something happened saturday night with my mate (a guy, im a girl)
we didn't have sex we were just kissing and groping and stuff, he said he wants a realationship only i think he only said that, he stayed with me untill the early hours knowing he wouldn;t get any
my mates think i need to start being more positive, and liking me, as im so negative and think theres always a bad side like he was joking or it was a bet or a joke,
i dunt know how to start thinking positively i like this guy, ive known him ages, only im confused i think when a guy looks at me that he thinks im a mess, but my mates are saying they eye me up,
its hard i have so many issues how can i start to like myself? without anyone else involved it needs to be me me me,
arghhhh im confused, whats wrong with me?
The only way to start understanding how others can like you is to start loving yourself. Your friends sound like they really care, so why not be honest with them, tell them you want to change, and ask them to get invovled. For example whenever you voice a negative opinion/feeling they give you a slap (not the ideal thing, but my friends tried it with me for a while a fw years ago it makes you realise how negative you really are). Also try asking them what it is they like about you. I used to focus on the fact Im a large person, and therefore why would anyone like me, now Ive realised that although Im not the most aesthetically pleasing person, Ive got a nice personality, and really care about people. Learn to focus on your good bits, and learn to accept your flaws.
Remember your friends love you for who you are, not in spite of it
aww thanx thats really helped my mate said make a list of the things i wanna do/change,
they all love me and i can't accept it, and guys liking me i push them away. without reliasing,
i like this guy but then if i dunt like myself how do i know i really like him,
its really silly i always put myself down,
i do like my legs and hair the only things i like lol