"Right on sister!" or "Should have let the police deal with it"

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Viva Emptiness
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http://gawker.com/woman-publicly-sha...3297/@neetzanz

Alisha Hessler says she'd never met Gabriel Urena before Saturday night.
Hessler, 20 of Tampa, had gone out clubbing with two friends, and they invited Urena to join them.
On the ride home, Hessler says she and Urena were both in the backseat when he began making unwanted sexual advances toward her.

Advances turned to groping, according to Hessler, and she was eventually forced to strike Urena to get him to stop.
"I did hit him first and then all of a sudden that's when he started beating me repeatedly, punching me," she recalled, "until I had a broken nose and a concussion."
The following morning, Hessler phoned the police and asked to file a report, which she eventually did. She was then taken to a nearby hospital, treated, and released.
It was later that night that Hessler had a sudden change of heart.
Hessler found Urena's Facebook, and saw that he had expressed remorse over the beating.
"Lastnight (sic) was a wake-up call," he wrote. "I seriously need change."
Hessler was moved enough to offer him a way out: She agreed not to press charges if he agreed to sit with a dunce cap near a busy intersection for eight hours holding a sign that read, "I beat women. Honk if I'm a scumbag."
Urena agreed.
"I didn't want him to be locked up for a year. I honestly don't think that would teach him anything," Hessler told My Fox Tampa.
The alternative punishment was not well received by battered women advocate Mindy Murphy.
"There's so many problems with this," she told ABC Action News. "Women die every day at the hands of abusers. Sexual assaults occur every day. The fact that we've got a guy sitting in a dunce cap with a sign on the side of the road really is trivializing a serious issue."
Tampa police have attempted to reach Hessler several times since, but they say she has refused to return their calls.

So, was this an appropriate teaching a lesson to someone who was clearly full or remorse, or something that should have been left to the police to decide?

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i would have let him do it then pressed charges
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HONK!!!
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She was stupid for letting him pass. Because he beat her that seriously, he will do that again to another woman.
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The lucky got a lucky break, he deserved jail for beating someone.
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I think this is a great punishment, I'm a fan of ritual humiliation, but for a lesser crime. Something as serious as this should be left to the courts I think. Making a FB status about seeming sorry is no guarantee whatsoever that he won't be doing it again.
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(Original post by Padwas)
i would have let him do it then pressed charges
What do you think the likelihood is of having him charged for sexual assault?
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What do you think the likelihood is of having him charged for sexual assault?
well start with assault charges then move on to sexual assault.
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well start with assault charges then move on to sexual assault.
What I mean is that it's very unlikely that the police would have pressed charges if she'd let him grope her.
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(Original post by Piko_Piko)
What do you think the likelihood is of having him charged for sexual assault?
I thought he meant let him do the punishment THEN go to the police? :confused:
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No, I think the police should have got involved and he should get a proper punishment. By all means, if he's truly remorseful give him a lesser punishment than someone who's not, but the fact is he did attempt to rape someone and should suffer more severe consequences than a few hours of public humiliation.

Having said that, I'm not going to criticise the woman herself because she was the one actually in that situation, and not me.
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(Original post by Viva Emptiness)
I thought he meant let him do the punishment THEN go to the police? :confused:
yes that is what i meant i just got confused lol
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(Original post by Viva Emptiness)
I think this is a great punishment, I'm a fan of ritual humiliation, but for a lesser crime. Something as serious as this should be left to the courts I think. Making a FB status about seeming sorry is no guarantee whatsoever that he won't be doing it again.
Would you say the same thing if a woman had hit a man?
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(Original post by Viva Emptiness)
I thought he meant let him do the punishment THEN go to the police? :confused:
Ah I get it now.
That would have been the clever thing to do.
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(Original post by Viva Emptiness)
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The guy clearly has problems and needs help. However I think the police should've punished him instead. Her punishment was stupid, and I don't think it will result in any change.
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Ridiculous. Also, this needs a trigger warning, at the very least spoiler the picture.
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Would you say the same thing if a woman had hit a man?
I said it would be a great punishment for a lesser crime e.g if a someone cheats on their partner (man OR woman) and would do anything to get back with them.

OK so cheating isn't a crime, but you get my drift. I have no objections if it's a man or a woman.
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(Original post by Piko_Piko)
Ah I get it now.
That would have been the clever thing to do.
No, that would've been a ****ing stupid thing to do, and it would probably make his problem worse.
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(Original post by Piko_Piko)
What I mean is that it's very unlikely that the police would have pressed charges if she'd let him grope her.
I hardly think she 'let him' grope her. That's at least sexual harassment if not assault, surely?

In response to OP, I'd of pressed charges if it were me.


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I don't think he's remorseful, he just made the Facebook status to avoid prosecution. The punishment was silly; why embarrass yourself like that? I don't understand how people commit beatings or murder, then to say they feel bad. Just don't do it in the first place.

It's like those stupid driving awareness courses after people get done for speeding. Just give me a ticket and I'll pay it, I'm not going to a ****ty course for hours on end and being treated like a child.

It was an easy escape
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