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Dont judge me from this!
OK this is bad and I know its wrong but its happened now but I dont know what to do!
Im a gay lad and open bout it to most people. I have been mates with this lad for 6 years now and always liked him in a strange way :-S Anyway recently we been flirting and he came to mine and thingss happened and all ended in oral. Anyway...doesnt sound too bad at the moment...he now thinks he is bisexual.
BUT he not long finished with his girlfriend...and I go to college with his girlfriend and feel quite guilty
AND I dont know if he just using me as his "**** buddy" and I really dont want that but I like him.
I dont know what to do...what you guys think?
Im a gay lad and open bout it to most people. I have been mates with this lad for 6 years now and always liked him in a strange way :-S Anyway recently we been flirting and he came to mine and thingss happened and all ended in oral. Anyway...doesnt sound too bad at the moment...he now thinks he is bisexual.
BUT he not long finished with his girlfriend...and I go to college with his girlfriend and feel quite guilty
AND I dont know if he just using me as his "**** buddy" and I really dont want that but I like him.
I dont know what to do...what you guys think?
Why don't you ask him?
I'm openly gay too. It's fine. No one will judge you here (except the overly religious types, but they're harmless, and a few idiots, who most people will stand up for you against anyway).
If he's finished with his girlfriend then it's fine but make sure he's ready for it - he might still be insecure about his sexuality (and, if you'll excuse the "judgement", so might you, by the looks of your thread title). Most people have good intentions though. Ask him.
I'm openly gay too. It's fine. No one will judge you here (except the overly religious types, but they're harmless, and a few idiots, who most people will stand up for you against anyway).
If he's finished with his girlfriend then it's fine but make sure he's ready for it - he might still be insecure about his sexuality (and, if you'll excuse the "judgement", so might you, by the looks of your thread title). Most people have good intentions though. Ask him.
Anonymous
OK this is bad and I know its wrong but its happened now but I dont know what to do!
Im a gay lad and open bout it to most people. I have been mates with this lad for 6 years now and always liked him in a strange way :-S Anyway recently we been flirting and he came to mine and thingss happened and all ended in oral. Anyway...doesnt sound too bad at the moment...he now thinks he is bisexual.
BUT he not long finished with his girlfriend...and I go to college with his girlfriend and feel quite guilty
AND I dont know if he just using me as his "**** buddy" and I really dont want that but I like him.
I dont know what to do...what you guys think?
Im a gay lad and open bout it to most people. I have been mates with this lad for 6 years now and always liked him in a strange way :-S Anyway recently we been flirting and he came to mine and thingss happened and all ended in oral. Anyway...doesnt sound too bad at the moment...he now thinks he is bisexual.
BUT he not long finished with his girlfriend...and I go to college with his girlfriend and feel quite guilty
AND I dont know if he just using me as his "**** buddy" and I really dont want that but I like him.
I dont know what to do...what you guys think?
don't worry about it! I wouldn't feel guilty if everything is over between him and her! And if you are his shag buddy, then at least you're gettin something out of it as well
Hrm.. well what's the problem?
Feeling guilty? Well you didn't force him into anything, so there isn't anything to feel guilty for. He acted on his on accord - if he has decided he is bisexual then great! Perhaps you guys could become a little more involved further down the line. If you are feeling guilty about the effect of bringing out any homosexual feelings he may have on others in his life, such as his girlfriend, then once again - he acted on his own accord. You likely haven't done any damage to anyone so there isn't much point in worrying. If you are really worried about the effect your involvement have on everything in his life then perhaps keep it to yourself - if he regrets it then he will do the same and you can sort things out between you quietly.
You shouldn't feel guilty about the choices others choose to make.
Feeling guilty? Well you didn't force him into anything, so there isn't anything to feel guilty for. He acted on his on accord - if he has decided he is bisexual then great! Perhaps you guys could become a little more involved further down the line. If you are feeling guilty about the effect of bringing out any homosexual feelings he may have on others in his life, such as his girlfriend, then once again - he acted on his own accord. You likely haven't done any damage to anyone so there isn't much point in worrying. If you are really worried about the effect your involvement have on everything in his life then perhaps keep it to yourself - if he regrets it then he will do the same and you can sort things out between you quietly.
You shouldn't feel guilty about the choices others choose to make.
He hadnt thought of being bi or gay before! I dont want a **** buddy though I want a relationship again! Its all weird as I never thought it would happen with him!
Well clearly you need to just talk things over with him. If he is now saying that he thinks he might be bisexual then he obviously doesn't resent what happened. Perhaps he would be interested in trying a relationship. If not then attempt to remain friends and don't ever go any further than that ever again.
I'm in the same situation as you except I'm a (bisexual-although hate that word) girl and have a mega crush on a (straight) girl (stuff has happneed between us too)....
To offer you advice... be careful, be very careful and talk to him.
Like with anything in life you have to be a bit sceptical.
Talking to him will (should) help him work out what's going on his wee head and will create a foundtion for the both of you and your relationship.
If a any point you feel like you're going too far or he's not happy, stop. You're well within your rights too. Make sure he knows that too-relationships work both ways.
Also, one last thing, follow your heart (sometimes your head is too sensible), it's usually right and offers good advice.
Good luck.
By the way, stop feeling guilty, life's too short.
To offer you advice... be careful, be very careful and talk to him.
Like with anything in life you have to be a bit sceptical.
Talking to him will (should) help him work out what's going on his wee head and will create a foundtion for the both of you and your relationship.
If a any point you feel like you're going too far or he's not happy, stop. You're well within your rights too. Make sure he knows that too-relationships work both ways.
Also, one last thing, follow your heart (sometimes your head is too sensible), it's usually right and offers good advice.
Good luck.
By the way, stop feeling guilty, life's too short.
OK now he says he enjoyed it but he wants to forget about it and that hes decided hes straight...and thats great and im glad hes decided.
BUT now I feel really stupid and used and im actually quite down. I now think I like him...which is really annoying me. Spose I should be happy he still wants to be good mates with me though
BUT now I feel really stupid and used and im actually quite down. I now think I like him...which is really annoying me. Spose I should be happy he still wants to be good mates with me though
Anonymous
OK this is bad and I know its wrong but its happened now but I dont know what to do!
Im a gay lad and open bout it to most people. I have been mates with this lad for 6 years now and always liked him in a strange way :-S Anyway recently we been flirting and he came to mine and thingss happened and all ended in oral. Anyway...doesnt sound too bad at the moment...he now thinks he is bisexual.
BUT he not long finished with his girlfriend...and I go to college with his girlfriend and feel quite guilty
AND I dont know if he just using me as his "**** buddy" and I really dont want that but I like him.
I dont know what to do...what you guys think?
Im a gay lad and open bout it to most people. I have been mates with this lad for 6 years now and always liked him in a strange way :-S Anyway recently we been flirting and he came to mine and thingss happened and all ended in oral. Anyway...doesnt sound too bad at the moment...he now thinks he is bisexual.
BUT he not long finished with his girlfriend...and I go to college with his girlfriend and feel quite guilty
AND I dont know if he just using me as his "**** buddy" and I really dont want that but I like him.
I dont know what to do...what you guys think?
awww theres no need to feel guilty about it, if they finished with each other then theres no need to worry. it's not as if he has cheated on her. i really doubt he is using you as well, generally if you;ve known someone for that amount of time there is an unliklyhood that he'll be using you to be your **** buddy. maybe he's just confused with himself. i which case i think you should have a heart to heart with him!
kizer
if it's over with his girlfriend, there's no problem
Don't say that - even if he likes the threadstarter like crazy, the threadstarter needs to give him a little space to get over his ex-girlfriend.
Give it a little time, stay close mates, don't take things too far until he knows what's he's doing and it isn't based purely on lust. It would be worst in the long-term for you if after a couple of weeks or a month of messing around, he worked out he preferred his girlfriend and wanted another go with her.
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