Boys- How to introduce them to parents?

well, im asian, and in our culture its sometimes considered as nearly suicidal to be seen or hang around with guys. This is not the case all the times, just those who have very strict parents. However, i have quite a lot of friends who are boys, and my parents have found out about this and said if they were decent friends they would come to my house. However, i know if i did this, my parents would just check up on them, thier background and be really inquistive- it would be a nightmare!, and then they would tell me to never see them again.it happened once like this and it was painfully embarrising for me and my firends but its been two years since..how can i introduce my parents to my friends without the risk of WW3 breaking out?? :frown:

anyone??

Wel this is a very dificult situation maybe you could tell your boy friends the situation and tell them the situation. Maybe this will stop your parents digging to deep. Maybe put your parents in touch with one of your mate parents that they'll think they'll like. If anything does turn up sorry i hve no advice.

Reply 3

Alamothih

I had something like this before, when i was slightly younger.

Best thing to do is pick the best of them, not your best friend but the one who is the most "perfect", especially around parents, not too shy can keep a conversation with your parents if need, friendly smiley etc.

Introduce them, your parents love him. Invite him round a few times just the 2 of you maybe a girl mate aswell (i presume their alright?), then after a while invite 1 or 2 guy mates with him. They will be okay with it as your first friend survived alive, and your parents will have an automatic better opinion of all your friends if the first gave a good impression.

Hope that helps :smile:

Reply 4

dh00001

they said they could come so why not try and see? pick a quiet one a first, break them in gently.

reminds me of meet the parents :p:

(no offence :smile:

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Reply 5

zain88

well it's a good thing that they are at least ok with you bringing a guy home in the first place! many asian parents shudder at the thought that their daughter has to sit next to a... boy (*shock horror gasp thunderbolt*) at school.

bring a guy home that can talk to your parents and give a good impression and show them that the kind of guys you hang out with are not criminals/thugs/players etc. Then persist, slowly. The more often you try to bring guys home, the more they will become comfortable with it. But do it slowly and don't be rebellious because it seems your parents are quite chilled out.

Or....... say to your parents, "I know I am very young and don't have much experience of life. Therefore I would like your opinion on my friends, please please meet them and tell me what you think so I know I am not getting badly influenced! I am very worried and need your expert advice as I want to keep on the right track and not become a bad girl."

LMAO :biggrin:

but i honestly think that would work, no joke. it will boost their ego and make them think you respect their judgement more than your own blah blah, it's exactly what they want to hear! and it will totally work. what do you think?

Reply 6

MK_7

lol its exactly like that, yee parents SAY that, and they react didffeent, as the OP said, she's tried it before and it didnt go quite to planso she doesnt want to risk it again. id invite laods of girls and a few boys,,,then slowly oneb one bring them in..