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LDR - G/F not expressing herself

Ok we have been in a long distance relationship for 2 months now. Since we got together there was a situation where in person when were alone she would express herself ad show how much she wanted to be with me.
When she was at her home town she showed it now and again.
Now shes gone for a holiday while doing some project work, she has been calling everyday but she doesn't say anything like she misses me or anything.
Just friendly talk and stuff about what she gets up to or what I do.
I expect her to be more open being a girl.
Am I expecting too much? My x would text me when we wouldnt talk to say she would be missing me and stuff.
My gf told me yesterday she would text me today and tell me about her talk she had to present. She didnt text until this evening and forgot about texting me and I kind of took it big and said to her maybe you need time out as u obviously dont express and when you said you will you forgot.

As shes far away and she speaks less I just wish she would make us seem more then friends. Im probably at fault here asking for too much maybe as im living in the past. Im just really confused!

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Reply 1
Anonymous
Ok we have been in a long distance relationship for 2 months now. Since we got together there was a situation where in person when were alone she would express herself ad show how much she wanted to be with me.
When she was at her home town she showed it now and again.
Now shes gone for a holiday while doing some project work, she has been calling everyday but she doesn't say anything like she misses me or anything.
Just friendly talk and stuff about what she gets up to or what I do.
I expect her to be more open being a girl.
Am I expecting too much? My x would text me when we wouldnt talk to say she would be missing me and stuff.
My gf told me yesterday she would text me today and tell me about her talk she had to present. She didnt text until this evening and forgot about texting me and I kind of took it big and said to her maybe you need time out as u obviously dont express and when you said you will you forgot.

As shes far away and she speaks less I just wish she would make us seem more then friends. Im probably at fault here asking for too much maybe as im living in the past. Im just really confused!

Does she need to change or do I need to be more expressive?
Reply 2
i dont think that she really needs to do anything, sometimes people find it harder to be open with people, or maybe she isnt that sentimental.

Anyway, i think that next time when you talk to her, why dont you tell her you miss her and see what she says? maybe she just needed a push.
Reply 3
Mangaroo
i dont think that she really needs to do anything, sometimes people find it harder to be open with people, or maybe she isnt that sentimental.

Anyway, i think that next time when you talk to her, why dont you tell her you miss her and see what she says? maybe she just needed a push.


I've tryed that before and her response was 'awwww' and that was it lol.
Ill try again tommorow.
Do you mean expression as in she doesn't masturbate in front of you?

That's dedication.
Reply 5
Scott Storch
Do you mean expression as in she doesn't masturbate in front of you?

That's dedication.


LoL, no I mean some words to show we are more then just friends.
Reply 6
maybe she doesn't think of you as anything more than friends.
Reply 7
zain88
maybe she doesn't think of you as anything more than friends.


I have mentioned that to her but she sees me as more then friends and she said she calls me everyday, 'shouldnt that say somthing?'

Am I being unreasonable or should I let her express her self when shes ready?
If when shes ready, how long, is long enough of waiting?
Reply 8
Ok well I decided to tell her if she cant treat me like her b/f and only as a friend then we should go seperate ways. She said she needed time to think and to call back in an hour.
I called her back and she said she was busy/hasnt had the time. She said shes going out and she will text me when shes free.

She mentioned theres allot of things going on in her life which she can't talk to me about and will try and email me to explain why she is the way she is. I don't know what to do.
stop being so clingy!
Reply 10
Anonymous
stop being so clingy!


Don't you think a relationship should be about expressing to one another now and again or you can just call it friendship then.
She's admitted shes holding back because of her issues, so why should I risk getting involved in somthing messy which will stop the relationship progressing.
Massive relationship faux pas, comparing her to your ex.
Reply 12
To be honest with you, i have been in a long distance relationship. It's hard to express yourself when your that far away from your loved one. They don't work out! When it comes to showing how they really feel, this guy who i loved told me everything i wanted to hear, but he was not being himslef. After not talking to him for months, in that time i still loved him, i then found out that he already had a girlfirend. This hurt alot, it's best to just have a relationship with someone who lives near you, that way you know how they really feel.
Lyndzxx
To be honest with you, i have been in a long distance relationship. It's hard to express yourself when your that far away from your loved one. They don't work out! When it comes to showing how they really feel, this guy who i loved told me everything i wanted to hear, but he was not being himslef. After not talking to him for months, in that time i still loved him, i then found out that he already had a girlfirend. This hurt alot, it's best to just have a relationship with someone who lives near you, that way you know how they really feel.



Going to have to disagree there ... LDRs do work - sometimes. But you can't become to clingy or paranoid. If it's a new relationship, she may not be used to expressing herself to you. Give it time... and give her space!!
Reply 14
Anonymous
Going to have to disagree there ... LDRs do work - sometimes.

Okay! Fine whatever! Do you have experience of it working out for you? Have you been in one? Yeah they do work out but only a small percentage stay together.
Lyndzxx
Okay! Fine whatever! Do you have experience of it working out for you? Have you been in one? Yeah they do work out but only a small percentage stay together.


Yea, I have experience of it working... very very well. But it takes a lot of trust and commitment.
... mind you, so does any relationship. I guess it either works or it doesn't. (Hmm, just gone completely round in circles!!)
Reply 17
Anonymous
... mind you, so does any relationship. I guess it either works or it doesn't. (Hmm, just gone completely round in circles!!)

Yes true, but LDR's are not just like any other relationships your without them, you don't have that closeness that normal relationships have. If your the anon person in other threads who is bugging me i will report you.
Reply 18
Anonymous
Yea, I have experience of it working... very very well. But it takes a lot of trust and commitment.

Are you still together with them? How long has it been? I had the upmost trust and commitment for them, but i thought he did too, but he was lying to be all along.
I'm not, and I didn't mean to "bug" you in this thread. Sorry. I agree with you that they are not like other relationships, but I was just saying that I've been through a sucessful one.