Are my parents being unfair?Watch
Admittedly, we as a family are probably one of the poorest at my school (although it is in a somewhat affluent area), with both my parents on less than £19K, whereas my friends' parents are head teachers, small business owners, lawyers, etc.
To make things simpler, this is what I got from just my parents. On my 16th, I got £60. However, iPhones are in and I am now the only (and I mean only) person in my group of friends without one - most got and iPhone 5 for their 16th - for the ones who didn't it was because they already had a good BB/iPhone 4s/4. The year before that, for me, it was £60 again, then £50, and £40 going back. Everyone else was collecting laptops (usually around 13th/14th birthday), a camera (I think most got these for their 15th), kindles, iPads and TVs along the way. I own none of these. There was also a craze of everyone owning a BlackBerry ~2/3 years ago, I've owned the same Samsung for 4 years, and it was only worth about £50 at the time of purchase (I'd bought it myself).
Now, we're all turning 17. I got £75 this year, whereas everyone else that has had a birthday so far has got their usual accessories (money, clothes, perfume etc.) along with driving lessons. One even has a car.
I don't want to seem like I'm just ungrateful, I recognise that there are some people who get less than me, but I don't feel like it would bankrupt my Mum and Dad to be a bit more generous.
What do people think? Are my parents being unfair, or is it just that all my friends have parents who spoil them?
2 Parental income really is relevant, as well as any previous debt, morgatege etc, making it difficult to compare.
3 I think anyone your age should have a computer if parents could afford one, but I wouldn't make such a statement about an iphone.
also it doesnt matter how much money you have, in school my best friends dad owned his own business and house and everything, and one year bought her 2 small chocolate bars for her birthday (spent about £1 on her)
so be lucky with what you have!
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Your parents aren't being unfair. There will always be the next new thing and you either need to start saving up or accept that you can't have everything you want. Sorry if I sound harsh- lol I currently want a £55 Fair isle jumper.
I think our parents are trying to give you the best they can given their financial income.
I never got a huge amount for Christmas and birthdays. This year I did. I wanted to go to a gig and my parents couldn't think of anything else to get me.
Don't compare yourself to others. You don't know their situation.
If you want more expensive things, buy them yourself. That's what I do. This year, my parents have got me something rather expensive for Christmas, which I am grateful for.
Like I said in the original post, I understand that others get less than me, I know it could be worse and I'm grateful for what I do get - I'm not saying it's right to have all of the things that my friends do, just that they do have that.
Simply, considering they can afford to take themselves to Egypt or Cuba for 2 weeks, do you think they could be a little more generous? That's all I was asking! Just wanted a few opinions.
So you admit your parents don't earn as much as your friends' parents yet you expect the same amount of money spent on you. To be honest even if I do earn lots of money I won't buy my son whatever he wants in the hope he won't be materialistic and selfish as you obviously are.
At no point have I said I expect the same! Or even close! I have simply said: here is what my friends get. Here is what I get. Could they give me a little more? That is all!