling and stuff but we don't chat much because I think we both know it'd be taking it too far.

Is this wrong? I feel bad for having dirty thoughts about a married man but I can't help it!

Yes, it is. If someone is involved with someone else, they are off-limits. The end.

Reply 3

HereFishyFishy

13

Anonymous

I really fancy a guy at my work and I think he fancies me too. We're always looking at eachother and smiling and stuff but we don't chat much because I think we both know it'd be taking it too far.

Is this wrong? I feel bad for having dirty thoughts about a married man but I can't help it!

I'd say it is always ok to have a flirt generally, but it sounds to me like you want more than that. That makes your flirting wrong - on both counts.
It's not wrong to have those sorts of thoughts, as long as they remain in your head.

Reply 4

littlemissalex

13

yes it is wrong. Just think if you were his wife and found out that your husband was flirting with a girl at work, how would you feel? It might be innocent but still, wouldnt you feel betrayed, hurt, disappointed? Its human nature to think these things but do not act upon them because in my opinion, its completely immoral.. If he comes onto you or does anything, resist even if you do want something more. Its never a good idea to get involved with a married guy and dont buy any rubbish about him going to divorce his wife etc cause its a trick to have something on the side - as harsh as that sounds, its true (generalisation but mostly true!).

Reply 5

Sithius

16

Yes.

Reply 6

Sunshine_yellow

yes very wrong

Reply 7

Anonymous #2

Very Wrong. Get Away From Him.

Reply 8

BlackHawk

17

Very very wrong. The fact you are entertaining the idea is wrong. Find someone single, there are plently of single guys out there.

Reply 9

Anonymous #3

the latest thing i heard was a married teacher had an affair with a student and got her pregnant.. im still disgusted by that.. and to imagine, i really liked that teacher and thought he deserved respect etc.. bastard

Reply 10

spongepantssquarebob

2

yes i think it is wrong to flirt with anyone who is married... you should really ask yourself... if their sleazy enough to flirt back, do i want to talk to them....

if yes then...it may not be wrong for you..

i just think married, engaged, long-term relationship = off the market, more fish in the sea blah, blah, blah!

Reply 11

Fluffy

15

If you didn't think there was something morally questionable, then I doubt you would have posted...

That said, affairs happen and people meet their soulmates in this way. So you need to think long and hard before acting - is it a passion thing, or could it be something more.

Are there children involved?

Reply 12

Clarence

14

It is wrong. Don't do it. You wouldn't want the crazy wife involved now would you, not to mention the mother-in-law. Scary.

Reply 13

username47781

20

I agree with everyone else it is very wrong, back away find someone who is not attatched.

Reply 14

MC

1

I'd employ the "no-touch" policy if I was you. Flirting is OK, cheating/adultery is not! :wink:

Reply 15

NViasko

It is a bit wrong..

Reply 16

bunthulhu

14

Yes it is wrong. Don't go screwing up a marriage and breaking the heart of some poor woman you've never even met. You need to back off.

Plus, how do you know you're the only other woman he's looking at in that way? Don't delude yourself that you're necessarily special to him in some way. Is he really the sort of guy you wanna be with if he'd be happy to cheat on his wife, anyway?

Reply 17

Dragon24

17

I wouldn't flirt as a silly friend of mine has done this with a married man and has fallen for him big time. You only get hurt and say if you end up with him you would only worry about him cheating on you. Sounds like a loser if he wants to cheat on his wife. These people want their cake and eat it.

Reply 18

Anonymous #1

OP

Ok, thanks guys. Just to clarify - I don't have any intention of getting any closer but I'm seeing that the general consensus is that even flirting is off limits. I can see why - but it is hard to stop when the guy you like does it back!
Guess I'll have to be strong.

Reply 19

Dragon24

17

I don't agree with workplace relationships - if it goes wrong you have to face these people. Each to their own I guess.

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