Should I phone him?

Last night I went to the party of some family friends and met again a guy I have really liked for a while. We got on well but, due to various circumstances, were unable to exchange contact details and I am unlikely to see him for a long time.

This guy, however, is the son of some family friends and therefore my mum has his home number. Should I just phone him up even though we never actually swapped details? But would phoning randomly be a little weird as we only see these family friends a couple of times a year? I would also rather my mum didn't know that I really like him - is there any feasible excuse I could give for needing to phone him?

I know this sounds like a stupid dilemma, but I really, really like this guy and I thought that he perhaps liked me too last night. This is really my last forseeable chance - should I just risk the potential embarassment of seeming like a bit of a stalker and the possible lifelong humiliation this could bring me in the eyes of these family friends? Am I over-reacting?!

Reply 1

bullyfish

I am unlikely to see him for a long time.

If your not going to see him for ages, could it just be easier to forget about him, even if you do really like him?

Reply 2

username47781

no your not over-reacting, what you got to lose by phoning him.

Reply 3

Dragon24

If you want him go for it! No good being down thinking I wish I would have said something. Be quick though as from experience if you leave it he may get snapped up from someone else!

Good luck :smile:

Reply 4

sweetface.

Well if he and his famliy are friends of your family. Would that cause any problems for your family? If they found out? You said it yourself, thats it's unlikely that you will see him in a long time. It would be really werid if you randomly called him up, he would think your a stalker. So why don't you try to forget about him? There's plently of other guys out there who would love a chance to date you! So why are you waiting on a guy you won't see in a long time? Just try to move on, i know it's hard to but just try it.

I hope everything is okay!

Reply 5

Anonymous #1

Thank you for all your replies - I'm still not sure what to do.

What I meant though was that I won't see him for ages if I don't do something now, so in order to prevent that from happening I would have to phone him! Oh what to do! :confused:

Reply 6

sweetface.

What i posted is what i would do if i were you. But if you really want this last chance to happen for you, then just call him! Just tell him something like i hope you don't mind but my mum gave me your number, i thought it would be nice if we hangout sometime?

Reply 7

Anonymous #1

Perhaps you're right, I should just try to forget about him. The trouble though is that I last saw him some time in March and even though that meant four months without seeing him until yesterday, I couldn't forget about him. I also can't help but sub-consciously compare all the other guys I meet with him.

Reply 8

Anonymous #2

don't worry, when i broke up with me gf, everytime i saw a girl in the street, i turned round thinking it was her!lol

we're back togetha now thank god

Reply 9

sidi

Phone him.Life's too short to have regrets about what you could have done. Try to have some reason for phoning though. Is there something you could have 'forgotten' to ask him?

Reply 10

mortderire

or just say you thought you could meet up some time and chat...

Reply 11

Anonymous #3

I remember I went to a 'party' (I use the term loosely, more a gathering of families) a couple of years ago with my parents and their friends from work. I met a girl there who was absolutely great. We got on so well, like I've never got on with a girl before and she was absolutely stunning (everything in proportion lol, totally natural, no 6 layers of makeup etc.). But like you I got caught up in something else (someones car was buggered that night iirc and I went to help) so never got her number even though I desperately wanted it. Again, like you I didnt want my parents to know I liked her so I just tried to ask some general questions about her family but my parents didnt know them at all. I was absolutely gutted and never saw her again! I remembered that I had met her vaguely at one of these parties before but because they're so god damn boring I rarely ever go to them. For like a year after I went to evey single one in the hope that I met her again :rolleyes:

I'm going to sound like such a sop but I can recall everything about her, her eyes, her hair, her smile, everything we talked about that night etc. Never connected with someone like that in my life and maybe never will but at the time [and still now even though I'm 'over' it] she seemed like perfection. Why am I telling you this story? Well, I have no idea to be honest, maybe it's just a sad excuse for me to think about her again :biggrin:

But I agree with sidi. If you really really liked the guy, get the family's number and call him. As sidi implied, maybe there was an event he was talking about, or you both want to goto an open day or whatever. But make sure you think of one before!

Good luck

It's up to you.

Aaaarrrgh!!!
I phoned in the end! But he wasn't there! I was told though that he'd phone me tomorrow morning!! I just need to think of a suitable question now... :o:

D

I'm glad I phoned in the end as it wasn't nearly as awkward as I thought it might be. Thank you especially to anonymous #3 - you really made up my mind for me and I'm so happy I did it!! I definately feel it would have been a mistake to leave it.

:biggrin:

Reply 14

sidi

Result! Wasn't that worth it? Good luck tomorrow.