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Using guys? Hurting people!
For some reason I always do this to myself, and I hate the fact that I end up hurting people I know I like..
If I like someone I need to have them and I make myself know I will get them, it's always been like that for me. And I really enjoy the chasing and will they-won't they type sex games, it does it for me. But for some reason when I have the guy I want they seem too clingy and blah and I move on.
I recently have been flirting and stuff with this guy who comes into the shop where I work, he's a photographer and a pretty famous surfer (26 I'm 18). Because I know he likes me I have been making myself irrisistable to him and recently he gave me his number so I have been getting to know him. He is so lovely to me and all his mates are really nice and I'm having SO much fun, infact I think I want a relationship with him...
Problem is, my boyfriend (he is 21). I think we are going to break up anyway cause there have been alot of problems but I don't want a relationship with the photographer if it's gonna end up me hurting him!
I'm so messed up over this and both of them have started to notice. I'm not sure what to do!! (sorry for the huge post!)
If I like someone I need to have them and I make myself know I will get them, it's always been like that for me. And I really enjoy the chasing and will they-won't they type sex games, it does it for me. But for some reason when I have the guy I want they seem too clingy and blah and I move on.
I recently have been flirting and stuff with this guy who comes into the shop where I work, he's a photographer and a pretty famous surfer (26 I'm 18). Because I know he likes me I have been making myself irrisistable to him and recently he gave me his number so I have been getting to know him. He is so lovely to me and all his mates are really nice and I'm having SO much fun, infact I think I want a relationship with him...
Problem is, my boyfriend (he is 21). I think we are going to break up anyway cause there have been alot of problems but I don't want a relationship with the photographer if it's gonna end up me hurting him!
I'm so messed up over this and both of them have started to notice. I'm not sure what to do!! (sorry for the huge post!)
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Reply 1
Stop leading blokes on!?
Reply 2
It's not that, cause I like them properly I do honest, it's just I get bored too easily or pick faults with them!
Reply 3
Then you don't deserve them anyway - do them a favour and leave them alone.
Reply 4
You act that way towards guys, while you have a boyfriend? I feel sorry for him. Why don't you just stop messing with these poor guy's heads and just pick someone? Preferably your boyfriend, cause he's the one who really stands to get hurt here.
Reply 5
16
are you a manic depresent (sp?) or just hurt people to make you happy? pick one and stop being slag 
Reply 6
i have the exact same problem. i really enjoy the 'thrill of the chase' but then once i have them, i pick faults with them, or just think they're too clingy.
people say that i play games and i guess i do, and i just don't know why. i only want to be in a relationship if i'm crazy about the person, but it means i end up hurting people. people don't understand, i guess.
i think you should break up with your boyfriend now, and be honest and tell him why. and if this happens again with the photographer, that's just tough.
people say that i play games and i guess i do, and i just don't know why. i only want to be in a relationship if i'm crazy about the person, but it means i end up hurting people. people don't understand, i guess.
i think you should break up with your boyfriend now, and be honest and tell him why. and if this happens again with the photographer, that's just tough.
Reply 7
I am planning on breaking up with Alex (my boyfriend), I just have to wait a little while till he's a little less depressed.
I'm glad that at least someone else here seems to think the same way I do. It's not like I do it just deiberately to hurt people, I just can't help needing to have what I want. And I do genuinely like the people I start seeing.
The photogrpaher is much more laid back, we just had a conversation on the phone about going surfing together in cornwall. I think it might work out but I am going to uni so that's another ****ing stone in the works!
I'm glad that at least someone else here seems to think the same way I do. It's not like I do it just deiberately to hurt people, I just can't help needing to have what I want. And I do genuinely like the people I start seeing.
The photogrpaher is much more laid back, we just had a conversation on the phone about going surfing together in cornwall. I think it might work out but I am going to uni so that's another ****ing stone in the works!
Reply 8
You're doomed to be a homewrecker.
Reply 9
mc_watson87
You're doomed to be a homewrecker.
Only if the men who's homes I wreck wanted ME in the first place....
Reply 10
Anonymous
Only if the men who's homes I wreck wanted ME in the first place....
Well if you actively throw yourselves at them, lie through your teeth, and trick them into actually believing you're a nice person, then how are they to know what you're actually like and that they shouldn't fall for it? It's entirely your own fault.
Here's an idea, maybe your boyfriend's depressed because you're seeing someone else behind his back
Reply 11
mc_watson87
You're doomed to be a homewrecker.
Exactly. People don't realise how many women there are like this. To the OP why don't you do us all a favour and become a lesbian.
Reply 12
14
Tell me. who is this surfer. i know a fair few in the UK (and the world), and if he's well-known ill defo know of him.
:P
:P
Reply 13
Before long you'll come across a guy who wants you for a quick shag and then isn't interested in seeing you again. Then you'll be complaining to everyone about how evil men are.
Reply 14
MagicNMedicine
Before long you'll come across a guy who wants you for a quick shag and then isn't interested in seeing you again. Then you'll be complaining to everyone about how evil men are.
What is wrong with a quick shag anyway? If that happens and I did happen to like the guy then oh well, it's all experience isn't it. Why is it always men who do the one night stands and women who cry about it at home!?
As for telling you who he is, if I did you would know who I am, lol... but I am a very lucky girl!
Reply 15
Anonymous
I just can't help needing to have what I want.
Two words: Self discipline. If I'm running low and feeling naughty I eat an extra cookie or two out of the jar. Not an extra man or two.
I'd also like a car, but you don't see me running round nicking them.
Reply 16
14
Anonymous
What is wrong with a quick shag anyway? If that happens and I did happen to like the guy then oh well, it's all experience isn't it. Why is it always men who do the one night stands and women who cry about it at home!?
As for telling you who he is, if I did you would know who I am, lol... but I am a very lucky girl!
As for telling you who he is, if I did you would know who I am, lol... but I am a very lucky girl!
Go for it. what harm can it do telling me? i'm not going down to cornwall this summer anyhow. hah
Reply 17
bunthulhu
Two words: Self discipline. If I'm running low and feeling naughty I eat an extra cookie or two out of the jar. Not an extra man or two.
I'd also like a car, but you don't see me running round nicking them.
I'd also like a car, but you don't see me running round nicking them.
It's just the way I am, and a man or two doesn't equal a pound or two like your method does!Reply 18
Anonymous
What is wrong with a quick shag anyway? If that happens and I did happen to like the guy then oh well, it's all experience isn't it. Why is it always men who do the one night stands and women who cry about it at home!?
What is wrong with you that makes you think it's okay to lead guys on and send them home upset because you used them? So what if you're a woman? If anything we're meant to be the more caring and sensitive ones. We're not meant to be heartless.
Reply 19
Anonymous It's just the way I am, and a man or two doesn't equal a pound or two like your method does!
It's just the way I am, and a man or two doesn't equal a pound or two like your method does!That's right, it equals another level of sluttiness, a couple more broken hearts, another few STI's, and a load more bad karma. Well done.
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